Five Strategies to Completely Resolve Marital Conflicts
By Ai Yan Shuangfei
Center Reminder: The Sina Parenting Blog Channel has initiated a discussion on whether children are the lubricant or the fuse of marital conflicts. In my view, children can sometimes be the fuse of marital conflicts, and at other times, they can become the lubricant. This article not only explores issues related to this topic but also prompts further thought on how to resolve marital conflicts: marital conflicts are inevitable, the key is how to resolve them? How to repair the cracks in the relationship? How to reignite passion? Five strategies to rekindle passion in a marriage. Five strategies to reheat the emotional connection. How can couples reignite their passion? Five small secrets to help couples reignite their passion.
Couples living together for years will naturally have conflicts and frictions. I have never heard of couples who always respect each other like guests and have never had an argument or conflict. If there were such couples, I imagine either they are merely living separate lives under the same roof and are too lazy to argue, or they are in a master-servant relationship where one party must absolutely obey the other, even if there are disagreements and conflicts. In such cases, they cannot truly be considered a real couple; they are just a man and a woman living under the same roof.
It is entirely normal for couples to have arguments or disagreements in marriage. There is no need to overreact or exaggerate. Couples come to understand each other better through friction, which can enhance their feelings. Of course, arguing is not good. While it's impossible to completely prevent marital conflicts or arguments, it is essential to maintain control and know when to stop. One should not be greedy. In a marriage, there are no absolute rights or wrongs. Most importantly, after a conflict or argument, couples should learn to restore their emotions, know how to reignite their passion, and not let minor issues escalate into major problems. Otherwise, small arguments could push the marriage to the brink of collapse.
So, how can couples reignite their passion? Consider taking action from the following aspects to mend the emotional fractures caused by arguments and repair the minor injuries in the marriage. Fractures or minor injuries are inevitable in life. The key is knowing how to timely repair and restore, then move forward again. In this way, couples can keep their love fresh, and the marriage can last a lifetime.
The Lubricating Role of Children. After a marital conflict, sometimes due to pride, neither party wants to back down first, leading to a cold atmosphere in the family. It's clear that the child is the innocent victim caught in the middle. However, the child can also be a means to repair marital conflicts. A child is the shared flesh and blood of the couple. Would you allow him/her to live in a disharmonious and unaffectionate family environment? The child is the crystallization of the couple's love and can certainly stir up marital tenderness. After a conflict or argument, think more about the child, and your anger will subside faster, resolving the conflict sooner.
Recall Past Affection. In the hustle and bustle of life, couples often neglect doing one thing: frequently recalling the romance and affection they once shared. As a result, couples become increasingly numb and lack passion. Perhaps you have long forgotten what romance and affection are. After a quarrel, find a suitable opportunity, intentionally or unintentionally visit places where you used to date, relive old memories, and evoke past beautiful moments and warm recollections. Reflecting on the love and warmth you once had, and then thinking about the current arguments and coldness, seems quite amusing.
Try Complimenting Each Other More. Praise is the best lubricant for resolving any conflict. It can dissolve coldness and numbness and reawaken the critical and hostile human spirit. Praise between couples is especially indispensable. Of course, praising is difficult, especially after a conflict or disagreement. How can one do it? Naturally, it’s hard right after an argument. But when you calm down, think about whether you really want to oppose the person you share a bed with? Do you want your home to turn into a cold hell on earth? Try to put aside so-called dignity, and praise each other more. This can greatly reduce the probability of marital conflicts occurring, and even if conflicts arise, they can be quickly resolved. At least, conflicts won't get out of control, destroying the basic structure of the marriage or endangering its foundation.
Go for a Deep Hug. To reignite passion, simply thinking or talking isn't enough. Try giving each other a deep hug. Maybe it's been a long time since you've hugged. A hug can resolve any supposed grievances between couples. In that moment of embrace, not only does it warm each other's bodies, but it also warms the hearts that have grown cold. A hug signifies compromise, tolerance, love, and emotion. It's the new starting point for reigniting passion. Come on, give each other a deep hug. Why forget to embrace when you can share a pillow?
Care More About Each Other's Family. No matter where we go or whether we have established our own families, deep in our hearts, there is always a soft spot - our parents and relatives. When couples argue, please never hurt the other's parents or relatives because that touches their most sensitive part. Conversely, when couples have conflicts or the marriage faces a crisis, consider showing more care and attention to the other's family members. Treat their parents and relatives kindly from the heart. Sometimes, being kind to the other's family can win their heart more effectively than being kind to the person themselves, and it can touch their heart more deeply.