To find the answer to this question, sex researchers met with over 4,000 women. They discovered that most women prefer more equality with men. They need equal treatment, deeper understanding, and a bit of cleverness from men. The most common complaint is that men don't give women enough time, which is especially evident during sexual intercourse. Many women can no longer be aroused by quick and intense sexual intercourse. Although in some occasional cases, it may still be wonderful and appropriate, women generally prefer a more leisurely way of making love.
Women like men who are interested in their own needs, not just acting to satisfy their own physiological sexual desires. Women in the '90s view sex as a collaboration between both sexes; the old model where only men gave orders has been replaced by a new sexual model. In the new model, both parties communicate and share their sexual needs. One result of this model is a greater desire to experience different positions.
Women do not directly aim at sexual intercourse as the purpose of sexual behavior as much as men do. They see sexual intercourse as a process rather than rushing toward a predetermined goal. Foreplay before and after sex is crucial for them. This touching helps them feel loved. A slow, unhurried attitude will help make female partners feel more relaxed and more easily lead to physical intimacy.
It was found that women tend to be more spontaneous in making love than men because they are less goal-oriented and action-directed. Women regard sexual behavior as an opportunity for self-expression, just like crying, laughing, talking, or silently thinking. They are rarely constrained by the idea of "should" and are more naturally open to whatever happens during a date. Men who tend to focus on sexual behavior often appear very serious during sex. Women hope men can be more relaxed, filling sexual behavior with love, freedom, and spontaneity.
Women wish to share their thoughts and feelings about sexual behavior with men and hope to share their desires and worries with male partners. It is important for couples to frequently and openly communicate about sex.