How much damage does it take for an urban person to prove your love?
Speaking of the incident of Sun Nan and Pan Wei... The divorce between Sun Nan and Mai Hongmei is no longer news, but the hidden details between Sun Nan and his new lover Pan Wei are probably little known. A close friend of Sun Nan once revealed to reporters that Sun Nan wasn't initially serious with Pan Wei; it was just a flirtation in his spare time, something he didn't expect to end this way. Sun Nan had never thought about divorce, but Pan Wei was a very cunning woman. She found Mai Hongmei and told her about her affair with Sun Nan. Mai Hongmei was extremely heartbroken at the time. She had been with Sun Nan since she was in her twenties and had taken great care of both the family and Sun Nan. She couldn't understand why this happened, so for a while, she often went out and didn't return home, and her personality changed. Later, they ended up living separately. Mai Hongmei's low spirits played right into Pan Wei's scheme. However, perhaps considering his status, Sun Nan hadn't yet decided to divorce. At this point, the child brought Pan Wei a new opportunity. After being pregnant for some time, Pan Wei told Sun Nan that there was a problem with the fetus's heart. She also said that her parents were constantly pressuring her, leaving her feeling helpless, even contemplating suicide. It was then that Sun Nan gave in. In the end, Pan Wei won this battle. Perhaps, some love requires a certain level of harm to obtain, but ultimately, how much damage does it take to finally prove love?
Two pieces of not-so-new news... In June 2009, a bloody incident occurred at a famous university in the north. A male student from the class of 2007 had his first overnight stay with his girlfriend. They spent a passionate night together, but because the girlfriend criticized the male student's "inadequate performance," she decisively broke up with him. Heartbroken, the male student lost hope and, in front of many teachers and students, castrated himself with a knife before jumping off the fifth floor of the dormitory building. Despite the efforts of teachers, students, and medical personnel to send him to the hospital for emergency treatment, he eventually died due to severe injuries. On July 21, 2009, at around 3 PM, on the road in front of the Hao Rizi Restaurant in Guiyang, a citizen suddenly noticed a man standing outside the soundproof wall of the elevated bridge shouting towards the Hao Rizi Restaurant. According to informed sources, the man who jumped was surnamed Song, aged 24. Song was deeply troubled by love and took extreme measures to express his affection. After multiple attempts to dissuade him failed, people had no choice but to call the police for help.
Not just passersby... Old stories are hard to revisit. Most of these difficult-to-revisit old stories involve the romantic affairs of celebrities. Some say love is poison; it can make people lose their rationality. Even big-name stars sometimes find it hard to extricate themselves when caught in such situations... Chen Hong... It's reported that during the passionate romance between Ni Ping and Chen Kaige, an unexpected rival emerged—Chen Hong. Chen Hong was selected as the female lead in Chen Kaige's film *Feng Yue*, though she didn't end up becoming the lead actress, they quickly became romantically involved. However, Chen Kaige was still seeing Ni Ping. It's rumored that Chen Kaige wanted to sever ties with Chen Hong, but unexpectedly, Chen Hong showed up at the film set pregnant and threatened to commit suicide, almost causing a fatal situation. Seeing this, Ni Ping had no choice but to step aside voluntarily... Le Jie'er... Dawn Le Jie'er's fiery romance was opposed by Dawn's mother from the start. Later, with Dawn busy shooting movies, Le Jie'er, left alone, tended towards infidelity, which made Dawn furious and propose a breakup. But Le Jie'er cried herself red-eyed frequently, calling Dawn's close friends late at night to plead for reconciliation, making Dawn increasingly annoyed. Eventually, Le Jie'er resorted to the ultimate move—"wrist-cutting" suicide, forcing Dawn to give in... Zhang Mao... The mainland girl Zhang Mao, who caused a huge upheaval in the marriage of Ni Zhen and Zhou Huimin, reportedly attempted wrist-cutting suicide upon learning that Ni Zhen had returned to Zhou Huimin, in an attempt to win back Ni Zhen's heart. Of course, the result was unsuccessful self-harm. Now, Ni Zhen and Zhou Huimin are happily reunited under the moonlight, and Zhang Mao has returned to her normal life... Chow Yun-fat... In 1978, Chow Yun-fat met Chen Yulian on the set of “The Tycoon” and began a five-year love marathon. Back then, the two were considered a perfect match, but unexpectedly, their relationship ended in disarray. At the end of 1982, someone reported that a 27-year-old Mr. Chow drank a large amount of bleach and dish soap at a certain building in Hong Kong, later being rushed to the hospital for stomach pumping. After being saved by doctors, his condition improved. It was later confirmed that the protagonist of this shocking suicide attempt in Hong Kong was none other than Chow Yun-fat... Edison Chen... The “Sex Photo Scandal” protagonist Edison Chen was once exposed for repeatedly proposing to his girlfriend Yang Yongqing in Boston, vowing to change his ways, and even attempting wrist-cutting several times to force a marriage, but the proposal was rejected after discussions with her family... Meng Guangmei... Actress Meng Guangmei once used a fruit knife to self-harm due to her foreign boyfriend's philandering, warning him to mend his ways. However, her boyfriend remained unchanged, and when Meng Guangmei tried to break up with him, she faced his threats of suicide...
No matter what, don't use harm to prove love... Modern people seem indifferent to losing love, but from the way they pursue love, one can see that they are less confident about love compared to those holding traditional views on love, and even dare not dream of having lifelong love. When pursuing love, they appear quite pragmatic, like "seizing the moment" and only caring about having once possessed. Actually, this shows more psychological emptiness. So, what kind of psychological quality do we need to be able to navigate modern love freely?...
1. Believe in love, but don't idealize it... Believe that true love exists, but hoping it will surpass everything is unrealistic. Such understanding can make us not idolize love, thus not easily getting hurt or disappointed.
2. Be flexible in love... When committing, you can be selfless, but when results appear, let rationality step in, allowing you to maintain control over the direction of love.
3. Proactive and rational posture... Waiting for love like marking a boat for a lost sword will certainly miss opportunities, but blindly seizing love may harm others and yourself. With a proactive attitude, confidently pursue love without letting improper pursuit ruin it.
4. Have the ability to love... The ability to love includes the capacity to give, understand, forgive, and bear responsibility. Don't expect your partner to shoulder everything; many things still need to be faced alone. Giving is more beneficial to love than taking, making oneself happier. Forgiveness can have surprising effects on love, achieving goals that demanding, criticizing, or retreating cannot reach.
5. Have a bit of psychological flexibility... Enjoy the intimacy of love, accept the distance of your partner, and be able to handle looseness and tightness gracefully. Cherish what you have, and if you lose it, turn quickly without endlessly mourning the past.
6. Understand a bit of love psychology... The state of seeming attainable yet unattainable can easily heat up emotions, using this to enhance the atmosphere of love. When your partner encounters setbacks, they need the most comfort.
7. Have a bit of economic foundation... Although material wealth and love aren't necessarily proportional, having a bit of economic foundation definitely benefits the healthy growth of love. Love disconnected from worldly concerns is hard to last long.