The feeling of love always seems sweet at the beginning. You think having another person around, someone to share your burdens, means you're finally no longer alone. There's at least one person thinking about you, longing for you. No matter what you do, as long as you're together, it's good. But slowly, as you get to know each other better, you start noticing the other person's flaws. Problems arise one after another. You begin to feel annoyed, tired, and even want to escape. Some people say that love is like picking stones; you always want to find one that suits you. But how do you know when you'll find it? She might be suitable for you, but are you suitable for her? Actually, love is like polishing pebbles. Perhaps when you first pick one up, you're not entirely satisfied. But remember, people are adaptable, and many things can change if you have the heart and courage. Instead of searching everywhere for an unknown stone, why not polish the one you already have? Have you started polishing yet?
Many people think that because feelings fade, people become lazy. Wrong! In fact, people are conquered by laziness first, which is why feelings fade.
When someone loves you, and you think they're pretty good, that doesn't mean you'll choose them. You say: you need to find someone you truly, deeply love before you start a relationship. But when the other person asks you: how do you define true, deep love? You can't answer them because you don't know yourself.
That's right, we always think we'll find someone we truly, deeply love.
But later, when we suddenly look back, we realize how naive we once were.
If you had never started, how would you know if you could truly, deeply love that person?
In fact, the feeling of true, deep love only becomes apparent after experiencing many things together.
Perhaps everyone hopes to find their perfect partner, but have you considered whether there's already someone close to you who has been quietly paying attention to you for a long time, while you just haven't noticed? So, take a closer look at the people around you! He might have been waiting for you for a long time!
Some people say: when drinking, being six-tenths drunk is the most comfortable state. Your muscles relax, everything looks adorable. If you continue drinking, you might wake up the next day with a splitting headache, feeling completely unwell, and losing all enjoyment of drinking. When eating, being seven-tenths full is the most satisfying. The taste of food lingers in your mouth, complemented by dessert and fruit, sufficient for maintaining your figure and health. If you keep eating, you might experience digestive discomfort, feel too full to sleep, and lose all enjoyment of eating.
When you love someone, loving them eight-tenths is just right.
All expectations and hopes should only be seven or eight-tenths, leaving two or three-tenths for self-love.
If you continue to love more, you might put heavy pressure on the other person, making both of you unable to breathe, and completely losing the joy of love.
So please remember, don't drink beyond six-tenths drunk, don't eat beyond seven-tenths full, and don't love beyond eight-tenths passionate.
One day, a friend asked me: what exactly does it mean to love someone?
I smiled and told him: everyone's view of love is different. Saying the right thing is called guidance, but saying the wrong thing could lead to misguidance, which would be terrible!
If you're also confused about love, perhaps the following words can give you some insight: to love someone, you need to understand them and resolve their troubles; apologize and express gratitude; admit mistakes and correct them; be considerate and empathetic; accept rather than endure; forgive rather than indulge; support rather than control; comfort rather than interrogate; confide rather than accuse; remember rather than forget; communicate with each other instead of demanding explanations for everything; silently pray for them rather than making excessive demands; you can be romantic but not wasteful; you can hold hands anytime but shouldn't break up easily...
If you've done all these, even if you no longer love someone, you'll only have fond memories and no resentment.
Do you know how to love now? Give it a try!