1. Do not belittle yourself by comparing yourself with others
Everyone has their own characteristics, and everyone is a unique miracle. Just as an old Chinese saying goes: "A ruler may be short in one aspect but long in another", there is no need to compare your strengths with others' weaknesses, nor is it necessary to often lament that you are inferior to others in some aspects, because no one can claim to be perfect. The biggest regret in life is to compare oneself with others. Comparing with the great makes us feel inferior; comparing with the vulgar makes us become lowbrow; comparing with the mediocre makes us become conceited. External comparisons are the source of our instability and inability to be at ease, and also make most people lose themselves and obscure the original warmth and fragrance of their own hearts.
2. Do not take what others consider important as your life goal
There is a kind of person in life who cares a lot about others' opinions and completely takes others' evaluations as behavioral criteria. If others say it's good, he will follow their ideas and intentions; if others say it's bad, he will feel regretful, panic, self-blame, be in low spirits, and give up. He is always worried, afraid, troubled, and painful about others' opinions, often disguising himself and catering to others, not knowing who he is. The famous Norwegian playwright Henrik Ibsen once said: "What is man's first duty? The answer is simple: be yourself." Yes, to be a person, one must first be oneself. One should recognize oneself, grasp one's own destiny, and realize one's own life value. Only then can one truly be considered the master of oneself.
3. Do not take familiar things for granted
What are the most familiar things to us? They may be the ones you are most likely to ignore - family, friends, love, time, work, health, and credibility. All these things have made you who you are now. Without them, you would just be a solitary individual, unable to take a single step. If you ignore the things you are most closely connected with, it is equivalent to pushing wealth away from you. Only by making full use of all the resources around you can you possibly sail smoothly on the road of life and career, and reach a higher level.
4. Do not let life slip through your fingers while indulging in the past or future
People who are down-to-earth and know how to make full use of the present will never have too many fantasies about the unknown future life, nor will they excessively regret or linger over past failures or glories. They clearly understand that only by cherishing today's life can one prevent life from becoming empty and meaningless. Do not trample on today's roses underfoot for tomorrow's mirage, allowing the opportunity to establish achievements to quietly slip away.
5. Do not choose to give up when you can still make efforts
Nothing really ends until the decision to abandon the effort is made. If you have 99% desire to succeed but 1% thought of giving up, you can only be doomed to fail. Napoleon Hill said that where there is abandonment, there is no possibility of achieving any success. Speaking easily of giving up is like a dungeon for willpower, making it retreat and hide inside, attempting to live secluded there. Only by breaking through the禁区of thinking, daring to break through and develop, can one bring about a fruitful and smiling moment.
6. Do not be afraid to admit your imperfections
The world is not perfect, and life should have its insufficiencies. Leaving some regrets can instead make one clear-headed and spur one to strive forward. There is a saying that the most terrifying thing is a grandmother without wrinkles, and a past without regrets cannot continue to link life. For each individual, imperfection objectively exists, and there is no need to blame heaven or others. While envying others, one might as well think about how to get out of the misunderstanding. Either beautify with kindness, enrich with knowledge, or develop with a special skill. The preciousness of life lies in being able to calmly [self-accept] after seeing one's own deficiencies.
7. Do not be afraid to take risks or encounter dangers
Life movement is essentially an adventure. If one does not actively welcome the challenge of risks, one passively waits for risks to come. Taking limited risks can only bring two results: success or failure. If you succeed, you can be promoted to a new field, which is obviously a kind of growth; even if you fail, you can soon clearly understand why you did wrong and learn what to avoid in the future, which is also a kind of growth. Moreover, a social environment that encourages risk-taking helps cultivate individuals who are not satisfied with the status quo and dare to advance, and also enhances individuals' sensitivity to changes in opportunities. A person who dares to take risks has the chance to win big success.
8. Do not let yourself lose the nourishment of love
Between people, it is a garden of love. If you are lazy, it will become desolate; if you diligently sow and irrigate, it will emit the fragrance of love to you. If love is lacking, the sky of the world becomes gray, the temperature of the air drops to zero, and the mood of life lacks joy. The love between lovers is tempting flowers. The universal love among people is a magnificent palace of gardens.
9. Do not easily discard dreams
Without dreams, there is no hope; without hope, there is no meaning in life. Firmly hold onto your dreams, because if dreams die, life becomes like a bird with broken wings, unable to fly again. Firmly hold onto your dreams, because once dreams disappear, life becomes like a barren field covered in snow and ice, where nothing seeks survival. Everyone has dreams, but some people's dreams come true while others' remain forever just dreams. There are factors of ability and environmental conditions, but there is also one easily overlooked reason: some people's dreams are powerful, while others' are fragile. The strength or weakness of dreams often determines the strength or weakness of an individual.
10. Do not let life become too hurried
Life is not a race, but a journey, and every step has scenery worth stopping to appreciate. The Song Dynasty poet Huang Tingjian once said: "Life is naturally busy, so how many times can we steal leisure in the midst of busyness?" This tells people that life is busy, so one must learn to find leisure in the midst of busyness. Finding leisure amidst busyness conforms to the principle of tension and relaxation, and also conforms to natural laws. Nature itself has patterns of busyness and leisure; spring and summer are full of vitality, with all things growing and butterflies and swallows dancing everywhere; autumn and winter are reclusive and desolate, with all things silent and in hibernation. Humans are also part of nature, so outstanding individuals mostly know how to relax and find pleasure in life during their leisure time.