Women need to know the truth about certain things. Even if they still choose to go through fire and water after knowing, it is essential for them to be aware of it. They should not deceive themselves or fool around in a vague manner. Men are like time bombs; no matter how good you think they are now, or how lucky you feel to have them, you must stay vigilant. In a few months or years, when he starts cheating, flirting with other women, emotionally strays, or even turns violent, remember that the man he was and the man he is now are one and the same person, but you may no longer recognize him. Instead of being dumbfounded later on, unable to accept it, losing sleep, appetite, and mental clarity, it’s better to mentally prepare yourself now. If nothing happens, it's your great fortune; if it does happen, it's just a natural phenomenon.
Men and women are entirely different creatures. Although we can engage in sexual intercourse, this doesn't mean our hearts will always be connected, or that everything will align perfectly forever. The only moment when our hearts truly connect is when the spark of love ignites in our eyes. Love is a phase where you adore him during a specific period. When you encounter a man, use your eyes more than your ears, and your ears more than your mouth. I know that when feelings arise, intelligence decreases, words become disingenuous, and we talk incessantly to hide our racing hearts, but you must control yourself. During Christmas, if you receive a gift, isn’t the oddly packaged one more attractive than the beautifully wrapped one? So, make yourself into an unusual, oddly packaged "gift" that he hasn't seen before. Reactions like smiling broadly, blushing, or getting excited upon encountering love are too common. You can make yourself unique.
In the early stages of contact, unless your hormones outweigh your brain's attention toward him, learn everything about him before becoming intimate. At least clarify the following points: 1) Is he married, and do you care? 2) Has he been married, and do you care? 3) Does he have children, and do you care? 4) If unmarried, does he have children, and do you care? 5) Does he have a girlfriend, and do you care? 6) Does he frequently or ambiguously interact with his ex-girlfriend, and do you care? 7) Does he have sexual partners, and do you care? 8) Is he bisexual, and do you care? 9) If you want to get married, would his family accept you? 10) Do you have confidence that he will love you more than you love him?
Do you find this too troublesome? Just love, right? This is too rational! Well, then, women who are all chest and no brain, if any of these ten points occur and you cannot accept them, you'll be at a loss! If you come back and ask me, I'll scold you for deserving it. Let me add, the most crucial point is number two: whether he has divorced legally or just separated spiritually, make sure you understand clearly!
These are just things to understand before falling in love. After loving, there are even more precautions and plans to consider, and every step counts towards possible happiness. Observe: if he changes his usual habits and routines; if his phone often goes unanswered recently; if he tells you interesting stories about someone else's partner, perhaps this "heard" story involves a woman he finds interesting. Some extroverted, talkative men can't help discussing their interests, even if attributed to others, it relates to himself. After he hangs up the phone, if you suspect something, don't rush to ask him. All you’ll get are lies and resentment. Instead, look directly into his eyes for two seconds, remain silent after regaining composure. He will become very nervous, thinking you know something, and might explain himself, although this explanation could be nonsense, you can detect clues. Has he bought anything new that he wouldn’t usually buy for himself? Does he have new hobbies? Does he recommend something he previously didn’t understand or wasn’t sure about? Is he overly attentive, suddenly warmer than usual... Smart women can figure out the rest themselves. Men are humans too, all truths lie on their faces.
There are some habits that need to be established before the relationship becomes serious, such as changing or stopping his habit of using his phone in the bathroom. You can say it's bad for his health or affects prostate health, or that it makes him stay in the bathroom too long, making you wait... Also, use his phone regularly under the pretext of saving money on calls. Don't snoop elsewhere, just check the call records. If he has issues, he won’t always delete them cleanly or remember accurately. But don’t use his phone to play games. When his ambiguous lover calls, and he has to answer but is brushing her off, and you hesitate to make a sound because it seems too deliberate, pretend to fall in European football style—fake a high-pitched moan, “Ah yo, ah, ooh, dear, it hurts so much, it hurts!” Haha, give him a severe warning while appearing innocent, right? As for other habit-related issues, you can figure them out yourselves.
If you break up and can't move on within half a month, then you're a puppet woman. Unless you're an orphan, let me ask, do you think you're worthy of your parents and uncles? They love you carefully, tolerate you, and compromise for you. When you’re sad over him and lock yourself in your room, they bring hot food without receiving your pleasant demeanor—are they not innocent victims? Raising you is not for you to debase and waste yourself. After CELINA was burned, her father cried saying he wished he hadn’t had her. Parents fear their children getting hurt so much. Once, when I cried over a boy, my dad actually cried too, shocking me. Since then, I realized that loving unhappily is worse than failing university exams. If you break up, he probably shares some responsibility unless you’re a promiscuous woman. If he refuses to forgive you this time, I allow you to regret, but darling, I know you're not. Therefore, kick him out, continue walking your sunny road, and let him return to his sewer (back to where he came from). Some men treat garbage as treasure, but they aren’t idols.
