In order to solve the problem of many women's lack of knowledge about sex, experts have put forward ten experiences to help you get into the situation during sex. Let's take a look at what they are. Due to the lack of sexual experience for first-time women, many women do not know how to please their partners in bed.
1. Pleasing yourself is as important as pleasing your partner
Sometimes, women try to accommodate their partner's needs out of fear that he won't be satisfied. However, sex is a two-way street of giving and receiving. If you only focus on satisfying him, you may end up hating "that thing". Women should directly tell their partner what they need without feeling guilty or embarrassed because, in fact, men like women who can enjoy sex. When a man realizes his actions bring pleasure to a woman, it excites him more than anything else.
2. Don't fake orgasms
To please men, some women can convincingly fake orgasms, making it impossible for men to tell the difference. However, when doing so, they don't consider the long-term consequences: if they pretend to orgasm without actually feeling pleasure, it leads the man to repeat his mistaken actions next time, as he mistakenly believes that method makes the woman happy. One woman had such an experience: her partner vigorously rubbed her genital area trying to make her reach orgasm, but it caused her pain instead. She was too embarrassed to tell him that his method was too rough, so she pretended to reach orgasm just to make him stop. Unexpectedly, he used the same rough method every time afterward, causing her increasing pain. In the end, she couldn't bear it anymore and had to tell him the truth. This greatly upset the man, and the woman deeply regretted not explaining it clearly from the beginning.
3. Don't ignore other parts of a man's body
Usually, men seem able to go straight into action without any foreplay and still enjoy it. In reality, this is their own misunderstanding. Touching and teasing can excite men immensely because it's like saying how much you like his body. Some women might feel shy and hesitate to act, but there isn't a single man who doesn't like it when women touch them, so just go ahead boldly and you'll see immediate results. Touching and teasing are simple; just keep sliding your fingers over his entire body, especially his inner thighs and nipples. Sometimes touching his lower area can be a form of teasing. Additionally, women can use their hair, tongue, and eyelashes to enhance the teasing effect.
4. Don't be afraid of sexual fantasies
One woman admitted: every time she has sex with her husband, she imagines it's with Leonardo DiCaprio. This imagination makes her extremely excited, and her husband also enjoys her wild actions. She feels it doesn't matter since she could never really cheat with Matt Damon. Experts say sexual fantasies are healthy because they're not only a great driving force, but what happens in fantasy doesn't have to be real. For example, if a heterosexual man fantasizes about lesbian scenes, it doesn't mean he's gay; if a woman imagines having sex with someone other than her husband, it doesn't mean she wants to cheat. Sexual fantasies simply show that the person has a rich imagination, and this indeed stimulates the sexual experience.
5. Learn to masturbate
Since a male's first ejaculation usually comes from masturbation, the proportion of women doing it is absolutely not low. In fact, masturbation is an effective way to learn because understanding your own body allows you to guide your partner appropriately during sex. Masturbation also has another benefit: you will definitely reach orgasm.
6. Avoid monotony
If you have sex in exactly the same way every night, even if you reach orgasm each time, it will eventually become boring. This is because there's no anticipation left. Take one woman's personal experience: as long as she was on top, grinding her hips in circles against her partner’s groin, she would reach orgasm. So they always did it this way, quickly reaching orgasm and then rushing to finish, resulting in a lack of satisfaction. In fact, it's true that the slower you get to something, the better it tastes. That is, the slower you reach orgasm, the stronger the pleasure. When using the most stimulating position, once you've reached the level of excitement, before reaching orgasm, switch to another position. This not only delays the onset of orgasm but also gives you a chance to discover the fun of other positions.
7. Understand your partner's body
We know that everyone is different, and the same goes for sex. If a woman has previously had sexual experiences with other men, sometimes applying old methods to a new partner is inappropriate. So, how do you understand what your partner likes? This requires careful observation. Of course, some people automatically express their preferences through moaning or shouting, but many may belong to the silent type. At this point, you can listen if his breathing quickens or if he takes a sharp intake of breath; whether his pupils suddenly dilate; if his jaw slackens; and most obviously, if his penis hardens. With such observation, it won't take long to align perfectly with his preferences.
8. Love your body
Among modern women, nine out of ten think they're overweight. During intimate moments, such self-deprecating thoughts sometimes hinder both from enjoying the expected pleasure. For example, someone who thinks their breasts are too small might feel inferior when their partner touches them, unconsciously avoiding his hands or guiding him to other areas. Over time, these signals can confuse the partner and affect the sexual relationship. One woman trained herself to think this way: although her breasts were small, men were still willing to sleep with her, proving that they didn't find any issues with her breasts. As a result, she no longer resisted her partner touching her breasts.
9. Make good use of auxiliary tools
Whether it's adult products or pornographic videos, they are all great tools to enhance sexual pleasure because they can provide many new ideas and increase stimulation. For some people, adult products can even solve problems of sexual disharmony. A woman who found it difficult to reach orgasm had to manually stimulate herself after her partner withdrew, which made her partner feel embarrassed. Later, she bought a pad covered in granules with a hole in the middle for the penis to penetrate. Placing it over her genital area, her partner's every thrust caused the pad to rub against her genital area, bringing her unprecedented pleasure. You can purchase such items through TV shopping or online to avoid unnecessary embarrassment.
10. Peek into others' sex lives
Although peeking is usually bad, sometimes when your own sex life is unsatisfactory, peeking can bring positive energy. Seeing others' happiness can stimulate you to change the current situation. A girl, after breaking up with her boyfriend, couldn't stand seeing her roommate bring men home every night. Finally, she decided to go out and find a new partner herself, and successfully did so. If it weren't for her roommate's influence, she might have locked herself away for a long time, feeling sorry for herself.
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