Share to: Comments welcome, I want to comment. In 2007, 25-year-old Pan Li and 36-year-old Wang Anyi held a wedding ceremony, but it wasn't until 2009 that the two finally held their marriage certificate in hand. "For a little booklet, we ran around for two years, three trips."
Pan Li told Wang Anyi that her mother had passed away early from diabetes, and she herself had been diagnosed with diabetes for many years and had been receiving continuous treatment. If the two were together, he would surely bear a heavy burden.
"It took two years and three trips to get the marriage certificate."
"I hope he finds a better woman."
Four years ago, despite the dissuasion of family and friends, Wang Anyi decided to marry Pan Li who suffered from diabetes. Unexpectedly, after marriage, Pan Li's condition worsened into uremia, and she could only maintain her life through dialysis. Wang Anyi worked while taking care of his wife. The long-suffering Pan Li did not want to drag her husband down, so she entrusted her sister to find him a new wife during the last day of winter vacation, but this was firmly rejected by Wang Anyi. Kind-hearted people donated to this couple who remained deeply in love. However, they were not content to just accept donations; they wanted to repay society by donating their bodies or bone marrow.
"You donate your body, I'll donate my bone marrow."
"This is impossible, being with her, I do not regret." Wang Anyi said, after first learning about his wife's thoughts, he immediately shook his head in disapproval. He worried that his wife's condition might suddenly deteriorate, "No matter how hard or tired I am now, when I come home after work and see her, I feel happy. I don't know what I would do if one day she isn't there."
"My father had stomach cancer, his stomach always hurt, needing someone to constantly massage it. At that time, Wang Anyi spent almost every day massaging my father for more than ten hours, taking care of his eating and drinking, until my father passed away," Pan Li said. Wang Anyi's behavior moved many people around her. Everyone told her that this man was rare, and she ultimately opened her heart to Wang Anyi.
To save money, although there was a direct bus from the door to the factory, Wang Anyi still insisted on riding an old bicycle to and from work every day, nearly an hour each way, regardless of the weather. Wang Anyi was born in a rural family in Shuidong Town, Xuanzhou District, and the family situation was not good. To treat his daughter-in-law, Wang Anyi's sixty-year-old mother broke her arm while collecting scrap to earn money.
Pan Li also said that she heard that dialysis has significant side effects, and generally women lose their ability to bear children after undergoing dialysis. "I hope he can find a better woman, hoping that during my lifetime, I can see him have a healthy and happy family." Recently, during a local TV station interview, Pan Li expressed such sentiments on camera, and both of them couldn't help but burst into tears.
"Being with her, I do not regret."
Not long after meeting, Pan Li returned home to Xikou Town, Xuanzhou District due to her father's serious illness. After learning the situation, Wang Anyi took leave from Shanghai and rushed to Pan Li's home to visit her. Although this was their first meeting, Wang Anyi immediately took on the responsibility of caring for Pan's father.
In 2009, after everything was ready, the two went to the marriage registration office again. Just as they were about to queue up to handle their marriage certificate, the registration office suddenly lost power. After waiting all morning, they finally got the red booklet. "This may be a sign of good things coming after difficulties," Pan Li remarked with emotion.
In 2005, while working in Hangzhou, Pan Li met Wang Anyi who was working in Shanghai through the internet. The two fellow townspeople from Xuancheng gradually became close friends. Pan Li's lively and cheerful personality made Wang Anyi develop feelings for her, and the honest and loving Wang Anyi gradually became Pan Li's support.
"Treating your illness is the most important thing."
Pei Hongxia is Pan Li's high school classmate. After learning about Pan Li's misfortune, she and some classmates and teachers visited Pan Li multiple times. "She is a very lively person, also very smart, we all liked her when we were in school, never expecting her to suffer from such a serious illness," Pei Hongxia told reporters. When visiting Pan Li, she always saw Wang Anyi patiently taking care of Pan Li. She thought Pan Li was lucky to have such a husband, but she couldn't imagine how they could say goodbye so easily.
All this made Pan Li grateful, but she was not someone who was content to just accept donations, because she understood what gratitude meant.
Suffering reveals true feelings, and humanity contains sincere love. Wang Anyi and Pan Li's story gradually spread and touched many people. Many kind-hearted individuals showed their kindness towards this couple, and so far, they have received over 30,000 yuan in donations.
Yesterday, when reporters came to Wang Anyi and Pan Li's rented place, they saw that the dining table, bed, TV, and refrigerator almost filled the entire room. "The rent is 200 yuan per month. Because it gets sunlight, we rented it, but we didn't expect that in summer, the roof doesn't insulate heat, making the house very hot," Wang Anyi said. Due to the need to store medicine, with the help of friends, he bought a second-hand refrigerator.
Designed Dialogue
Seeing these things, recalling the bits and pieces of her relationship with Wang Anyi, Pan Li couldn't help but shed tears.
