Share to: Comments welcome, I want to comment. In 2007, Pan Li, 25 years old, and Wang Anyi, 36 years old, held a wedding ceremony, but the marriage certificate was not finally in their hands until 2009. "For a small booklet, we ran around for two years and made three trips."
Pan Li told Wang Anyi that her mother had passed away early due to diabetes, and she herself had been diagnosed with diabetes for a long time and had been receiving continuous treatment. If the two were together, he would definitely bear a heavy burden.
"It took us two years and three trips to get the marriage certificate."
"I hope he finds a better woman."
Four years ago, despite the dissuasion of family and friends, Wang Anyi decided to marry Pan Li who suffered from diabetes. Unexpectedly, after marriage, Pan Li's condition worsened into uremia, and she could only rely on dialysis to sustain her life. Wang Anyi worked while taking care of his wife. Pan Li did not want to drag down her husband, so she entrusted her sister to find him another wife during the last day of winter vacation. However, this was firmly rejected by Wang Anyi. Kind-hearted people donated to this couple who cherished each other deeply, but they were not the type to sit and accept help. They wanted to repay society by donating their bodies or bone marrow.
"You donate your body, then I'll donate my bone marrow."
"This is impossible. I don't regret being with her." Wang Anyi said, after learning about his wife's thoughts for the first time, he immediately shook his head to reject it. He worried that his wife's condition might suddenly deteriorate. "No matter how hard or tired I am now, when I come home after work and see her, I feel happy. I don't know what I will do if one day she is no longer here."
"My father had stomach cancer, his stomach always hurt, and needed someone to massage it continuously. At that time, Wang Anyi almost spent more than ten hours every day massaging my father, taking care of his eating and drinking, until my father passed away." Pan Li said that Wang Anyi's behavior moved many people around her. Everyone told her that this man was rare, and she eventually opened her heart to Wang Anyi.
In order to save money, even though there was a direct bus from their doorstep to the factory, Wang Anyi still insisted on riding an old bicycle to and from work every day, nearly an hour round trip, regardless of cold or heat. Wang Anyi was born in a rural family in Shuidong Town, Xuanzhou District, where the family situation was not good. To treat his daughter-in-law, Wang Anyi's sixty-year-old mother broke her arm while collecting scrap to make money.
Pan Li also said that she heard that dialysis had great side effects, and generally women who underwent dialysis lost their fertility. "I hope he can find a better woman, and I hope to see him have a healthy and happy family before I pass away." Recently, Pan Li expressed such feelings in front of the camera during a local TV station interview. At that moment, both of them couldn't help but burst into tears.
"Being with her, I don't regret."
Not long after meeting, Pan Li returned to her home in Xikou Town, Xuanzhou District due to her father's serious illness. Upon learning the situation, Wang Anyi took leave from Shanghai and rushed to Pan Li's home to visit her. Although it was their first meeting, Wang Anyi immediately took on the responsibility of caring for Pan's father.
In 2009, after everything was prepared, the two went to the marriage registration office again. Just as they were about to queue up to handle their marriage certificate, the office suddenly lost power. After waiting for a whole morning, they finally received the red booklet. "This is probably the difficulty of good things," Pan Li said with a sigh.
In 2005, while working in Hangzhou, Pan Li met Wang Anyi, who was working in Shanghai, through the internet. The two fellow townspeople from Xuancheng gradually became close friends. Pan Li's lively and outgoing personality made Wang Anyi develop a liking for her, and the honest and loving Wang Anyi gradually became Pan Li's support.
"Giving you medical treatment is the most important thing."
Pei Hongxia is Pan Li's high school classmate. After learning about Pan Li's misfortune, she and some classmates and teachers visited Pan Li multiple times. "She is a very lively person, and also very smart. We all liked her when we were in school. It's unimaginable that she got such a serious disease." Pei Hongxia told the reporter that whenever she visited Pan Li, she could always see Wang Anyi patiently taking care of Pan Li. She felt that Pan Li having such a husband was rare, but it was unimaginable how the two could just separate.
All of this made Pan Li very grateful, but she was not the kind of person to sit and accept donations, because she understood what gratitude meant.
Adversity reveals true feelings, and the world has true love. Wang Anyi and Pan Li's story gradually spread and touched many people. Many kind-hearted individuals in society showed their love to this couple. So far, they have received more than 30,000 yuan in love donations.
