Can you guarantee that it will be sunny or rainy tomorrow? Can you guarantee that you won't slip when you go out today? Can you guarantee that the person who receives the flowers will definitely return a smile? Who dares to guarantee everything, who dares to guarantee tomorrow, even the next second? No one, not even God. The Buddha never speaks; he only accepts worship from people. We cannot guarantee our own health or existence tomorrow. We cannot guarantee that we won't lose our loved ones or mother tomorrow. We cannot guarantee that the foundation built over many years won't be destroyed overnight. We cannot guarantee that the things we have always believed in will never be doubted. This is what we call the unpredictability of life. People live in risks and crises.
Take me for example, who would have known that the skin envied by middle school students would suddenly break out all over with acne, repeatedly. Who would have known that as a tomboy-like child, black and ugly, thin and dry, I would grow up completely different. Who would have known that someone with no talent, who sings off-key, could now have some appearance. Who would have known that the pitiful child whose parents divorced, and was looked down upon by relatives, would now live better than anyone else. Who would have known that ten years ago, no boys were chasing after me, shy and self-conscious, but now there are gentlemen willing to take care of me. Who would have known that after inflation and skyrocketing prices, my savings are no longer something to be proud of...
But now I know, I understand: what should be cherished, what is worth it. As long as I don't make mistakes in the big direction of life, that's fine. But the regret is that I realized too late. Our generation has neither suffered hardships nor enjoyed real blessings. My mother and I are getting older day by day, and my dog will say goodbye to me within ten years. Spend less time on beauty and fitness, and do what you're really interested in (I like music, movies, reading, traveling). Don't bother with those you're embarrassed to say goodbye to. I almost never let myself get stuck in traffic, and I don't shop during peak hours. If I can't sleep, I'll get up and write a diary, at least leaving something behind. I cherish my joys and sorrows, if everything goes well, then there's no feeling of beauty.
Girls who can't bear breakups and think the world is dark, what do you want to do? Isn't it worth celebrating when an unworthy person leaves? Say goodbye to the wrong ones, welcome the new, and there's still a mother hoping to see your smile at home. And don't hang out with those who look like cucumbers after a breakup, comparing who's more unfortunate, the more you compare, the worse it gets, creating a vicious cycle. And men's departure, are they all bad? How can he live well with others?
My writing has always been sharp but useful, ponder on it quietly at night. I value my girlfriends very much, women, treat yourself well first to be treated well. I hope you are all happy, my sisters near and far. If you were to die tomorrow, and everything would disappear, would anyone feel no regret? There must be more tears in heaven than on earth, all filled with regret. Regret - is the most painful thing in the world! I'd rather the mistakes were made by others, sorry was said by others, I don't want to regret alone. Because others' mistakes are already destined and happened, oneself could have turned it around but didn't do well.
Who hasn't regretted? But who has learned from their mistakes and never repeated them? If there were pills for regret, each milligram would certainly be more expensive than tons of saffron, cordyceps, imported wagyu beef. Money is something every normal person loves, we spend our days chasing and spending money. So, the biggest role of money is to spend it! Turn those pieces of paper into what you need, want, and give to others.
I really can't stand some men (barely calling them men), who count even three or five yuan, oh my god, are you begging? Men, whether steel or iron, sky or earth, how many males these days deserve to be called men? Men should be flexible, magnanimous, patient, and gentlemanly. A successful man needs several qualities: having no concept of money; not caring about trivial matters, thinking long-term; not seeking attention or talking too much; being ambitious yet principled; looking at today's affairs with tomorrow's perspective.
My mom once said, people who love spending money will earn money. Loving spending is absolutely not a flaw, wealth isn't saved up. Desire leads to action, how many of the things we buy are necessities? Aren't they mostly wants?
I digressed, I used to be quite greedy, actually quite selfish. Thinking about the past few years, almost every day eating out, big and small hotels, various restaurants, even Beijing, Changsha, Guangdong, all eaten through. But the meals I've treated my mom, or the things I've bought her, haven't even reached one twentieth. Why hasn't anyone told me this truth today? Do I want to repeat my mistakes? Whenever I think of my grandmother, I wish I could exchange my life for her happy old age.
Approaching 30 closer than 20, I finally understand this truth, it's sad, maybe a bit late, but it's not too late. Those who leave home to work, chase dreams, and drift, are the hard times and meager wages worth exchanging for being away from family? Chasing for half a lifetime, only to find that what you've gained isn't what you wanted, that's ironic.
Otherwise, why do most suicides happen among those who are economically well-off? Who is so poor they commit suicide? Have you ever heard of such a thing? And that gasoline, if you can afford it, just add it, don't complain about the price. The most expensive thing is if you spend tens of thousands buying a car, but there's no gasoline supply, it's not even as good as an electric vehicle, France is already like this.
And that air, those tourist attractions, enjoy them while you can. Years of severe pollution on Earth can't be salvaged in decades, don't lament if you haven't been to Jiuzhaigou, there's still Inner Mongolia, Xinjiang, Tibet.
And vegetables, how fragrant they are, stop gnawing on meat. In the future, they'll get more expensive, and fresh ones will become rarer.
And children, don't force them to be born. In the past, it was for carrying on the family name, adding incense under your surname. But look at this Earth, this economic situation, this fierce competition, and vile human nature, don't let so many children suffer.
What irritates me most is when people tell me, eat Xiaobao chestnuts? So expensive, aren't the others similar in taste? Dizzy, it's not calculated like that, how expensive can it be? You can't even eat 20 yuan worth! It doesn't constitute "accounting" unless it reaches a certain amount, if it's not accounting, what are you calculating?
I can't stand people using calculators in supermarkets to figure out which is suitable, multiplying and dividing.
And some families with multiple shopping cards, after swiping, they take out a bunch where each has less than 2 mao left, and swipe them in the supermarket.
And on important roads + peak hours, accident cars blocking the street, actually just scraping a little bumper, causing so many people to not be able to go home on time. These people are worse than thieves.
That time, wouldn't it be better to have some fun!
Many things are more speechless, I won't write them, sounds like I'm cynical about the world.
But I'm not, I live clearer than anyone.
Those who say I'm negative, are all brainless, isn't there anyone more positive than me?
If you read my words and find them reasonable, bring your mom, your lover, out for a delicious or fresh meal this weekend. Even if it's half a month's salary, even if they don't know your feelings afterwards and say you're wasting money, we'll still be happy inside, right?
Starting this weekend, I will change myself again, cosmetics, shoes, clothes, jewelry will no longer be luxurious. Life is about food and drink, ha, the you in the mirror with a smile, you'll be happier.
Live and cherish. What belongs to you, what doesn't belong to you, all those you care about, love, people, pets or items.
Purely miscellaneous talk, only ethics, no logic, not literature.
Rather than saying it's advice to others, it's better to admit, it's teaching myself.
October 22, 2010