Stone asked: What am I supposed to do to find the person I love, my wife? Should I love me or should I find someone else who loves my wife? Buddha smiled and said: The answer lies within your own heart. Over the years, loving someone has been a tough battle for you, making your life feel full and enabling you to always move forward. Do you love the person? Or does the person love you? Stone laughed and said: But my friends have tried to persuade me to find a girl who can do what my wife does. Buddha said: In that case, your life will be doomed to mediocrity! You used to constantly pursue and improve yourself because of love. If you don't chase after the one you love, your self-improvement will also slow down. Stone grabbed Buddha’s words and said: If I track down the person I love, could it be... Buddha said: Because she is the person you love, letting her live happily and joyfully is what you consider as the greatest happiness in life, so you will make continuous efforts for her to live more happily and joyfully. Well-being and happiness are not limited, so your efforts will also be limitless, and you will not stop. Stone said: Isn't my life already hard enough? Buddha said: So many years have passed, do you think your life has been hard? Stone shook his head and laughed again. Stone asked: Why don't we love those who treat us well? Buddha shook his head and said: Do you need to treat those who love you well? Stone gave a bitter laugh and said: I think I don't need to. Buddha said: Tell me your reasons. Stone wrote: I love more demanding requirements, it's my belief that doesn't require a mixture of sympathy mixed with pity. I sincerely asked her from the bottom of my heart to love, compassion and tolerance. Although tolerance is also a form of love, while it brings a sense of happiness, I hate it. If my love for her mixes these feelings, I would rather she ignores me or directly rejects my love. I still have time to come out because the feeling is only more trapped and deeper despair than hope to reality, because the pain was desperate? That hope and pain are indefinite. Buddha smiled and said: Well, you have given the answer! Stone asked: Why did I fall in love with a girl before, and she was the most beautiful in my eyes? Now I love another girl, and I often find taller and more beautiful girls than her. Buddha asked: Are you sure you really love her, and she is the one you love the most in this world? Stone hesitated and said: Of course! Buddha said: Congratulations. Your love for her is mature, sensible, sincere and profound. Stone was a little surprised and said: Oh? Buddha went on to say: She is not the world's most beautiful, even when you are so in love with her, you are clearly aware of this fact. But you still love her so much because you love not only her beautiful youth but also know Shaohua perishable, the roots of the old trade, but your love for her has gone beyond the surface of things and also beyond the years. You love her whole being, mainly her unique heart. Stone couldn't help but say: Yes, I really love her purity and goodness, to sympathize with her childishness. Buddha smiled and said: Time tests everything you love. Stone asked: What kind of time makes two people who had no previous passion become more dependent on each other? Buddha said: It's because your heart towards love has undergone subtle changes towards family... Stone touched his head and said: Family? Buddha continued: When love reaches a certain degree of time, it will unknowingly turn into a family, you will gradually see her as part of your life, so you will be more tolerant and understanding. Only family is your God from the beginning of the scheduled birth, but also you have no choice, so you do later, only to adapt to your family, no matter how noble you were born, you don't speak any conditions for the acceptance of them, and you charge for their good. Stone thought and nodded: Family is indeed the case. Buddha smiled and said: Love is just the beginning because of mutual appreciation, because the heart fell in love, as inseparable from each other while married, but more important is the need for tolerance, understanding, habits adaptation will work life. Stone was silent: Love is a feeling. Stone asked: When I was in university, I met a girl whom I loved at that time, but she didn't love me then; but now she loves me, and I now seem to have no feeling before, or that I seem not to have loved her, why is there such a situation? Buddha asked: Can you from now on no longer think of her? Stone meditated for a while and said: I think I can, intentionally or unintentionally, as in so many years I always think of her, or when students gambled information about her, I have had extraordinary interest; She received a letter or phone when my heart is strange excitement tension; single reason for so many years is because she has not forgotten, or I to her standards to find me in the future of women friends; but I now do not care for her. Buddha sent a long sigh: Now before you even though you have no change in appearance, but your heart has gone through a long journey, or that you marked for your love a realistic and rational mind. You don't like her only from you this knot, knot is the need to resolve their own, to know Review of past lives of 500 times in exchange for this life pass before, people always have choices, as how to choose or to your own decisions, who also can not help you. Stone said no more, just looked quietly looking far, the original Buddha is not a panacea... Stone asked: In such an era, such a society, a person like me this way hard to love a person. Is it worth it? Buddha said: What do you think? Stone thought, speechless. Buddha was also silent for a moment, finally he opened its mouth: Road since it is their choice, you can not blame others, you can no regrets. Stone took a deep breath, and realized that he got it. He saw the Buddha firmly in one eye and said no more.
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