1. Use your brain when you talk, be discreet and cautious with words, as verbosity is not beneficial. The mouth is merely a loudspeaker; in daily life, one must always pay attention to monitoring and controlling the frequency knob and volume switch, otherwise it will bring a lot of trouble to oneself. Do not speak only for the sake of momentary pleasure or blurt out everything because someone smiles at you. You may end up revealing all your secrets and they might secretly laugh at you.
2. Do not rush to make judgments when encountering problems. Even if you have an answer, wait a bit longer as there might be better solutions. Perspectives vary depending on the angle from which you look at things, so learn to think from others' perspectives, especially when facing difficulties. Learn to pause and lean back, often times not only are troubles resolved, but good fortune might also come your way.
3. Learn to reduce major issues and resolve minor ones. Simplify complex matters as much as possible and never complicate simple affairs. Mastering efficiency in handling matters is a skill that requires a good grasp of rhythm.
4. Always be humble towards small people, take a step back and let them have their say. But do not give away your own space entirely. Let them revel like birds singing joyfully. As the saying goes, great men have great hearts, they do not dwell on trivial matters. Small men have narrow minds, offending them equals inviting trouble. Up to now, I haven't figured out a better way to deal with small men. Is keeping a respectful distance feasible?
5. In this world, there is no love without cause or hate without reason. Do not comment on anyone, just keep everything in mind. The principle of making final judgments after death is simple. People are too hasty. No one has the theoretical basis to define who is good or bad; it's all about interests.
6. Only the money you spend truly belongs to you as property. Regardless of how wealthy you are, if you live miserly and don't enjoy life, when you close your eyes, who knows who will spend the remaining money? It's a waste. And those frugal corrupt officials who gave up their high positions due to greed, ended up with all their wealth confiscated without spending a penny. How tragic!
7. When doing things, set moral boundaries beforehand. Thieves know some things cannot be stolen. Therefore, never go too far in anything, never exploit others in dire straits, give others a way out, which is equivalent to elevating yourself.
8. For those who frequently cause you trouble or even humiliate you, endure when you can, there’s no need to constantly confront brutes. But remember them, accumulate grievances, and when justice and truth are on your side, seize the opportunity to thoroughly teach them a lesson within the limits of legal authority. Beat them severely, so they remember forever: except for your father, no one will indulge these bad habits.
9. Some people are accustomed to taking advantage of your little kindnesses. Small men have narrow minds, while great men have broad hearts. If you get a chance, cheat him big time, let him bleed heavily once, and let him remember: there is no such thing as a free lunch, there is no free profit for you to gain.
10. An open spear is easy to dodge, but hard to prevent. Those villains plotting against you behind your back will never disappear, this is a Chinese characteristic. Villains cannot be blamed, nor should they be forgiven. This is an unchanging truth. After all, villains also have a narrow-minded side. Treat such people steadily and accurately. You can pretend nothing happened, live peacefully, then suddenly strike unexpectedly, fight poison with poison, let the guy know: being a villain isn't something everyone can do, being a good person requires standards, and being a villain also has its challenges.
11. Respect those who love you. There is a reason why they love you, do not ask why. While accepting their love, return it with double care. But never deceive their feelings, even if you're not interested, even if they're not very attractive, this is a wealth you can't buy with money. Remember: despising others' feelings is equivalent to despising yourself. Playing with objects ruins ambition, playing with people ruins morality. Loving is a virtue.
12. For those who praise you behind your back, remember it in your heart, there is rarely any exaggeration in such praises. Praising you to your face is flattery, and more harshly, sycophancy. You can smile and act as if nothing happened, perhaps they will soon seek help from you. For those who openly boast about you, ignore them, maybe as soon as you turn around, they will point fingers at you. Follow this principle: belittle yourself in front of many people, praise others less, unless it's during commendation meetings.
13. Accumulating small favors can lead to a big hole. Once accepted, find an opportunity to repay. Sow in spring, hope for rain in summer. Giving is for receiving, it's a simple relationship between seeds and fruits. Don't let naivety harm you, remember: life is like a play, all seeking balance of benefits. Only balanced games can continue.
14. People with mental illnesses are not legally responsible and can bite you without reason. So stay away from those who behave like mad dogs, maintain no contact, no exchange, take a step back, let them have their say. Believe madness is also a kind of personality, though not worthy of respect, it has its own reason for existence, the food chain cannot do without this link.
15. Be a spectator of life. In the end, only by being kind to others and winning by virtue, staying away from disputes, and being close to family can you find peace and comfort.
16. An optimistic attitude comes from tolerance, height, understanding others, and non-contention.
17. Bad moods are tormented by insomnia, but reality is not as bad as you think. Life has peaks and valleys, there is no smooth sailing all the way.
18. So-called fate only has two kinds: good and evil. Cherish the good, do not absolutely exclude the evil. Believe passing each other is also a kind of fate. With nearly 6 billion people in the world, meeting anyone is not easy, so when encountering bad karma, try to be tolerant and give the other party a chance, do not completely reject them at first sight.
19. Do not let setbacks in your career affect your family, nor let family disputes affect your career. Doing so is not cost-effective, both family and career will be affected or lost. Men should be good at bearing burdens, swallowing tears.
20. When interacting with people, position yourself correctly. Do not always see yourself as important, as a leader, as a tycoon, or as a romantic genius, always feeling self-satisfied. Even if you've achieved a little success, remain cautious, do not hesitate to learn from those below you, and hide your abilities modestly. In fact, the ultimate outcome for all humans is the same, it's just that you've made yourself complicated. To put it bluntly: never take yourself too seriously.
21. A person who deceives you once will never miss the second chance to deceive you. Do not harbor any illusions about deceivers.
22. Relying on criticizing others to elevate oneself only exposes one's ignorance and inadequacy.
This article is sourced from: "A Female University Student Gets into a Famous Foreign Enterprise with Just Two Yuan" -- China Workplace
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