Reported by our reporter Cao Qing with photographic documentation.
Husband: Not afraid.
Wife: How can you think like this?
Husband: Find another woman and live.
Wife: It will be harder.
Husband: I do not regret! Gently touching the scars left by surgery on Pan Li's wrist, Wang Anyi felt deep pain.
"I support my sister's idea, my brother-in-law is too good, we cannot delay him." Speaking about her sister and brother-in-law, Pan Mingxia, Pan Li's sister, choked up and told reporters that even if Wang Anyi no longer stays with her sister, he will forever be part of their family.
Because of deep love and shared hardships, both spouses want the other to be happier. "I asked my sister to find him another wife, not to stay with me anymore. A person like him, I cannot hold him back," Pan Li told reporters that she did not want to be a burden to her husband, nor did she want to delay his good years.
At the age of 29, Pan Li had suffered from diabetes since her teenage years, and her condition progressively worsened over the years. By the end of last year, Pan Li suddenly swelled all over, gaining more than 30 jin (about 15 kg) in weight. After hospital examination, Pan Li was confirmed to have uremia and could only rely on dialysis to sustain life.
"In 2007, when we first went to apply for the marriage certificate, we failed because we didn't bring all the required documents, and this dragged on for a year." Pan Li told reporters. A year later, when they brought all the necessary documents to apply again, they failed because the information on Wang Anyi's ID card did not match the information on his household registration book.
Last November, Pan Li approached the local Red Cross Society and signed up for voluntary body (organ) donation application registration form. "There aren't many healthy organs left in my body, probably only the cornea is still good. So many people actively helped me, and I also want to contribute something to society," Pan Li told reporters, "If society needs it, I am willing to donate my body for medical research."
Wang Anyi's friends, upon learning about Pan Li's condition, advised him not to marry her. Greater resistance came from his family, but Wang Anyi eventually resolutely walked down the aisle with Pan Li. "My father-in-law once told me that he hoped I would take care of Pan Li, and I promised him then."
After marriage, Wang Anyi once took Pan Li to work in Shanghai. At that time, he worked in a friend's print shop doing graphic design, with decent income, and Pan Li worked with him. "Maybe because of complementary personalities, I am very happy with her, and it makes me less introverted," Wang Anyi said. Their lives in Shanghai were very happy. But soon after, Pan Li's condition worsened, and they had to return to their hometown in Xuancheng.
With her weak body, Pan Li could not even step over a small slope, which greatly worried her husband Wang Anyi. To facilitate his wife's treatment at the hospital, Wang Anyi rented a 10-square-meter house in the urban area of Xuancheng. To earn money for his wife's treatment, he persisted in working during the day, returning home to cook, wash clothes, and take care of his wife after work.
Wang Anyi currently works in a mechanical factory in the urban area of Xuancheng, earning only over 1000 yuan per month. "Need to rent a house, support the family, and also pay for my treatment." Pan Li, who usually smiles, felt somewhat sad when talking about these things.
Soon after marriage, Pan Li became pregnant. Worried that her disease might be inherited by the child, though Pan Li really wanted the baby, the couple carefully considered and ultimately decided not to keep the child. They had also planned to adopt a child later, but this wish was dashed as Pan Li's condition worsened.
"After each dialysis, it costs more than 500 yuan, and every month just for medical expenses, it costs more than 4000 yuan." Pan Li told reporters that this year she had already spent over 70,000 yuan on treatment, not knowing how many more years she would need to rely on dialysis to survive.
Pan Li's decision greatly affected Wang Anyi. Her determination also moved her husband. "If you donate your body, I will donate my bone marrow." Wang Anyi expressed, "Good-hearted people have given us great help, and we also want to help those who need help."
After Pan Li was diagnosed with uremia last year, the medical expenses caused considerable difficulty for the family, forcing them to borrow money from relatives and friends. "How much money can everyone lend us?" Wang Anyi said that after returning to Xuancheng, he couldn't find suitable work and could only do manual labor in the factory workshop, which was not easy for him who originally suffered from lumbar vertebrae disease.
Not long after marriage, Pan Li became pregnant. Concerned that her illness might be passed on to the child, although Pan Li really wanted the child, the couple carefully considered and ultimately decided not to have the child. They had also planned to adopt a child later, but this wish was abandoned as Pan Li's condition worsened.
Husband: Not afraid.
Wife: How can you think like this?
Husband: Find another woman and live.
Wife: It will be harder.
Husband: I do not regret! While gently touching the scars left by surgery on Pan Li's wrist, Wang Anyi felt deep sorrow.
"Each dialysis costs more than 500 yuan, and each month just for medical expenses, it costs more than 4000 yuan." Pan Li told reporters that this year she had already spent over 70,000 yuan on treatment, not knowing how many more years she would need to rely on dialysis to survive.
Wife: Don't want to drag you down.