My husband has a strong sexual desire, and I can accept that. However, he always wants to play the wife-swapping game with others, which I find hard to accept. Moreover, he always hopes to see me having sex with others, saying that it would excite him greatly. This makes me feel humiliated. Although he said that if I couldn't accept it, he wouldn't really do it, he brings up these topics every time we have sex. In his words, even if we can't really do it, just talking about it and imagining it is very stimulating, but I can't stand it! He plays video games, which is within my allowable range. After all, it's just online, visible but untouchable, and not in real life, so I can accept it. But my requirement is that he cannot play behind my back, and he can only play in the room with those videos, without private chatting. He readily agreed.
I admit that I am very curious. Once, I secretly looked at his chat records. He was flirting with a woman, saying some very explicit things. I was completely stunned because I realized that their conversation wasn't just about sex. He sent her a photo of me and a friend, asking her to guess which one was his wife. I think he went too far by connecting the game with reality. If it was just mutual stimulation for physiological satisfaction, I could accept it. But what he did makes me feel that he might have a tendency to cheat on me behind my back.