The five characters "admiration, jealousy, hatred" were quite popular in the collection at first. Hatred stems from jealousy, and jealousy stems from admiration. Admiration is due to the desire for oneself to possess certain advantages, benefits, or superior conditions that others have. Jealousy refers to the psychological state of indifference, denigration, exclusion, and even hostility that people have towards the corresponding fortunate ones or potential fortunate ones when competing for certain rights. Admiration is just the surface of jealousy, while hatred is the core of jealousy.
"The Monkey King mentality" is one of the weaknesses of human nature. Jealousy is a human instinct, and the psychology of jealousy originates from the Monkey King mentality. Each of us, since we are born, has an innate strong sense of self-respect, which is that oneself is the "Monkey King", the most important, and the strongest. When someone regards oneself as the most important person or oneself acknowledges oneself as the strongest, one will show feelings of joy, comfort, and happiness. Conversely, when someone does not regard oneself as the most important person, and oneself also acknowledges that indeed one is not as good as others, one will show feelings of arrogance, sadness, unease, anxiety, irritability, and even fear, often accompanied by pain. This means that the Monkey King mentality is closely linked with human anxiety responses, and can make people feel pain and negative emotions.
When competitors at the same level perform exceptionally well in front of oneself, the feedback from the bottom of one's heart that one is indeed not the "Monkey King" will immediately hurt the "only I am supreme" Monkey King mentality. Discovering that one is not as good as others, discovering that one is not the strongest person, thus triggers "admiration, jealousy, hatred".
If "admiration, jealousy, hatred" occurs in the workplace, it will not only affect one's work efficiency, damage interpersonal relationships, but also lose the joy and satisfaction gained from work. How can one overcome the "admiration, jealousy, hatred" in the workplace?
What to do if you are envied by others:
Objective analysis, calm treatment.
For "admiration, jealousy, hatred" in the workplace, don't rush to respond or express dissatisfaction. Calm down, think about whether there is any useful information in others' "admiration, jealousy, hatred". If there are indeed some problems with oneself, humbly accept them and strive to adjust oneself; if they are baseless, there is no need to pay attention to them.
Adjust cognition, strengthen confidence.
Don't complain or blame those who "admire, envy, hate" you behind your back. Instead, thank them and adjust your cognition. Don't think that you have suffered a great injustice, but see this situation as a training opportunity for growth. Someone's "admiration, jealousy, hatred" indicates that your "realm" is higher than theirs. If you respond to their "admiration, jealousy, hatred" behavior, it will exactly meet their expectations and pull you down to their level. Therefore, believe in yourself, continuously improve your confidence and tolerance.
Enrich knowledge, increase talent.
"High reputation invites slander", "guns target the leading bird". The most important thing in the workplace is to do well oneself, know what kind of person you want to become, and what goals you want to achieve. Continuously learn, enrich your knowledge system, deepen your inner self, improve your cultivation, and continuously perfect yourself. Cultivate a broad-minded attitude towards life, expand your breadth of mind, and when you reach a new height, others' "admiration, jealousy, hatred" will also be transformed into "respect, admiration, and love".
Establish emotional relationships, dissolve jealousy with love.
In the workplace, pay attention to communicating and exchanging with colleagues and leaders, treat them sincerely, and dissolve "admiration, jealousy, hatred" with kindness and love. Understand each other, help each other, support and cooperate with each other, which is conducive to dissolving others' jealousy towards oneself.
Overcome your own jealousy psychology, improve moral cultivation and inner self.
Broaden your mind, see the differences between different individuals, and learn to adopt, respect, and appreciate these individual differences. A garden with a hundred flowers blooming can attract more tourists, but if there is only one kind of flower, the garden will lose much of its charm. At the same time, don't monopolize good things, learn to think from another perspective, and don't just consider your own needs while depriving others of their needs.
Find the gap, catch up directly.
Where a person is jealous, it also indicates where his inferiority lies, and where his confidence lies. Thus, it also indicates what goals he may pursue. Therefore, when feelings of admiration, jealousy, and hatred arise, objectively and calmly analyze one's own situation, seriously reflect on where the other person's advantage lies, the reason why he has this advantage, and what one needs to do to reach that level. Focus on enriching one's knowledge and improving one's abilities, rather than pulling others down due to psychological imbalance.
Use legitimate methods to vent emotions.
Be good at seeing the advantages one possesses, explore one's potential, first learn to respect oneself, love oneself, and accept oneself. Vent negative emotions through legitimate methods, such as confiding in family and trusted friends, talking about troubles, and relieving negative emotions through exercise.
This article is from: Warehouse Supervisor Selection - Retired Elder_7673, Party Member Personal Evaluation Work Summary_5194, 2010 Annual Inspection and Supervision Work Summary_4980