"It's not a child's birthday, what to celebrate"
[Their Stories]
Because her hometown was in the countryside, Tang Li's mother always celebrated her lunar birthday. Last Saturday, due to an appointment with friends for exercise, Tang Li did not return home and also forgot that it was his mother's birthday.
"Mom is 55 years old this year, if she lives to be 85, in those 30 lonely years, the time I can spend with her will not exceed 720 hours, almost a month!" Ms. Wang said, after calculating the result, she was greatly shocked, she cried, she wanted to bring her parents to live with her, but her parents said "It's more comfortable to live in the old house."
"Tell your parents more about your own affairs, it can also make your parents happy." He Qunqun said, many people think that going home to visit their parents and asking about their health conditions is already fulfilling filial piety, in fact, parents hope to communicate with you and want to know more about their children.
After graduating from university, he hesitated whether to return to his hometown or not, but a very good job opportunity made him choose to stay in Changsha. Tang Li said, Changsha is not far from Xiangtan, so there are still many opportunities to fulfill filial piety.
Calculating the time spent with parents, some people cried
Tang Li is 27 years old this year, his hometown is in Xiangtan, and after working, he temporarily settled in Xue Tangpo Community in Yuelu District.
Living with his parents, Li Mingming also shared the calculation results. "After graduation, I have been living at home, my parents go to work during the day, the real time we spend together is only about one hour for dinner. And I have dinner at home about three days a week, which means I spend only 3 hours a week with my mom, that's 156 hours a year. Mom is 50 years old, 85 minus 50 equals 35 years, 35 multiplied by 156 hours equals 5460 hours, equivalent to 227.5 days, that is 7 months and 17.5 days, this does not include the situation where I will get married in the future and live separately from my parents."
"Parents hope to communicate more with their children"
For those who are already married, He Qunqun suggested trying the following three ways.
Originally, the time we spend with our parents is not as long as we imagine. So how do we interact with our parents to make them happy? For this, we interviewed national second-level psychological counselor He Qunqun.
For unmarried children, He Qunqun said, "Consider personal issues earlier, especially for older singles, this way most parents will feel happy from the bottom of their hearts."
The other day, he went to the newly opened Pu Cai Market to buy vegetables and met a young man riding a tricycle. "He was riding very hard, sweating all over, even his hair was dripping sweat." Li Chunhe saw that his vegetables were fresh, so he chatted with him for a while. The young man stared at him for two minutes, and finally deeply said to him: "Uncle, you look very much like my father, I have had some things bottled up inside me for a long time, and really no one to talk to, let me tell you!"
Pulling "father", he spoke out his inner feelings
Saying he looked like his father and wanting to talk to him, Li Chunhe was surprised, but he patiently listened. He heard a touching story of family affection.
The young man riding the tricycle is named Jiang Tao, 29 years old, from a small village in Chengdu. In order to earn money, he guarded a construction site in Jin Hui Community's Fairy Tale Neighborhood for four years, and did not return home for four years. Every day in Changsha, he missed his hometown far away in Chengdu, and missed his parents back home. To save on phone bills, he did not often call home, but whenever he called, he would chat with his father. He told his father that when he had money, he would take his father to Tianhong Mall (next to the neighborhood) for a trip, and let his father buy whatever he wanted, and also buy an airplane ticket, letting his father fly from Chengdu to Changsha to play.
Jiang Tao thought that his dream would not take long to realize, and his father could happily accept his arrangements. But on May 27th this year, Jiang Tao's father unexpectedly passed away. Jiang Tao's face was unclear whether it was sweat or tears, he told Li Chunhe that now he had money and time to go home, but his father could no longer come to the mall or take a plane. Meeting Li Chunhe, Jiang Tao felt it was a chance given by heaven, allowing him to speak out his inner feelings to "father". "If he could give him more chances, he would go home more often to see his father in these four years!" Li Chunhe said, being able to listen to Jiang Tao's inner feelings, he also felt warm.
In addition, He Qunqun also suggested buying groceries and cooking together with parents, increasing the intimacy between parents and oneself, which is also a good way to show filial piety.
As the end of the year approaches, the sentiment for loved ones becomes stronger. Have you seriously calculated how much time you can actually spend with your parents? Reported by reporter Xia Sheng and Li Tang from Changsha.
"How much time can you spend with your mother in this life?" This post has been widely spread in some community forums recently. "If you and your mother are separated, how many times can you go back each year? How many days each time? The average life expectancy of Chinese people is 72 years old, calculate, how much time can you actually spend with your mother in this life?"
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