1. For a long time, I used "remembering the good of others" as my personal signature on MSN Messenger. It was not to proclaim how noble and transcendent I am, nor was it to teach others, but rather to constantly remind myself that when interacting with others - at least when chatting with them - I should first remember their good qualities.
2. For a very long time, I could not easily forget the hurt of being deceived by others' tricks or big schemes, and even developed hatred because of it. In 2000, I heard someone deeply advise me to remember the good in others for the first time; they said this would make my path smoother. The person who advised me was Ms. Zhang Jingjun, and I thank her. But at that time, I couldn't do it.
3. Between 2000 and 2002, for quite some time, I stubbornly believed that some people had harmed me, sometimes benefiting from harming me, and they relied mainly on shamelessness rather than wisdom. Later, I found out that some people, simply through their intelligence, can confuse people just as well. This is when I started to become confused.
4. In 2003, during a training session at Jiangmin, a trainer around my age privately said something to me that left a deep impression: so-called deception mostly happens because of one's own greed and侥幸psychology (a sense of侥幸is akin to侥幸or taking chances). Therefore, avoiding deception is quite easy, and there's no need to blame others because of it. Cultivating oneself is enough. At that time, I firmly believed this, and I still do now. As long as I don't covet others' things, I won't be hurt by deception.
5. On another occasion, he suddenly sent me a text message sharing his insights, which are unforgettable to this day: most people are self-interested, and subconsciously usually think they are right. Once harmed by others, they feel that others are ugly and selfish, and thus develop hatred. In fact, the party that harms you may "harm" you because your self-interest has unintentionally harmed them.
6. If you feel hatred due to others harming you, consider switching perspectives and imagine whether your actions have been fair to the other party.
7. If there are sufficient reasons to believe that you have acted according to your conscience, and others still harm you, if this harm does not immediately substantially threaten your current situation, but only affects your short-term interests, then forget this "harm". Why get entangled in it? Any idealistic person will cherish their life, and you still have many paths ahead. As for the party that harms you, even if they don't reach enlightenment, they will eventually face consequences. The so-called "invisible hand" exists not only in market economic principles.
8. Since restarting Hongtao Technology in June until now, half a year later, I often encourage myself through congratulatory messages from others. In these messages, names like Zhang Youli, Liu Ren, Zhou Hongyi, Li Zhigao, Wang Jiangmin... counting every person I've worked with before, when I think about their good qualities, I am filled with strength.
9. The IT world is naturally full of competition, and I hope every person I've had the chance to meet remembers the good in others. That feeling, I've experienced it, and I'm still experiencing it now. It feels great, warm, and empowering.