When we love, it’s with our whole being, which is exhausting. The above isn’t scheming, but necessary self-protection and ways to maintain love. However, even for love, I believe it’s unnecessary. Actually, the secret to maintaining a relationship is simple: don't love him too much. Your admiration won’t make him grateful; instead, it will numb him, burden him, and greatly reduce his willingness to give back. Don’t call him cheap; it’s human nature. People ignore those who constantly pamper them, like being impatient with parents, while appreciating the occasional kindness from those who are usually indifferent, cold, or difficult. Alas, people are fickle. Men will tire of Marilyn Monroe-like charm, abandon haughty, tasteless queens, but never lose interest in mysterious, noble Artemis. Only young boys like Romeo in that era would foolishly love silly Juliet. Like women buying bags, once tired of LV, there’s PRADA, LOEWE, TOD’S… and when tired of all, there’s Ralph Lauren, Kate Spade, Chloe… As long as the world exists, so will men. It’s not heartless, but practical. Keeping up with the times is most important. If a gentleman sees you now, takes off his hat, bows, kisses your hand, and says, “My beautiful lady, I admire you, meeting you is a great honor,” would you think he’s polite? Haha.
To become a lawyer, one must thoroughly understand the law; to become a general, one must have been on the front line. To understand love, one must know oneself and the other party well. Naive, humble, jealous, and out-of-control lovers eventually collapse, and the next batch steps up. These days, honest people aren’t praised anymore. If a man is praised as "good and honest," it's worse than calling him stupid. Being honest implies incompetence, though cunning isn't ideal either. At least, one should be resourceful, weaving interpersonal networks and having their own world. I’ve digressed. What constitutes a successful man isn’t today’s topic. Everyone knows the game rules; playing Mahjong together is more fun. No one likes teaching others while playing. If you lose, accept it; don’t grab collars demanding compensation. If you win, it's just this table. Be careful not to celebrate too much and invite everyone to dinner instead of being too harsh. After all, no banquet lasts forever, and no one blames you for not wanting to play more. Perhaps you're still eager, but others are tired. Play another day on a different table. Of course, don't get addicted to gambling. Life offers many activities, hobbies need time, and friends need company. Neither should one completely avoid gambling, like eating, all kinds of nutrition are needed. Humans are omnivores.
That’s enough, clear enough. If you remain stubborn and suffer endlessly, it only indicates one problem, do I need to say it? That is—no one cares about you, maybe while dodging your advances, he's willing to serve another woman by removing her shoes and massaging her feet. Comparisons between people can be frustrating—you have good skin, I’m tall; you can drive, I have a driver. Ha, there's no comparison. Women should never make life hard for other women. Men duel when they hate each other, it's honorable. What are women? Crazy old hags. Elegance! Elegance! Elegance! Women must be elegant. Calmness leads to elegance, indifference leads to calmness, moderation leads to indifference, the rest needs no elaboration. Even if catching someone in bed with another, you can calmly say, "Your mistress' fake orgasms are disgusting, she looks like an AV actress."
Looking back, men are still quite adorable creatures. Flat-chested, big-footed, seeing beauties causes a certain part of them to rise uncontrollably, then they become extremely obliging, available on demand, expressing admiration, giving gifts, making advances... This is both their funny side and their motivation. They also face hardships and struggles—they need careers, houses, cars, savings, reputation, status, and to realize their values. They drink, slap backs, call each other brothers while harboring ulterior motives, need to respect parents, love wives, and discipline children. This is a heavy burden. I actually think the amendment to the new marriage law is reasonable, unless we don’t want dowries, right? But would you agree? Even if you do, I wouldn’t. In the south, having daughters means financial loss, whereas in places like Tianjin, women hold higher statuses, so we should be content. Anyway, approach love with sincerity and trust. Love is more brilliant than diamonds and purer than lakes. A little strategy is fine, but being too direct is also harmful. Like credit cards, yesterday’s sins and yesterday’s good deeds will be paid for today, and today’s actions will be accounted for tomorrow. Sow beans, reap beans; sow melons, reap melons. If a man plays around with too many women or uses them to climb the social ladder like Duroy, his child may end up with a cleft lip.
Times have changed, alas. Men aren’t manly, women aren’t feminine. Men are effeminate, women are tough. Compromisingly speaking, the primary standard for men is integrity. Those who use their mouths like anal openings to fart are not human. Farts can't be controlled, but mouths can't either? Whether sweet-talking promises or future ones, they're all deceitful. If signs are wrong, replace him immediately; the consequences are endless. The first elimination criterion is lying. For me, what I hate most is, "Lie to me!" Will you try? Then you'll only be exposed, no other way. If I haven't, it's because I simply disdain it. I just enjoy watching clowns work hard to perform. "Lie to me," try it, "It'll be beyond your control!"