The little girl knelt and crawled all the way from here to the community gate that day. Xiaomi faces after-sales service capital pressure, and it may cost 15 million yuan to build a Xiaomi Home.
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"A thirteen-year-old girl was seen kneeling on the ground and crawling with her knees near Longwang Residential Area, while her mother was riding an electric bike in front. The little girl is so pitiful, wiping her tears as she crawls forward. This kind of 'hawk mother' education is unacceptable," said Ms. Zhou, a warm-hearted citizen who called our newspaper yesterday.
The little girl crawled for about 200 meters.
"At around 1:00 pm on February 22nd, I passed by this place and saw a little girl with a school bag crawling from a lane corner. People around tried to pull her up, but the girl just kept wiping her tears and didn't dare to stand up. Her mother parked an electric bike at the lane entrance, and the girl crawled all the way there. Then, her mother rode away towards the direction of North Erhuan Road," recalled Ms. Zhou, who was still very angry about what the mother had done.
This morning, the reporter went to Gaiao Community, Dayang Town, Luyang District, where Ms. Zhou mentioned. Entering the gate, a commercial street with shops on both sides came into view. In a dry cleaning store, an aunt described the scene she witnessed herself.
"That little girl crawled out from the alley beside the yellow building ahead, followed by many people who came out to watch. Her mother was riding an electric bike and wearing a navy blue coat." While speaking, the aunt pointed at the intersection and said, "We didn't know what happened at first, guessing that the child might have made a mistake or failed the exam, hence being punished. Anyway, it's too cold outside, and it's not right to make the child crawl like that."
The female owner of a supermarket opposite the dry cleaning store also witnessed this scene. She told the reporter, "There was some standing water at the main entrance of the residential area. When the girl reached there, her mother didn't let her get up, so she waded through the water. I tried to pull her up, but since her mother didn't say anything, the little girl dared not get up either."
It was reported that the girl tore her textbook, which enraged her mother. After scolding her daughter for tearing the book and asking what she was doing going to school if she was going to destroy her books, the mother then punished her by making her crawl on her knees.
Following the neighbor's guidance, the reporter located the girl's home, but no one responded after knocking on the door. Regarding such punishment methods, residents in the neighborhood all expressed disapproval. "It's inevitable for children to make mistakes, and punishment should be reasonable. Moreover, teenagers around ten years old already understand things. Such actions hurt the child's self-esteem too much."
Walking around the scene of the incident, the road was approximately two hundred meters long. It's hard to imagine how a teenager could crawl such a long distance under everyone's eyes.
Most citizens do not agree with this method.
Many citizens' first reaction to the little girl crawling was sympathy. Citizens have mixed opinions on this harsh educational approach. "Children need education when they make mistakes, but this punishment is too severe and too cruel on the child. I don't support this kind of educational method. It might backfire," said Ms. Yang Li. "I am also a mother of a five-year-old child who is very naughty, but I adopt a tolerant attitude."
"In such cold weather, if the knees are frozen, what can be done? The mother will regret it for life," said Ms. Li Shuhua sympathetically. "Such brutal education is unhealthy for the physical and mental development of children, hurting the child's self-esteem and having no benefits for the child's future development."
"Nowadays, there are no shortage of 'tiger dads' and 'wolf moms' in children's education. In our traditional culture, corporal punishment has always existed, and it is said that 'spare the rod and spoil the child.' There is nothing wrong with disciplining children, but the educational method needs improvement. We should focus more on the child's strengths," said Tao Genlin, who works in the field of education. He believes that for children over ten years old, they generally do not make fundamental mistakes; it is often just something impulsive. As long as parents patiently explain to the child, the child can recognize their own mistakes. The purpose of punishment is not to punish for the sake of punishment, but to achieve an incentive effect. This kind of punishment only makes the child fear it and does not necessarily have any educational effect.
■ Expert Opinions
"Expecting your child to become successful" is every parent's wish. During the growth process of a child, family education plays an important role. How should parents educate their children? For this reason, the reporter interviewed psychological experts and educational experts regarding issues related to children's education.
Educating children requires using "heart"
"Some frustration education in family education is necessary, but frustration education is not equivalent to violent education," said Jiang Jun, director of the Anhui Sunshine Mental Health Center and vice president of the Anhui Psychological Counseling Association.
He stated that the girl's mother took some punitive measures from the perspective of educating her child, and such an initial intention is not entirely unreasonable. However, it should be noted that corporal punishment should not be used. Corporal punishment only represents the incompetence of parents in family education. When you raise your hand, please remind yourself: I lack the ability to educate my child and resort to such violent methods. Such reminders will help stabilize your emotions. Corporal punishment can cause psychological trauma to children, leading to feelings of inferiority and self-abandonment, which may stage-impact the healthy psychological growth of children during their life journey.
Jiang Jun suggests that parents should avoid extreme language and behavior when educating children in public places because children also have self-esteem and need to be educated with "heart".
Teaching children kindness with kindness
Mr. Shi Yisheng from Hefei No.6 Middle School believes that for all educators, the primary attitude towards children's mistakes should be tolerance. Only on the basis of tolerance can education achieve its true effect. Of course, tolerance does not mean indulgence. Necessary punishment for children's mistakes is essential. Methods of punishment can include parents failing to fulfill certain promises to their children, temporarily prohibiting children from participating in activities they love, or involving them in household chores they are reluctant to do. The purpose of punishment is to make children experience the cost of mistakes so that they can correct them quickly. The bottom line of punishment is not to harm the physical and mental health of children.
He emphasized that in education, we often say that we should teach children kindness with kindness. However, this mother may teach her child intolerance for the future through her own intolerant behavior, such as her attitude towards her own children or other matters in life, which may have immeasurable effects. The mother's behavior also violates the "Protection of Minors Law". In foreign countries, judicial intervention would definitely be required.
■ Extended Reading
"Tiger Mom" and "Wolf Dad" Educational Experiences
"Tiger Mom" Amy Chua established ten commandments for her two daughters, claiming "to use various high-pressure means such as cursing, threatening, bribing, and luring, demanding that children follow the path chosen by their parents." A seven-year-old girl was forced to practice a piano piece from dinner time until night without being allowed to drink water or go to the toilet. This method of educating children can be seen in most Chinese parents. However, this strict educational method was written in a parenting book by Amy Chua, a Chinese-American professor at Yale University in the United States. The book, titled "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother," sparked a global debate on educational methods between the East and West upon its release.
"Xiao Baiyou, the 'Wolf Dad,' combined traditional Chinese educational methods with his own understanding to create a unique 'Xiao-style educational theory.' In today's era of advocating 'happy education,' he often uses traditional methods such as rods and feather dusters to educate his children. He firmly believes that children growing up and developing in China must be educated through traditional educational methods."