Memory, Liu Yan, me

by doudouqaj on 2011-10-15 15:52:54

In 2006, during the Mao Ren Super Hostess Election, I noticed Liu Yan, a confident and pretty girl. She had a sweet voice, generous demeanor, light dance steps, was exceptionally smart, and empathetic. In the top 10, she led in audience votes, but the judges chose to pit her against the contestant with the least votes at the time. One was of the delicate school, the other of the bold school. That woman even brought up Liu Yan's emotions, mentioning before the official PK that her boyfriend had proposed to her, showing everyone Liu Yan's diamond ring, then asking Liu Yan to talk about her boyfriend. Eventually, as Liu Yan spoke, she got so emotional that she cried, causing her singing to be interrupted. Finally, the judges eliminated her, placing her seventh.

At the final award ceremony, many other awards were given out, none to her, because she was originally a hostess, just not very famous, which might have caused dissatisfaction from higher-ups, resulting in her being sidelined. She only received the contract with Guang Media that all top 10 contestants got. I thought she would become obscure and lead a bleak life, like in those strip games with beautiful women.

Not long ago, I saw her news again. It turns out she has become the leading lady of Guang Media, taking on the role once held by Li Xia and Sony. I am really happy for her, and it made me realize that being sidelined temporarily does not mean forever. What is important is that you must not give up striving, and you must not see the company or leaders who sideline you as enemies, targeting them. If you do, the one who suffers will always be yourself. What I admire most about Liu Yan is this: knowing she was sidelined, she acted as if she didn't know, became even more proactive, worked hard, and had no complaints towards her leaders, treating them as usual. Eventually, her excellence was discovered, the leaders' biases disappeared, turning into appreciation, respect, and full support, leading to today's Liu Yan.

Reflecting on myself, I am not unlike Liu Yan (just in the earlier stages). When I gained a small position, I always thought I should advance further. The result was overreaching, where they wanted me elsewhere, but I wasn’t let go. This resulted in my being sidelined here, while there was no use thinking about it. However, the outcomes were vastly different. I thought my career was over because the leader's attitude towards me changed greatly, becoming covertly combative, not worth mentioning~the scariest part. Then I blamed fate, was dissatisfied daily, later ignoring everything, feeling that however they treated me, I would treat them the same way. The one who suffered was always myself. If I had been more proactive back then, there would surely have been a good outcome. I regret it now!

However, from now on, whenever I encounter such situations again, especially at work, I will never make this mistake again. I will see being sidelined as a test, and without hesitation, strive even harder~