Haikou, February 29th — Newspaper (reported by Chen Min with photographs) — A 13-year-old middle school student not only became addicted to the internet, neglecting his studies, but also stole money from his family multiple times and robbed elementary school students. On the morning of February 29th, Wu's parents told this reporter that their son has been missing from home for over a month. Wu feels both heartbroken and helpless about his son's disappearance.
The son strayed from the right path. Wu has two sons; even though his business is small, it can solve the food and clothing needs of the whole family. For ten years, day and night, Wu worked hard to earn money, hoping to provide a better reading environment for his sons and a promising future. However, what puzzles him is that his youngest son began to deviate from his expectations and take a wrong turn.
According to reports, Wu's son Xiao Chuan (a pseudonym), who is 14 years old in two months, was in the first grade at Haikou No. 10 Elementary School. In the past two years, Xiao Chuan has become increasingly rebellious, not only becoming addicted to online games but also unwilling to go to school sometimes. What made the family angry was that Xiao Chuan often stole money from home, spending amounts ranging from dozens to hundreds of yuan. Just before this year's Spring Festival, after stealing 2000 yuan from home, Xiao Chuan ran away and hasn't returned home yet. Wu went multiple times to ask Xiao Chuan's classmates at school, but there were no clues. Helplessly, he could only check his son's internet traces through the knowledge of computer friends. Judging from the angle of Xiao Chuan's QQ login, this month he has been using the internet more frequently at certain internet cafes, hiding in the western region of Haikou's Liberation territory these days.
Wu also told the reporter that since starting middle school, Xiao Chuan often skipped school and formed a group of boys who robbed students of their belongings. Regarding this, Wu reflected that after repeated ideological work, he firmly reported his son's robbery of elementary school students to the police station and requested the arrest of his son. The police station determined that Xiao Chuan was under 14 years old, and since the injured students did not report the incident, the police did not open a case based on this.
Parents lament: Mismanagement of friends is the main reason. Wu seemed to recall that Xiao Chuan, from being very smart and diligent as a child, always quickly mastered things beyond his age level in learning. What caused Xiao Chuan to change like this? Wu recalled that when Xiao Chuan was in the fifth grade of elementary school, he started frequenting internet cafes and began stealing money from home at that time. Wu had warned Xiao Chuan more than once.
Wu showed the reporter Xiao Chuan's student handbook. The reporter noticed that since elementary school, consecutive head teachers gave Xiao Chuan evaluations where self-evaluations were also written, such as "living in hiding with these people all day, not listening to family advice, robbing students and following these people."
Psychological expert suggestion: Parental care. The reporter learned from Haikou No. 10 Middle School that although Xiao Chuan's performance in the last semester was not ideal, the school did not give up on him. Xiao Chuan's head teacher, Mr. Mo, expressed hope that Xiao Chuan would complete winter assignments and register at school as soon as possible, abiding by school discipline.
In the afternoon, the reporter interviewed Secretary General Yao, Vice President of the Counselor Association. He said that parents cannot simply understand Xiao Chuan's departure from home as just an addiction. Xiao Chuan's act of robbing students' property causes harm to social order, which represents a very serious psychological issue within the industry. Mr. Yao believes that a large part of the abnormal behavior of children stems from the family and school environments of the children. Feeling confused, Mr. Yao suggested that parents think about what their children might be thinking. Is the family relationship harmonious? Are the children being hurt? Where are the pressures coming from for the children? When you discover problems from your own perspective, then with an open mind accept the children, forgive all the mistakes they have made, let the children return home, feel the warmth of home, then slowly communicate, slowly helping the children re-establish their philosophy of life.
If you see Xiao Chuan or have any good suggestions, please contact our newspaper hotline at 66810862, and parents can call to help Xiao Chuan.