Can't sleep at midnight, not disturbing others, not forcing myself, so let's go online. I saw two friends both reprinted a blog post like this, named "You, dare you love your girlfriend like this?" After reading it, I felt ashamed and almost shed tears... From the women's movement, to the realization of half the sky, and then to the current strong women, indeed, the revolution was successful, but how much has the happiness index of women decreased?
A few days ago, I went to Yunnan, where there are many ethnic minorities, such as the Naxi people. There, I rarely saw men working in the fields or farming; these tasks were done by women. The men just took care of the children, took a nap in the afternoon, and some even worked as tour guides or did other light work to supplement the household income. At first, I naively thought, why do women choose such men? Are they real men? Wastes, and yet they say that is a woman's world, a man's paradise. Later, I realized that women can truly be in charge, can boldly show their dissatisfaction with men. And the so-called fear of wives in the city is just giving face to women. If a woman really thinks that men are afraid of her and she can command and order around, she is really stupid and doesn't know what's good for her. The Naxi women bravely take on the heavy burden of life, make greater contributions to the family, and in return, they gain respect and loyalty. There, the divorce rate is extremely low, and extramarital affairs are unheard of. So, no matter how hard and how much women work and give, it is for the lifelong ease of men.
Isn't it true that the strength of career women is inversely proportional to their sense of happiness? Why didn't Ms. Wu Yi get married? It must be because of the loneliness at the top. Some people belong to those who cannot reach high or low, typically lacking self-awareness. And women like Wang Fei, Na Ying, Zhao Wei, Mei Ting, and Nicky Chen, who maintain their true selves without entertaining themselves in the bizarre entertainment industry for years, are a miracle and noble. Many people said Wang Fei was foolish to choose Li Yapeng, saying that she could have found a more successful person. Actually, people who say such things are probably dreaming of finding a rich husband. Wang Fei knows what kind of man she wants and what kind of love she desires. A clear-minded woman is more likely to be happy, while smart ones may be misled by their intelligence.
Men need to be admired and respected by women bit by bit, only then will they be followed by their women for life. Conversely, if women look down on their men, how can they be happy? Even if it's equality, an absolute 50-50 balance lacks beauty. Why does Anita Mui, despite her height and status, still sigh, "Women, we ask for nothing else, just one true love forever"; "Women, my dear sisters, after experiencing countless trials of fire, what kind of man have you obtained?"; "Don't settle for a kiss, don't fall in love with a heartless man."; "Rolling in the mire of love, who is your last lover?"; "Morning and evening, I wait anxiously for someone to enter my dreams."; "Self-admiration is most painful."; "I only hope for a pair of gentle hands to comfort my inner loneliness."...
Are these lyrics familiar? Women are like flowers, but flowers will eventually wither. Women are like water, but spilled water cannot be retrieved. The youth of women is so wonderful, and so many men satisfy themselves by making them laugh. However, all glory will become history. In old age, the only person who stays by your side is just one man. Why search endlessly, always thinking the next one will be better? Without the test of time and without long-term accumulation, old age won't bring such affectionate love. Therefore, please determine a man early on, love him, admire him, and let him grow old with you. Don't stubbornly say, "Men are just objects of amusement, what's so great about them," you're not Paris Hilton, and you're certainly not Carmen. Women, respect yourselves, love yourselves, and know yourselves first.
Women are concave, fragile, and incomplete. We need a safe harbor, a strong shoulder, and a long-lasting stable relationship. Unless you're a lesbian, everyone needs a man. I really can't stand the frequent scenes in TV dramas and sketches where women pull men's ears or glare at them: "Hey, who's in charge here?!" There are also friends around me who deliberately order their boyfriends or husbands around or show disdain to boast about their happiness and status, but I really find it funny. Can you do this during intimate moments at night? Aren't you pretending to be weak then?
Perhaps I have a bit of male superiority thinking, but this way brings more happiness. Men receive more respect and admiration, which gives them more confidence and strength. This is a win-win mentality. In ancient times, when emperors favored their concubines, which woman wasn't proud and excited when her turn came? The women who knew how to lower their heads experienced the most happiness. Although today's men cannot have the power and wealth of an emperor, we don't need to compete for favor since we each have one man. Whether under the influence of love or the constraints of law, they give us exclusive happiness. At least, I accept love with gratitude.
Men are like donkeys that like to be stroked, not in a derogatory way. The more considerate, loving, and caring we are towards them, the more their innate machismo and protective nature towards the weak come out. For minor mistakes, we should be tolerant. Why is maternal love so great? Women have the strongest capacity for tolerance. When they really make a mistake, we don't have to be unreasonable. They know whether we are showing weakness or giving them another chance. In this era where polygamy is not allowed and gender relations are not free, they already feel wronged. If they cheat, first reflect on yourself: 1) examine your physique and appearance, 2) recall your daily behavior, 3) have you had common topics for a long time, are you keeping up with them, 4) are you too dominant and lack femininity, 5) is there disharmony in bed? I believe these five possibilities cover everything. After all, from a physiological structure perspective, monogamy is protection for women, not a right. Their feelings, we probably can't understand.
Modern women sometimes cling too tightly, sometimes forget to stick to their own principles. When angry, they wait for consoling. After a breakup, they write in blogs and diaries that they no longer love. When there's nothing to do, they get tangled up. When depressed, they drink a glass of wine, smoke a cigarette, and sing silly songs like "Ah ha, go ahead, what's so great, lonely ducks, we don't need you" and "Whether he loves me or not, breakups forever." But if an apology text or call not only reminds him of his mistakes but also shows our understanding, who wouldn't want a happy ending? Sometimes it's not that the men are bad or cold-hearted, maybe they are just too tired of being pushed around. You're not a socialite or a model, why would they chase after you? Isn't that just asking for trouble?
Sisters, what am I doing at this late hour? With one hand injured, I'm struggling to type on the bed, and my meridians are almost blocked. Instead of advising broken-hearted friends one by one, I'd rather write an article like this. I hope my sisters can all have happy love lives, so that this life is not in vain. Moreover, being with happy friends brings happiness to the nth power. Good moods and bad emotions are contagious.
Happiness is created, strived for, and managed by oneself. Love is the same; there's no free lunch. Whether your beloved is the one you currently have, or someone you secretly admire, or temporarily someone else's boyfriend, you should strive for it, and cherish it after obtaining it.
People praise and yearn for selfless love, even without benevolent lies, unreserved and regret-free giving... In fact, love itself is the most selfish thing. Without scheming, it's not exciting. Protecting this precious love is the righteous path.
Finally, sharing the most sincere sentence with my sisters: People progress due to desire, and also lose their way because of it. Hold steady the steering wheel of life, don't linger by the riverside enjoying the willows, don't ignore the fragrance of wildflowers, head straight to the destination, and you will surely obtain happiness.