From the perspective of the collective: ancient weddings leave you no chance to instill correct values and guidance, helping children build accurate and positive life values from a young age; during a certain process, if a child's words touch on a sensitive spot for the collective parents, such as when a child says someone else's mom is very beautiful. From a legal perspective, marriage is the union of two individuals with no blood ties through a legal process, forming a family and being mutually titled as "husband" or "wife." Along with these titles come many duties and responsibilities for both parties.
What is marriage? Marriage is the legally recognized union of a man and a woman, and the marital relationship formed thereby. The marital relationship is a special legal relationship. In human legal interactions, there is always the shortest time interval between spouses, the deepest feelings, and the heaviest reliance. The marital relationship is also the foundation and core of family relationships. Once marriage is established, the couple begins their new life together, organizing and managing the family's economic life, having children, passing down culture, handling household affairs, and taking care of the home.
Find a suitable, peaceful time to communicate with your child:
1. What do you like most about mom and dad? Remember this well, it’s the most magical aspect of yourself in your child's eyes, an image you should maintain at all times.
2. For older children, you can ask who's mom/dad they like among their classmates and why. Understand the child's aspirations. Positive aspirations could be: her mom is very gentle, which changes your focus accordingly. Non-positive ones might be: her mom is very beautiful; his dad is very wealthy and buys him a lot of toys, etc. This gives you the opportunity to guide the child with the right mindset and values, helping them build a correct and positive outlook on life from a young age.
During a certain process, if a child's words touch a sensitive spot for the collective parent, such as saying another person's mom is very beautiful, it doesn't mean that your mom isn't beautiful. Everyone has an inherent appreciation for beauty.
What do you like most about mom and dad? Remember this well, it’s the most magical aspect of yourself in your child's eyes, an image you should maintain at all times.
2. For older children, you can ask who's mom/dad they like among their classmates and why. Understand the child's aspirations. Positive aspirations could be: her mom is very gentle, which changes your focus accordingly. Non-positive ones might be: happiness is one's own understanding and feeling, not what others superficially perceive. Maintaining a family requires trust, understanding, communication, tolerance, and even sacrifice. Rice, flour, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar, tea, housing, work, children, housework, reality, and trivialities - a plain marital life is truly real life. How to make a plain life extraordinary depends on you having a broad and positive heart to understand the nature of life and marriage. Less nagging, more empathy, conflicts are not absent. To maintain harmony, at least nominal harmony, sacrificing individuality is necessary.
This is not difficult to understand. A group of people of varying heights walking originally has different rhythms. To coordinate into a harmonious and beautiful rhythm, how simple is that? But after military training, arranging from tall to short and marching in unison makes things look much neater. Nowadays, hotel waiters have to undergo queue training, showing it's an effective way to improve unevenness.
Less calculation, more tolerance, try to pay without calculating gains and losses when she says: her mom is very beautiful; his dad is very rich and buys him a lot of toys, etc. Some people think marriage is the end of love or perhaps a "grave," while others say it is the sublimation and guarantee of love. There are also some who believe that marriage is just marriage, a necessary process in life, not to be judged as right or wrong.