Some couples may have incompatible temperaments and even fight in the early days of their marriage, sometimes leading to serious marital crises. But as time goes by, through living together, they gradually deepen their feelings and establish an effective mode of relationship management based on mutual understanding. For couples with originally incompatible temperaments to become good partners, the key lies in deepening their understanding of married life, facing reality, changing attitudes, prioritizing tolerance, showing mutual understanding and concession, avoiding direct confrontation, mastering the balance in actions and words, focusing on the bigger picture, and resolving conflicts with emotions.
1. A humorous atmosphere between partners is often hard to create. Such couples must have compatible temperaments that either naturally blend or have been refined over time. Some couples are prone to arguments, coldness, or blandness, making it difficult for humor to emerge in their relationship. Misunderstandings and lack of communication can lead to annoyance and even verbal abuse. Humor is both natural and stems from a shared realm, such as couples who have endured hardships together or those with good qualities, positive mindsets, and well-adjusted temperaments, who tend to naturally generate humor. Humor is a quality, more so a sensitivity to the comedic aspects of life, society, and human experiences. It brings about a sense of ease and harmony that only good couples can truly possess. Couples who understand humor often experience fewer arguments and self-inflicted troubles.
2. Partners should frequently and genuinely show care and concern for each other. This is not just about deliberate flattery but stems from an inner emotional need. When one partner shows concern, their inner emotions find a self-sustaining form of satisfaction.
3. In times of illness, offer more care and concern for your partner than yourself.
4. Advise your partner using appropriate methods to avoid hurting their self-respect.
5. If there are differences in temperament, work on adjusting and accommodating each other with patience and understanding.
6. Discuss financial expenditures together and avoid disputes over trivial matters.
7. When opinions differ, avoid heated arguments; instead, focus on reasoning rather than being obstinate.
8. Respect elders and care for the young; treat others with tolerance and a calm heart.
9. Trust each other without suspicion, nurturing deep familial bonds.
10. Do not let intimacy replace respect; maintain heartfelt understanding until old age.
In conclusion, good couples typically exhibit these exemplary behaviors. They know how to face challenges together, handle conflicts maturely, and foster mutual respect and trust, all while maintaining a harmonious and loving relationship.