I. Making children take the initiative to do homework
Your child is very obedient, like a gentle horse, but people often say "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink." Indeed, unless the horse is thirsty, even if you can bring it to the water's edge, it won't drink voluntarily.
First strategy: Homework time should not be too long.
Second strategy: Amplify the child's strengths.
Third strategy: Learning should not be rushed.
Fourth strategy: Let him bring the girl he likes home.
Fifth strategy: Let the child play to their heart's content first.
Sixth strategy: Stimulate her and make him go all out.
Seventh strategy: Speak positively but mean the opposite.
Eighth strategy: Change the learning environment frequently.
Ninth strategy: Create a homework schedule.
Tenth strategy: Let the child start with the subject they are good at.
Eleventh strategy: Let the child decide by drawing lots themselves.
Twelfth strategy: Do not criticize teachers in front of the child.
II. How to make children listen and understand
When communicating with your child, you must listen carefully to what they say, making them feel that their parents value and respect them. This way, the child's little sense of self-respect will be established. They will also, in conversations with adults, seriously consider what they think and do, express their opinions, which will help develop their rational thinking habits. Of course, when adults communicate with children, they should also pay attention to some details so as to establish good communication more quickly.
First strategy: Praise the child through a third party.
Second strategy: Exchange feelings with the child through letters or diaries.
Third strategy: Talk in a peaceful tone.
Fourth strategy: Let the child know promptly where they went wrong.
Fifth strategy: Cleverly shift the child's attention.
Sixth strategy: Blend in with the child.
Seventh strategy: Only explain one thing at a time.
Eighth strategy: Express trust in the child frequently.
Ninth strategy: Only offer constructive advice.
Tenth strategy: Do not blame the child when they have failed.
Eleventh strategy: Correct the child's poor living habits in time.
Twelfth strategy: Use more praise to affirm the child.
III. How to guide children to take the initiative spontaneously
There is a principle of saturation, which is the inherent annoyance of children. Although they may strongly desire to achieve goals and experience the joy of finishing tasks, due to numerous courses, resistance arises internally, preventing them from continuing to act proactively. If the requirements are lowered and the amount of homework reduced, while continuously cultivating the child's vitality during low periods, after the low period passes, they will regain a sense of responsibility and become more proactive in doing their homework.
First strategy: Appropriately lower the demands on the child.
Second strategy: Let the child tackle the subjects they dislike first.
Third strategy: Use the same steps to strengthen motivation.
Fourth strategy: Let the child endure a bit of hardship first.
Fifth strategy: Interest is the best teacher.
Sixth strategy: A mother's encouragement is most important.
Seventh strategy: To change the child, change your attitude first.
Eighth strategy: Occasionally speak to the child using evidence-based requests.
Ninth strategy: Do not scold the child harshly when they fail.
Tenth strategy: Giving the child appropriate rewards is also highly effective.
Eleventh strategy: Take the child closer to nature more often.
Twelfth strategy: Success isn't as difficult as you imagine.
Thirteenth strategy: Cultivate the child's ability to encourage themselves actively.
Fourteenth strategy: Turn anger into learning energy.
IV. How to teach children to manage their emotions
Adolescents often have dissatisfaction with their parents because the self-demands that come with growth always conflict with the rules set by their parents. Parents must work hard to overcome these transitional difficulties so that the child grows up smoothly.
First strategy: Guide the child to vent their dissatisfaction.
Second strategy: Give the child the right to choose their own topics.
Third strategy: Listen carefully to the child's complaints.
Fourth strategy: Replace the customer role with the child.
Fifth strategy: Do not let being busy be an excuse for you.
Sixth strategy: Handle the child's unreasonable requests democratically.
Seventh strategy: Persuade through retreat.
Eighth strategy: Handle impulsive attitudes by explaining practical pros and cons.
Ninth strategy: Pay attention to guiding the child's herd mentality.
Tenth strategy: Give the child a space to vent.
V. How to make children love learning
Under the cramming education model, learning itself is a process of standardization, sometimes without much consideration for whether the child likes it or not. Regardless of whether the child is interested in learning, they still have to sit in front of the desk and read the textbook repeatedly. This is also a reason why children lose interest in studying.
First strategy: Tell the child more inspiring stories.
Second strategy: Encourage the child with short-term learning goals.
Third strategy: Distracting the child's attention is also important.
Fourth strategy: Break the habit of losing interest quickly.
Fifth strategy: Promote learning by promoting appetite.
Sixth strategy: Teach the child to conserve their strength.
Seventh strategy: Moderate exercise can make the child's mind more agile.
Eighth strategy: Use the method of provocation to promote learning.
Ninth strategy: Use crisis awareness to improve learning efficiency.
Tenth strategy: Keep the learning content fresh.
Eleventh strategy: Regulate the study atmosphere with different subjects.
Twelfth strategy: Deliberately change the child's learning environment.
VI. How to relieve the child's stress related to learning
As parents, we must deeply understand this and give the child appropriate guidance and comfort, allowing them to remove the anxiety of gain and loss, and often use an optimistic and humorous tone to relieve the fear hidden in their hearts, giving them high confidence and courage to face the challenges that come one after another.
First strategy: Accompany the child to give them a sense of security.
Second strategy: Lighten the child's failures with an optimistic and humorous tone.
Third strategy: Say a month is thirty days.
Fourth strategy: Pay more attention to the importance of psychological construction for the child.
Fifth strategy: Breathing can regulate the child's emotions.
