Recently, some friends have added me on QQ, but after adding me, they didn't initiate a chat with me. No matter what content you need or what help you want from me, if you don't take the initiative to talk to me, I won't possibly reach out and ask how I can help because I am also very busy with limited time. I need to study and take care of my own affairs. Sometimes, I don't have much time to attend to friends who need help. Here, Xiaolong apologizes to everyone, sorry. Beijing Zhigao Air Conditioning Repair Phone.
However, for those friends who take the initiative to chat with me, I have given them practical and effective help, including free and paid services. As long as I can help them, I will try my best. For issues involving confidentiality and principles, I cannot help them. Therefore, please those who added my QQ, if you see this diary and haven't chatted with me yet, and I haven't solved your problem, then hurry up and start a conversation with me. I am easy-going and willing to help everyone solve problems.
Some internet experts, how do they learn? Is it the same as everyone else when they find someone who can help them and guide them, and know their contact information, only to jot it down and leave it at that? I believe everyone's answer would be no. Internet experts wouldn't miss any opportunity to help themselves, opportunities that could possibly change their lives. What would they do? They would take immediate action, not just staying at the level of having resources in hand but not knowing how to use them. Let me clarify, I'm just sharing some learning methods here, there's no flattery or belittling involved.
Everyone cares about how they actually learn. First, when they encounter someone stronger than themselves, they humbly seek advice from those people. And instead of thinking about what value they can get from those people, they first give. Do you understand why they give first? Think about it, when we want something valuable, isn't it natural to give first? For example, if we need to go to a school to handle some matters, like getting an admission procedure done for our child who didn't perform well in the exam, how would we achieve this? The value we want is to let our child smoothly enter the next grade, but if we don't give first, can we achieve it? Even if there are relatives, can we achieve it without giving?
After all, reality is reality. We can't obtain certain things without giving first, and even if we could, it wouldn't be the value we truly need. Because reality is reality, you can think from the other person's perspective. If someone wants to get some value from you for free, would you agree? If your answer is yes, did you genuinely answer or just reluctantly due to face-saving? If you still say yes, then either you're lying or you're a superhuman. Why? Because if someone wants to take something from you for free without giving you any value in return, it goes against human nature. If you agree, it only means one of the two: you're lying or you're superhuman. But I believe everyone is normal, not great men or superhumans.
So, after giving, does it mean we've gotten our value and don't need to keep in touch anymore? I'd like to ask everyone, if someone has greatly helped you, would you continue to keep in touch with them afterward? Yes or no? I want your honest answer. If your answer is yes, then congratulations, you might become the next internet expert. But if your answer is no, you might say, "I already gave back what I needed, so there's nothing owed, why should I keep in touch?" In that case, I want to discuss with everyone whether it's right or wrong.
Think from the other person's point of view. After you've received their help and stop taking the initiative to contact them, how would they feel? Maybe they'll forget about you too, as if you never existed. If you think this way and don't contact them, then the next time you need help, you'll be in trouble. Why? Because the next time you encounter the same situation, they might make excuses or say they're too busy to ignore you completely. Moreover, if he's an expert, aren't his friends also experts? If you get to know his friends, won't your network, ability, and status improve? One of his friends might be the benefactor on your path to success, someone you might seek help or cooperation from at an unexpected moment. And all these come back to one premise: giving. Can you understand what I'm saying? Do you think it's difficult? If you still think it's hard, add my QQ 506230295, and I'll tell you how to do it.
How do these internet experts learn from a teacher? At the beginning, they were probably novices just like everyone else. How did they learn when they started?
Let me share the four-step learning process. This four-step method applies to any industry, and these secrets have been used to the extreme by successful people or even reached a high level. Everyone is eager to know what they are: First, full acceptance; Second, full denial; Third, optimized absorption; Fourth, enhanced thinking. This is a general explanation, and each step contains deep truths that not everyone can easily understand. I will briefly explain them here. First, full acceptance: Whatever the teacher says, don't doubt it, just follow what the teacher says. If the teacher tells you to go east, you go east; if west, you go west. Don't ask if there are wild beasts ahead or if it's dangerous. Just do it, and you'll understand why the teacher told you to do it.
Second, full denial: Some might say, isn't this contradictory to the previous step? Not at all. Why? Because only when you truly follow what the teacher says will you have your own judgment and know whether what the teacher said is correct. So, knowing whether the teacher is right or wrong, why fully deny rather than optimize and absorb? If you don't think critically and don't deny, how can you distinguish between right and wrong? Remember, it's a full denial, every word the teacher says must be fully denied.
Third, optimized absorption: After going through the above two steps, you will naturally move on to the third step, optimized absorption. But you must have done the previous two steps well.
Fourth, enhanced thinking: Do you know why they are experts and why they are so successful? It's because they have their own thinking, innovation, and ideas, not just limited to what the teacher taught. They have elevated this thinking and expanded it to many aspects, which leads to such success.
These four steps hope everyone will think deeply about them and not stay on the surface.
Today, I've shared these thoughts with everyone, hoping it helps.