"I already have a house and a car, but I value more about my other half's family background, personal quality and ability," Xiaolin, who was born in 1989, told the author. Xiaolin graduated last year from a university in Hangzhou. He studied business management and plans to train for a few years in the company founded by his father before inheriting the family business. He believed that the environment of both families has visible and invisible influences on their marriage, which is one of the key points to be examined. The woman's academic qualifications, quality, and other abilities determined whether she could communicate spiritually with him. "My future wife may need to help me manage the family business, so it would be better if she had a similar family background as me and graduated from university, so we can get along better. I will bring up these issues when matchmaking." Experts: It is too risky to get married in haste to escape employment pressure. Nowadays, when mentioning the young "post-85s", society shows more tolerance towards those who are eager to get married, especially female college students seeking marriage, instead of indiscriminately criticizing them with derogatory terms like "gold digger". Dr. Yu Beihong from the Department of Sociology at Fuzhou University analyzed that as college students, their spiritual requirements are definitely not low. However, they want to escape the social reality pressure by marrying men who already have a certain material foundation, making it difficult for them to find partners among peers, thus turning to matrimonial agencies to seek "successful individuals". However, this leaves hidden dangers for marriage. Seeking like-minded life partners is everyone's aspiration, but different methods may lead to directional errors.