Sixth strategy: Deliberately say the wrong thing in front of the child.
Seventh strategy: Lucky charms stabilize the mood.
Eighth strategy: Vent worries to eliminate tension and speak freely.
VII. How to make the child focus their attention
The mother should appropriately adjust the pace of homework instead of sticking to a fixed plan, thus achieving comprehensive performance. Some children even read books while envying others playing happily, harboring dissatisfaction in their hearts, which will affect their interest in reading later.
First strategy: The art of indirect hints.
Second strategy: Make an irregular segmented timetable.
Third strategy: The magic of an alarm clock.
Fourth strategy: Build a flexible homework schedule.
Fifth strategy: Remove the slack mindset of "it can be done anytime."
Sixth strategy: Deliberately and moderately assign the child to do housework.
Seventh strategy: Let the child guess questions to enhance test attention.
Eighth strategy: Warm-up is indispensable.
Ninth strategy: Use "quantity" to drive progress.
VIII. How to eliminate the child's confusion about learning
For mothers, trivial matters that seem unimportant are sometimes heavy burdens in the child's heart. Therefore, mothers should always empathize with the child and, as an observer, help the child solve problems in life.
First strategy: Guide the child to make the most accurate choice.
Second strategy: Inductive questioning when choosing.
Third strategy: Ask clever questions with one option as a condition.
Fourth strategy: The milk of a black cow is white too.
Fifth strategy: Clear the fog of confusion when encountering issues.
Sixth strategy: Does the ship naturally straighten at the bridge?
Seventh strategy: Personal experience is the deepest.
Eighth strategy: Fate is hidden in our thoughts.
IX. How to turn a child's negativity into positivity
Life can lack many things, but hope cannot be missing. Where there is hope, life continues endlessly! For children, we need to encourage them constantly and prevent them from developing negative emotions.
First strategy: Find the internal cause of the child's negativity.
Second strategy: Let the child publicly announce their goals.
Third strategy: A strong physique is the foundation of a positive attitude.
Fourth strategy: Good living habits are treasures to maintain a positive mindset.
Fifth strategy: Let the child develop the habit of reading aloud.
Sixth strategy: Let the child develop the habit of arriving early at school.
Seventh strategy: Let the child make friends with positive and optimistic people.
Eighth strategy: Let the child develop the habit of writing large characters.
Ninth strategy: Let the child do some housework to get rid of depression.
Tenth strategy: Encourage the child to try new things.
Eleventh strategy: Let the child cultivate a sense of responsibility through housework.
Twelfth strategy: Do not always ask yes or no questions.
Thirteenth strategy: Cultivate the child's proactive attitude of tracing the root cause.
Fourteenth strategy: More praise and less criticism make the child more proactive.
X. How to cultivate the child's self-confidence
The value of life depends on ourselves! Tell the child that as an independent individual, they are unique and should never forget this. Let the child know the value of their existence, strengthen their confidence, and strive harder to create their personality and future.
First strategy: Tell the child that they are invaluable.
Second strategy: Let the child do easy things.
Third strategy: Downplay the child's mistakes and highlight their achievements.
Fourth strategy: Value the effort the child has put in.
Fifth strategy: Praise before blaming the child.
Sixth strategy: Strengthen the child's strengths to keep them striving forward.
Seventh strategy: Use high goals to build the child's self-confidence.
Eighth strategy: Establish mutual trust with the child using "original dependence."
Ninth strategy: Parents should not criticize each other in front of the child.
Tenth strategy: Do not scold the child in front of a third party.
Eleventh strategy: Let the child believe that the god of luck can come at any time.
Twelfth strategy: Let the child recall past achievements to rebuild confidence.
XI. How to eliminate the child's inferiority complex
Eliminating the sense of superiority and cultivating self-confidence are two sides of the same coin and must complement each other. However, the skills mentioned in previous chapters for building self-confidence are not specifically aimed at children with poor abilities. In other words, for children with flaws or poor grades, these skills often fail to function. This chapter differs from the previous one and can be widely applied to children with poor abilities.
First strategy: From "defect awareness" to full acceptance.
Second strategy: Affirmative sentences should be used frequently.
Third strategy: Conversations between mothers and children should also be skillful.
Fourth strategy: Relieve the child's inner knots with specific reasons.
Fifth strategy: Remove the child's psychological barriers with words.
Sixth strategy: Let the child read biographies of world giants.
Seventh strategy: Let the child objectively face classmates who perform well.
Eighth strategy: Cultivate some special talents in the child.
Ninth strategy: Weaken the child's sense of superiority by talking about fortune.
XII. How to turn the child's weaknesses into strengths
Since mothers often remind and correct the child's shortcomings, the child is aware of them. However, children with high self-requirements often worry about their own flaws. Thus, direct scolding from mothers often leads to counterproductive results, making them even less confident.
First strategy: Address the child's flaws appropriately.
Second strategy: Criticize other children's mistakes in front of your child.
Third strategy: Distinguish between flaws and personality traits.
Fourth strategy: Change the child's attitude to make them self-disciplined.
Fifth strategy: The child's flaws and strengths can be interchangeable.
Sixth strategy: Indirectly resolve the child's unsatisfied desires.
Seventh strategy: Use moderate punishment or threat hints effectively.
Eighth strategy: Whisper hints about the child's flaws.
Ninth strategy: Avoid suppressing the child's resistance with authority.
Tenth strategy: Encourage the child to attempt more challenging tasks.
Eleventh strategy: You can do it, child.