People kept wondering, if Charles was just an ordinary man, would the 19-year-old Diana have still married him knowing he had someone else in mind? In one of Diana's underground recordings, she mentioned about her early marriage: "My mouth felt as dry as a desert, and I felt like a lamb going to be slaughtered."
She actually didn't have to be that unfortunate. No one put her on the chopping block; it was her own choice: If she hadn't wanted to, who would have forced her to stand in front of the altar and say "I do" to a man? But can we blame her? Whether Diana loved that man or loved the crown associated with him, at that time, she actually had many opportunities: When their early marriage became a sham, she could have chosen to divorce early, but she refused early on and insisted on keeping the title of princess. Perhaps she felt she had sacrificed too much for that title, so she couldn't let go of that honor.
Don't blame a person's attitude towards love. Except for the Seven Fairy Maidens, how many women would fall in love with Dong Yong who sold himself into servitude? However, for ordinary men, people expect to gain added value from love. Women often tell themselves that doing well is not as good as marrying well, ideally marrying a man who is both excellent and loves them. But there's no such cheap thing in this world. Even someone as beautiful as Diana couldn't achieve it, so how could others? It's hard for a woman to clearly understand from the start whether she truly loves or hates a person and what kind of life that entails. Often, you hear people discussing what kind of women are suitable to marry and which aren't. They usually sneer and say that unsuccessful women without economic ability shouldn't be married because they lack the charm and grace of poorer women. But aren't women the same? How many women in reality can honestly say: "It's no big deal!"
In my youth, I often couldn't understand why women from rich families would cheat: Especially in feudal society. One night's indiscretion could lead to severe punishment, so why would women risk their lives for such behavior?
Does true pure love exist in this world? What made Romeo and Juliet follow each other until death? What made the Duchess of Windsor give up her throne and position? Was it really just youthful impulsiveness? I believe not: Love is an irreplaceable emotion. Apart from being with the person you love, you cannot feel the happiness of love. But the added value of love can be replaced: If you hope to gain wealth through love, then when you obtain that wealth, you will no longer feel the need to stay with the person who brought you that wealth, especially as you grow and establish your own financial empire. You will no longer be able to tolerate the person who initially sought wealth from you.
There are many things worth pursuing in life, but only love must be sincere to truly experience its flavor: It might bring joy and sorrow, separation and reunion, while for other things, there are many ways to obtain them, and you don’t necessarily have to get married to someone to acquire them. Since that’s the case, why do people set such high thresholds for their love? I'm not saying your expectations for love are too high, but I'm worried that those who step over your threshold are precisely the ones unrelated to love: Because true love requires no threshold; love is mutual affection, not a one-sided desire, and it’s not like shopping in a free market where you look for the best cost-performance ratio.
The most beloved question between lovers is probably, "What do you love about me?" No one says they love your wealth, your business, or the life you provide, right? Why? Because everyone knows that scenario. To date, the most touching answer I've heard is an English phrase: "I love you not because of who you are, but because of the love when I am with you."
The truth behind what love demands is the most moving. Do you love the love itself?
In the world of love, there is never right or wrong, only love or no love.