After Ding Jinjie's parents returned to their hometown, the heavy burden of taking care of him fell on Li Haili. Speaking of this newlywed daughter-in-law, Ding Yuanming couldn't stop praising her: "During the five months that Ding Jinjie was ill, she took care of him every step of the way, which was very touching."
"In these five months, I've already spent 80,000 yuan, sold all the valuable things at home, borrowed money from all relatives and friends who could lend us money, and we are really out of options now. A friend with the same disease told me that a kidney transplant now costs more than 300,000 yuan, and there's no guarantee of finding a donor kidney," Ding Jinjie began to waver in his determination to continue treatment.
Three months after registering their marriage, he was diagnosed with uremia. On the morning of the 14th, at the wedding scene, Li Haili and Ding Jinjie displayed the golden paper rings on their hands. Li Haili and Ding Jinjie walked through a patient-only passage towards the wedding venue. After the wedding, they cherished each other in the new room remodeled from a ward. Before the wedding, a nurse helped the bride Li Haili adjust her corsage.
According to Li Haili's introduction, the two met in university and started dating in 2007. In 2009, after graduation, she followed her boyfriend to Rizhao from her hometown Heze. Although their salaries were not high, together they earned over 2000 yuan per month, and they lived happily. In June 2011, with relatively stable jobs, they registered their marriage. Just as they were planning when to hold the wedding, misfortune struck. In September of that year, Ding Jinjie was diagnosed with uremia.
On the morning of the 14th, the corridor outside the renal medicine ward of Qianfo Mountain Hospital in Shandong Province was crowded with people. At around 10 o'clock, the bride Li Haili, dressed in a white wedding dress, and her husband Ding Jinjie walked out of the ward into the wedding hall converted from a reception room.
Because of financial constraints due to medical expenses, they couldn't afford diamond rings. Ding Jinjie folded two rings out of golden paper, and with tears in their eyes, they put the rings on each other's fingers. The bride joked that she was content, and a paper ring was enough for her.
After completing the compatibility test, Ding Jinjie's parents hurried back to their hometown Dingjia Village, Hongning Town, Wulian County. "No matter if the child needs a kidney transplant or dialysis, it requires money, so we need to earn money," said Ding Yuanming. The family's main source of income was farming, with occasional odd jobs during idle agricultural periods, but their economic situation was not affluent.
During dialysis treatment, besides enduring physical pain, Ding Jinjie and Li Haili also had to bear significant financial pressure. "Nowadays, hospitalization fees, dialysis costs, etc., add up to more than ten thousand yuan per month, which we simply cannot afford." To save money, Li Haili rarely bought food at the hospital, often running to the campus of Shandong Normal University to buy cheaper meals.
□ Love's Confession
- Excerpted from Li Haili's QQ Space
Seeing Ding Jinjie's condition, Li Haili was worried. "I thought about it and decided to have our wedding, to give him some pressure and make him more confident in overcoming the illness. We've never celebrated Valentine's Day, and setting the wedding on this day will be something we remember forever." This seemed to bring up Li Haili's happy memories, "Last July 7th, he gave me flowers for the first time." A blush appeared on Li Haili's face.
"Initially, when the doctor said it was uremia, we couldn't believe it," said Ding Jinjie's father, Ding Yuanming, who brought his son to Qianfo Mountain Hospital in Shandong Province for further treatment. "The doctor checked and said if a kidney transplant wasn't possible, long-term dialysis would be necessary."
Maybe because of the fatigue from taking care of her husband, Li Haili's eyes were bloodshot. During the wedding ceremony, the host asked, "Bride, whether in poverty or wealth, health or sickness, do you still want to marry him?" The bride Li Haili firmly replied, "I do!" Applause filled the room, and many people were moved to tears.
Since living-donor transplants are relatively cheaper, the entire family went to the hospital for matching tests. "My parents, uncles and aunts, all the relatives came for the test, but none matched," Ding Jinjie said dejectedly.
She came to Jinan to take care of him for five months.
■ Along the way, with you, even if it's tough, I'm willing; it's worth it even if our meeting is destined for separation; along the way, with you, even if it's painful, I'm willing, even if this life is destined to separate from you.
Along the way, with you, even if it's tough, I'm willing.
Love's Decision
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The host asked, "Whether in poverty or wealth, health or sickness, do you still want to marry him?" The bride Li Haili firmly answered, "I do!" On Valentine's Day, February 14th, a special wedding was held in the ward of Qianfo Mountain Hospital in Jinan. The groom, a boy from Wulian suffering from uremia, and the bride, a girl from Heze who had been in love with him for over four years. Due to poverty, the boy wanted to give up treatment. To strengthen the boy's confidence in fighting against the disease, the girl held the wedding on Valentine's Day. Their wedding rings were made of golden paper folded by the boy.
■ The three words "uremia" brought fear, disaster, and helplessness, because we never thought this disease would happen to us, it's really scary. But at the same time, it's also lucky, because it gave us an extraordinary experience, feelings that others can't understand.
Unfortunate arrival
Two paper rings promised a lifetime
She proactively proposed holding the wedding
Wedding site
Never giving up
■ There has never been a thought in my mind about "what to do next", what I think about is only using all methods to cooperate with everyone, seeking the greatest hope for survival, seeking more days we can be together, cherishing everything we currently possess.
"I had congenital heart disease as a child, and the surgery at age five cost the family a lot of money. Then I went to school, and the family didn't have much savings. I really don't want to trouble my parents anymore, nor do I want to drag her down," Ding Jinjie kept trying to persuade his girlfriend and family that he no longer wanted to receive treatment.