Yesterday, when the reporter came to Wang Anyi and Pan Li's rented house, he saw that the dining table, bed, TV, and refrigerator almost filled the entire room. "The rent is 200 yuan per month. Because it can get sunlight, we rented it, but unexpectedly, in summer, the roof does not insulate heat, and it gets very hot inside." Wang Anyi said that because of the need to store medicine, with the help of friends, he bought a second-hand refrigerator.
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When Wang Anyi saw this, he gently held Pan Li's hand and said, "Giving you medical treatment is the most important thing, there's no need to say anything else." Microblog recommendation | Today's microblog hotspot
Speaking of these things, recalling the point-by-point details of meeting Wang Anyi, Pan Li couldn't help but shed tears.
Reported by our reporter Cao Qing with photographs.
Husband: How can you think like that?
Wife: You should find another woman.
Husband: Not afraid.
Wife: It will be harder.
Wife: I don't want to drag you down.
Because of deep love and shared hardships, both spouses wanted the other to be happier. "I asked my sister to find him another wife, I don't want to be with me anymore. A person like him, I cannot hold him back." Pan Li told reporters that she didn't want to become a burden to her husband, nor did she want to delay his good years.
At the age of 29, Pan Li had been suffering from diabetes since her teenage years. In recent years, her condition gradually worsened. By the end of last year, Pan Li suddenly became swollen all over, and her weight increased by more than 30 pounds. After checking at the hospital, Pan Li was diagnosed with uremia and could only maintain her life through dialysis.
"In 2007, when we first went to apply for the marriage certificate, because we didn't bring all the documents, it wasn't successful, and it was delayed for a year." Pan Li told reporters. A year later, when they brought all the necessary documents to apply for the marriage certificate again, it failed because the information on Wang Anyi's ID card and household register didn't match.
"I support my sister's idea, my brother-in-law is too good, we cannot delay him." Talking about her sister and brother-in-law, Pan Mingxia, Pan Li's sister, choked up and told reporters that even if Wang Anyi doesn't stay with her sister, he will always be their family.
Now Wang Anyi works in a machinery factory in Xuancheng district, earning only more than 1000 yuan per month. "To rent a house and support the family, and also give me medical treatment." Pan Li, who always smiles when speaking, feels a bit sad when talking about these things.
After marriage, Wang Anyi once took Pan Li to work in Shanghai. At that time, he worked as a graphic designer in a friend's print shop, with a decent income, and Pan Li worked with him. "Maybe because of complementary personalities, I am very happy with her, and it also makes me less introverted." Wang Anyi said that their life in Shanghai was very happy. But soon after, Pan Li's condition worsened, and they had to return to their hometown in Xuancheng.
This decision by Pan Li made Wang Anyi feel very uncomfortable. With his wife's determination already set, it also touched her husband. "If you donate your body, then I will donate my bone marrow." Wang Anyi said, "Good-hearted people have given us a lot of help, and we also want to help those who need help."
At the end of last year, after Pan Li was diagnosed with uremia, the cost of treatment posed a significant challenge to the family, leaving them no choice but to borrow money from relatives and friends. "How much money can everyone lend us?" Wang Anyi said that after returning to Xuancheng, he couldn't find suitable work and had to take physical labor jobs in the factory workshop, which was not easy for him who already suffered from lumbar vertebrae disease.
Not long after marriage, Pan Li became pregnant. Worried that her illness would be genetically passed on to the child, although Pan Li really wanted the baby, after careful consideration, the couple decided not to keep the child. They had also planned to adopt a child later, but this wish disappeared as Pan Li's condition worsened.
Wang Anyi tenderly caressed the scars left from surgery on Pan Li's wrist, feeling extremely sorry for her.
"Each dialysis costs more than 500 yuan, and every month just for medical treatment costs more than 4000 yuan." Pan Li told reporters that this year she had already spent more than 70,000 yuan on medical expenses, and she didn't know how many more years she would have to rely on dialysis to survive.
In November this year, Pan Li found the local Red Cross and signed the application form for voluntary donation of bodies (organs). "There are not many healthy organs left in my body, possibly only the cornea is still good. So many people actively helped me, I also hope to contribute something to society." Pan Li told reporters, "If society needs it, I am willing to donate my body for medical research."