In the chapter on training objectives of Beijing Baily Expansion Company, expansion coaches often tell everyone to maintain an optimistic attitude and create a harmonious and happy atmosphere. Everyone knows it's good in theory, but when we encounter unpleasant things, we all know not to get angry. Although it seems like we don't care on the surface, we still can't help but be troubled inside. What should we do? Beijing Baily Expansion Coach warns everyone that there is a simple trick to quickly change bad emotions, which is very practical. Let your mood improve instantly, I hope it will be enlightening to everyone.
1. Keep your head up and chest out.
You may think this is common knowledge and has no depth. Everyone knows that before correcting your mind, please correct your body first. Why? In fact, physiology and psychology are closely related. I believe you must have had such an experience: when you're feeling low, we often feel listless and disheartened; and when we're in high spirits, naturally we keep our heads up and chests out, walking with a proud gait. Therefore, the posture of the body indeed has a close relationship with the state of mind.
From another perspective, when a person keeps their head up and chest out, breathing becomes smoother, and deep breathing is a great way to manage stress. So when keeping your head up and chest out, we feel more able to cope with stress, and it's easier to develop an "it's not a big deal" optimistic attitude. Also, information related to muscle conditions will be transmitted back to the brain via the nervous system. When we keep our heads up and chest out, the brain receives such information: limbs are at ease, breathing is smooth, indicating a very relaxed state, and the mood should be pretty good.
After the brain makes a judgment of being in a pleasant mood, one's own mood also becomes more relaxed. Therefore, body posture really does affect mood. If you hang your head, it's easy to feel disheartened; but if you keep your chest out, it's easy to feel energetic. So this incredibly simple method should not be underestimated. Next time pessimistic thoughts arise in your mind, quickly adjust your posture and bring out an optimistic mindset by keeping your head up and chest out!
2. Speak in a cheerful tone
When it comes to interpersonal communication, there is an extremely important principle: the key is not what we say, but how we say it. The "how" part includes tone, facial expressions, and body movements. And what is often overlooked is that our voice actually has expression. The same sentence, said in different tones, can convey completely different meanings. Don't believe me? Please try the following exercise.
A says angrily: "You're so annoying!" (Go ahead and shout it out with your most ferocious expression and tone!) B says teasingly: "You're so annoying!" (This time use your most adorable tone, dragging out the last syllable.)
How about that? Completely different feelings, right? However, many people often don't realize that the tone of their voice can easily unintentionally reveal their mood. For example, some people always habitually yell "Hello!" when answering the phone, using just one word to show their anger to the person on the other end before they even speak. And even worse, if they hear it's their boss calling, their tone immediately softens, starting to bow and scrape: "Oh, boss, what do you need?" Their mood changes accordingly.
Knowing the magic of tone, I want to remind you that if you want to become happier, pretend you're already a happy person and start speaking with a cheerful voice. You're absolutely right, give it a try!
3. Use positive words instead of negative ones
What we say actually greatly affects our own attitude and emotions, have you noticed? Generally speaking, the words used in daily life can be divided into three categories: positive, negative, and neutral words.
Let's talk about negative words first, such as: "problem", "failure", "difficulty", "trouble", "tension", etc. If you often use these negative words, feelings of panic and helplessness will follow. We find that optimistic people rarely use these negative words; they replace them with positive ones. For example, instead of saying "there are difficulties", they say "there are challenges"; instead of saying "I worry", they say "I care"; instead of saying "there are problems", they say "there are opportunities."
Doesn't that feel completely different? Once you start using positive words, the feeling in your heart becomes proactive, giving you more motivation to face life, isn't it? Besides, optimistic people also make neutral words more positive. For example, "change" is a neutral word because change can be good, but it can also get worse. Try this: if you replace "I need to change" with "I need to progress", it implies that you will get better over time, naturally becoming more optimistic.
So speaking actually requires careful consideration of every word. As long as you change your negative catchphrases to positive and proactive ones, you will immediately feel more optimistic and happy.
4. No complaints, only problem-solving
Do you believe that studies have found that the list of worries from optimistic people is far less than that of ordinary people, and the time they spend complaining is also much less than that of ordinary people? What enlightenment does this give us?
Optimistic people, when facing setbacks, do not waste time blaming things: "It's all his fault!" Or "Why am I always so unlucky?" Their common attitude is "There's no time to complain now because we're busy solving problems." And when we spend less time complaining, we have more time to improve.
This also explains why optimistic people are more likely to succeed because their time and energy are always used to improve the current situation. Therefore, cultivating optimism is not difficult. Just start now and shift the focus of attention from "looking back and blaming fate" to "looking forward and solving problems." The actual practice is to avoid saying "Why is it always me!" and replace it with another question: "What should we do now?"
When facing unpleasant situations, just changing this important point of thought, you will find that your frustration tolerance will greatly increase, making it easier to come out of adversity and return to happiness. Using the words of our Beijing Baily Expansion coach during team-building activities, pessimistic emotions are like the moon, different on the first and fifteenth day of the lunar month, while optimistic emotions are like the sun, shining wherever they go. If you encounter a bad mood, you must calm down and maintain a peaceful mind. There is always a solution to everything. Maintaining an optimistic attitude leads to wise ways of dealing with things. Let's all learn well!
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