In the face of unforeseen and omnipresent unspoken rules, especially under the condition of lacking explicit rules, how should white collars deal with these implicit rules? Reporters from Southern Television Station have collected some experts' opinions and organized some methods to deal with the unspoken rules according to domestic and overseas public data. Some skills in TVS are quite good and can be used as reference by white collars. 1) Think over from others' perspective and self-examine at any time. There is always a reason for everything. When encountering cold violence, you'd better find out the reasons from yourself. Try to stand on others' shoes and look at yourself, learn to self-reflect, and prevent colleagues from being hostile to you. Most of the time, if you don't adapt to office politics, it's not because your colleagues have problems, but probably because you have problems. 2) Make efforts to adapt and improve your own "immunity". Attitudes of colleagues towards you are often just your own assumptions. Being overly sensitive to others' attitudes will easily hurt yourself. If you respond with the same attitude, then a vicious circle will form. Any person entering a working position will have aspirations and fantasies about new work life, cold violence will splash us with a bucket of cold water, which is very normal. Cold violence can not absolutely disappear. We must have this realization that nothing unusual happens here. 3) Respond positively. Don't wait until you can't help yourself anymore before solving the problem, instead, when you are frustrated for the first time in the workplace, you should actively consider solutions, at least you should have an awareness to respond positively. Active communication and positive communication are especially important. In fact, whoever takes the initiative first in the cold violence battle will be the winner. And this communication must be active, not for the sake of communication. You should be open and honest, and discuss issues. 4) Do not impose on others what you do not desire. You don't like being ignored or excluded, similarly, others don't like it either. To avoid office cold violence, first of all, don't become a "perpetrator" yourself. 5) Stay optimistic. You should know that emotions are contagious, and happiness is no exception. In an environment full of pleasant atmosphere, who still has the mood to plot small conspiracies? Face workplace cold violence with equanimity, non-resistance is the best resistance. Before figuring out what happened, we'd better not care and do what we should do, and don't take it to heart. Always keep an optimistic attitude. 6) Think about win-win. Interest conflict is one of the causes of company politics. We know that there must be someone who wins and someone who loses. We worry about others' winning, because that may imply that we are the ones who lose. In fact, the world is not so. Try to think about the problems from the perspective of "how to achieve win-win in the same situation", which requires you to first understand other people's interests in this situation, secondly understand your own interests, and try to make both parties accept and benefit mutually. 7) Understand others first, then seek to be understood. It's strange that once one side feels that he is understood, he will become more open to you. To reach a win-win situation, it is difficult without mutual understanding. The above are the methods prepared by the career forum to deal with the unspoken rules in the workplace, let's learn together. Data from: http://orange.hitvs.cn/bbs/BBSTopicRead-lounge-379697-1.htm