The loneliness of men and women is completely different. Men's loneliness comes from the thoughts of the lower half of the body, while women's loneliness stems from the emptiness in their hearts. It seems that any member of the opposite sex can alleviate a man's loneliness, whereas a woman's loneliness often requires the one who understands her the most. Especially for women in big cities, they can resist the temptation of a glass of red wine and navigate with ease between social circles. But no one can withstand the torment of deep-seated loneliness in their hearts. Yet everyone persists like tenacious warriors, adhering to the principle of "better to be alone than settle," not saying yes easily. This persistence makes the loneliness endured by people heart-wrenching, but it also shows more strength. Everyone firmly upholds their last choice threshold, experiencing the pain of their own loneliness.
In this city, Zou Zou feels that we don't lack friends, but we do lack the most intimate ones. Therefore, seemingly calm life scenes make us feel extremely lonely.
1. Often going shopping alone, doing many things alone, not wanting to be constrained, without a boyfriend, always thinking that such a life is pretty good. But every time walking on the street, pairs of couples pass by, leaving a sense of inexplicable loss and desolation. Every time I like to have many trophies, making sure I have many things in my hands, which is also a sense of victory, but I have lost to the love in my heart.
2. Not sleeping at midnight, cigarette butts scattered all over the floor, then battling online buddies in a game of military chess, feeling very refreshed.
3. Waking up at 6:40 AM, the phone ringing loudly, it's mom checking up again: "Have you eaten?" Pretending to be busy cooking, mom hangs up understandingly. Entering the kitchen, among the rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar, and tea, there's an ambiguous chuckle. The pots and pans emit cold light. Opening the fridge, the live fish bought on Sunday has become a cold corpse, the edges of the vegetables have started turning yellow. After a busy session, smoke rises, the kitchen fills with fragrance.
4. Although having a boyfriend, living far apart, similar to being alone, the characters in the mobile phone are just decorations, the phone only serves as an alarm clock. Going to work and coming back home, watching TV is the only entertainment. Occasionally, I go out with friends, enjoying freedom while also enjoying solitude. Feeling helpless when sick, seeing them together, I hope you are by my side too.
5. Wanting to eat Sichuan boiled fish so much, but couldn't think of anyone free to accompany me, so I went alone. Later, the boss saw me alone and suggested I eat a set meal instead to avoid waste. Thinking he was well-meaning, I didn't refuse and nodded in agreement. But I really wanted to eat Sichuan boiled fish.
6. Once my electric bike broke down on the road, and no one could help. Crying all the way home, feeling very lonely. But after getting home, my mood improved, realizing how strong I am.
7. After drinking too much while entertaining clients, calmly sending them off, wanting to go to the McDonald's restroom, ended up fainting there. Waking up to find myself sent to the hospital by the McDonald's manager at 2:30 AM. Lying alone in the hospital, flipping through all the phone numbers, not knowing whom to call. In the end, waited until dawn and returned home alone.
8. Divorced for three years at age 42, breakfast at the cafeteria, lunch at the cafeteria, dinner at home (too embarrassed to eat dinner at the cafeteria again, everyone doesn't know I'm already divorced). Most afraid of holidays, guessing the kids also fear others looking at them differently, so we choose to spend holidays at home.
9. Solo travel is great, can do as one pleases, no need to consider anyone else's feelings. There are always people in the world fighting alone like me. So during travels, we meet by chance, talk sincerely, take care of each other, and then part ways without needing to know each other's names or phone numbers. Just being able to happily travel together somewhere is enough. This unencumbered feeling is wonderful. But when the plane lands, almost everyone contacts their loved ones before the plane even stabilizes, except my phone remains silent. I don't know who to tell that I've come back...
10. Once came alone to a big city, never experienced the beautiful night scenery of the city late at night, nor felt the wind blow my long hair on the overpass because the crowded crowd had already drowned me, small as I am. With eyes full of hurried people, only I didn't know where to go. So with a disheartened heart, the small rented room was already covered in dust, tears streaming down my face while cleaning...
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