Middle-aged remarriage is a pursuit of future happiness. To find a spouse with compatible age and cultural background, people tend to be very picky. Many couples face sharp contradictions that lead to breakups. There are individuals who have been divorced for years, middle-aged men and women, who deeply love each other and are ready to remarry. However, without living together beforehand in their own homes, the woman along with her son and the man along with his daughter come together. They are reluctant to let outsiders enter their lives and oppose their parents' remarriage. Helpless, these individuals often have to abandon the idea of marriage.
In the face of such complex relationships, elderly individuals may take different approaches: signing a remarriage contract. Both parties clearly define three principles: property rights, inheritance rights, and child relations. The living expenses follow an AA system. Option two: cohabitation without marriage, no marriage license required. If problems arise while living together, they can part ways amicably, without mutual support obligations. For example, if one falls ill, childcare conventions apply; if the wife is willing to care for the husband, it’s out of mutual affection, not compulsion. This approach is relatively easy for both parties and their children to accept.
Option three: marriage does not necessarily mean living together. Partners can establish conventions that allow flexibility in taking care of their families and children. Both can maintain a normal heterosexual relationship without adhering to rigid lifestyles. For instance, meeting at night or during the day, chatting freely a few times a week, exercising, visiting parks, and traveling. It's said that in big cities, 50% of elderly individuals are in cohabitation rather than formal marriage. Drama L’fr] understands that remarried couples receive good comments. How happy is the reunion through remarriage? Elderly individuals wishing to remarry and achieve lasting results must adjust their mindset.
First, understand that marriage, besides mutual care, is essentially an exchange of resources and complementarity. Each person is the best judge and defender of their own interests. Romance, on the surface, involves calculating personal gains and losses. If the gap is too large, one might reconsider continuing the exchange. Philanthropists rarely marry to help the poor, and expecting marriage to bring fortune is unrealistic. Therefore, clearly understanding one's own resources—such as appearance, age, literacy, income, savings, health burdens, and children—is essential. An objective and impartial judgment should be made, correcting any biases to avoid difficulties in finding a suitable spouse, which could delay one's life.
Another factor influencing spousal relationships is social background, affecting supply and demand dynamics. For example, if the female population is too small or too large, it impacts the difficulty of finding a spouse.
Secondly, remarriage is also marriage, involving the couple's sexual relationship. Some women believe that elderly individuals should not engage in active sexual activity when married. For instance, a couple married for months sleeps in the same bed but never engages in intimacy because the woman cannot accept it. When the man attempts to get close, touching her causes resentment. She criticizes him for thinking she married him just to allow liberties, calling him wicked and filing for divorce. Some believe elderly marriages shouldn't involve active sex lives. Communication about this issue is crucial—if one doesn't want a sex life, it must be explicitly stated. Trial marriage might help determine compatibility in sexual attitudes and lifestyles, avoiding unnecessary disputes over who got the better deal since both men and women have normal sexual needs.
Thirdly, due to age, experience, and habits, there may be temporary mismatches in marriage requiring adjustments, such as dietary and activity habits, pastime preferences, willingness to share or sleep alone, and interpersonal approaches. Mental preparation for mutual accommodation and gradual adaptation is necessary to improve quality of life. A firm belief in the success of remarriage avoids frequent thoughts of divorce. Middle-aged individuals can't endure constant torment and irritation, nor afford to waste time and energy seeking someone better. Unrealistic expectations and fantasies can easily harm others.
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