Ten kinds of love that men long for from women
1. Show him more respect
From terms like "big man", "man of the house", "big guy", "little woman", and "little wife", we can see that a man usually occupies a central position in the family. From ancient times to the present, the Chinese family model has been "men working outside, women managing inside". Therefore, people often refer to women as "inside person", "inside wife", or "virtuous helper".
So, women should not engage in power struggles with men within the family. It might be better to give the family sovereignty to the man, allowing the husband more self-respect, making him a dignified man both at home and outside. Let him feel he is a man at all times, with pride and dignity. Never let your husband become a "wimp" or a "doormat".
A man is a woman's sky, the backbone of the family, a status that cannot be replaced by a woman. Therefore, good women always give their husbands more self-respect, allowing their husbands to stand tall and be real men.
2. Show him more trust
In a larger sense, men have their own careers; in a smaller sense, men need to support the family. For the sake of the family, they have to constantly move around outside, dealing with people of different genders, ages, and identities.
As a wife, you should fully trust your husband. There's no need to be suspicious if he talks more with some women; there's no need to worry why he doesn't come home often. If he says he's busy, believe he really is. Don't suspect he's lying to you. Even if you track his phone and hear that he's in a high-end hotel celebrating, still believe that this is normal socializing, not him seeking leisure elsewhere.
As a wife, don't doubt unnecessarily, and definitely don't accuse your husband. Believe that your husband is merely engaging in occasional social activities outside, but ultimately, he loves you.
3. Show him more tolerance
Tolerance is mainly needed when your husband has flaws, makes mistakes, or does something wrong to you. Personally, I find it easier said than done because to be tolerant, one must first remain calm and rational.
Women are often emotional. Slight dissatisfaction can lead to loss of control over emotions (emotional blogs, emotional talk), showing impulsiveness and small temperaments. Added to this, women may lack broad-mindedness, so whenever the husband wrongs them, they feel they are the most pitiful person in the world, the biggest victim, and the most painful one. As a result, they seek justice out of resentment, even escalating their tantrums. Unknowingly, this forces the husband down a path of heartlessness.
Pragmatism is wisdom. Even if the husband does something wrong, you must calmly consider, weigh the pros and cons, and manage the degree of conflict with your husband. Softly yet firmly, using gentleness to overcome hardness. As a wife, you might as well give your husband more understanding and tolerance. Your tolerance will move him, make him feel guilty. Only guilt leads to repentance; only gratitude leads to reciprocation.
4. Show him more care
Caring for a man isn't just about ensuring his material comfort; it's mainly about caring for his inner world. Fully understand what your husband needs, what he truly likes. Catering to his preferences isn't just about indulgence; it's about helping your husband achieve his desires and values.
If a woman never understands her husband throughout her life, she is truly a tragic woman.
If you say what your husband wants to say, do what your husband wants to do, and let your husband get everything he wants, I believe your husband won't look for satisfaction elsewhere.
Interpersonal relationships are mainly about communication between hearts, especially between spouses. Heartfelt understanding isn't just about mutual tacit understanding; it's more importantly about a woman's insight into a man's inner world. To achieve foresight, a woman needs sharp observation, careful appreciation, and timely spiritual resonance.
5. Show him more understanding
Men also have their own grievances and difficulties, especially since men bear the important mission of continuing the family line and enhancing the family name within the family. They inevitably take on more responsibilities and tasks than women. As a wife, learn to understand your husband. When a woman marries a man, remember that you're not just marrying him as an individual but also marrying the entire background behind him. You should actively consider yourself an important member of this big family, conscientiously fulfilling your due responsibilities without calculating personal gains and losses. In fact, as part of the same family, whoever benefits is the same. Once lost, it's the loss of the entire family.
Understanding your husband gives him a stepping stone to overcome obstacles; understanding your husband provides him with an umbrella to shield against wind and rain. Understanding your husband means giving him more sympathy, more compassion, and more support.
6. Show him more cherishment
Actually, men are also fragile. They have seven emotions and six desires, rich feelings (emotional blog, emotional talk). A wife should not only see the strong side of her husband but, more importantly, protect the vulnerable side of his personality. When the husband encounters setbacks outside, home is the only place he can find solace. As a wife, don't mock his incompetence. At this time, he most needs your comfort and encouragement.
When the husband is physically and mentally exhausted, use your enthusiasm to revive his confidence; use your tenderness to help him relax; use your passion to burn away his embarrassment and despair.
A man's youth is rejuvenated through a woman. Without a woman giving a man warmth like sunshine, a man will never forever bask in spring light and will never achieve complete success.
7. Give him more assistance
A wife is a "virtuous helper." This "help" is not only about supporting him in his career but more importantly about solving his worries. Show more filial piety to his parents on his behalf; fulfill more duties towards his children. Let him abandon all selfish thoughts and focus entirely on his career. This is the true support a wife gives to her husband.
In the journey of life, you can help him steer and paddle; in hardships, you can share with him. Supporting your husband means relieving his worries when he's troubled, helping him make clear judgments when he's overly excited about success, helping him find his place, and giving him strength with your delicate arms at critical moments.
Career success is the true success of a man. A man's success comes from his wife's unwavering support and selfless dedication.
"Behind every successful man stands a great woman," this is the highest reward for a woman.
8. Give him more space
Men have their own worlds. He has his own interests and hobbies, etc. A woman should never force her husband to change his nature for her; nor should she stifle his personality. Give him a free space, let him have a sky to spread his wings.
Remember, no matter how wonderful the outside world is, it's just a series of small rest stops. The eternal haven for a weary man is always the warm home.
Guarding your home is like lighting a gentle lamp for your husband, keeping a door open for him forever. Use the light of the lamp to guide him, so he doesn't lose direction; keep the door open, filling his harbor with warmth.
Since a man is the sky above a woman, give him wings to let him fly. No matter how high or far a kite flies, you don't need to worry because the string is tightly held in your hand.
9. Give him more praise
Although "honest advice may be unpleasant to hear, and bitter medicine may be hard to swallow," vanity and self-respect are human nature, so most people like to hear flattering words. Using praise to subtly evaluate is easier for people to accept than direct criticism.
Therefore, as a wife, you should view your husband's strengths with a magnifying glass; view his faults with a microscope; and perceive his love with a telescope.
"A kind word can warm three winters, while harsh words can chill even June." Every time your husband achieves success, applaud him with praising words. Even if he merely corrects a small flaw, exaggerate his progress. Let him mature in the sound of praise.
10. Give him more smiles
"A smile can erase all grudges." Your smile can bring warmth to your husband, making his heart feel as bright as basking in sunlight.
He will see your sincere love in your smile; he will see motherly kindness in your smile. Your smile can melt cold indifference; your smile can eliminate all resentment. Your smile can make him feel comfortable; your smile can make him always confident.
"A glance back brings a hundred enchantments." A smile is a blooming flower; a smile is a fruitful harvest; a smile is a cool breeze in summer; a smile is the sun in winter. Face everything with your smile.
True love is a kind of giving without expecting return. Women, living for men, are actually living for themselves. Because in the process of giving everything to your husband, you have already realized your own value.