▲ Do not test a man, and never threaten him with divorce as an excuse, because if you imply too much, it will make the man lose his sense of security. Subconsciously, he may prepare for divorce, thus losing all passion in the marriage.
▲ Do not take advantage of a man's affection for you to order him around. Don't interfere too much with his dreams and pursuits. You are his wife, not him. Don't assume that you know him well, because sometimes people don't even understand themselves.
▲ Do not believe nonsense like "if you love me, you should understand me." When you hope a man satisfies your material or sexual requests under certain circumstances, direct expression is more practical than letting him guess your thoughts.
▲ Everyone has different ways of relaxing, let alone the gender differences between men and women. For the matter of asking a man to go shopping with you, it can be occasional but not every time. His unwillingness to go shopping with you is because he doesn't like shopping, which has nothing to do with whether he loves you.
▲ Do not compare a man's pre-marriage and post-marriage behavior. Before marriage, a man will try every possible way to win you over, making him the passive party. However, after marriage, both the man and woman are on the same platform. Therefore, if a man is 50% diligent after marriage compared to before, you should be happy about it.
▲ Each person is unique, so there will be many differences in their cognition of things and ways of doing things. Do not try to change a man, but rather adapt to him. Just like we cannot change society, learning to adapt makes us closer to happiness.
▲ Do not joke about a man's flaws, especially during arguments. Learn to address issues directly. Adult accounts from the past should not be brought up repeatedly.
▲ Do not expect sex alone to keep a man trapped. Because sex can change or become evil over time, love him by showing more care in daily life.
▲ Instead of spending all your efforts supervising a man, it’s better to inspire him with actual actions. A binding marriage will make a man more repulsive, while an inspiring marriage will leave a lasting impression on him.
▲ Do not compare your husband with other husbands. Because you haven't lived with other men, what you see from them is usually superficial. When you chose your husband, you loved him passionately. It's only after marriage that you discovered his bad habits. Thus, everyone has their own flaws.