Beautiful girl from a poor family, please cherish yourself.
I know a girl who is quite tall and handsome, but because of the poor conditions at home, she dropped out of junior high school and went to work. Because of her tall and pretty figure, she stands out in the crowd. In the place where she works, many people pursue her, but because her father works with her in the same place, she has never had a serious relationship. She only has a boyfriend whom she often contacts by phone. They meet sometimes and their relationship is quite close. Apart from him, there are still many people pursuing her. She often refuses them ambiguously without showing any acceptance. Her behavior makes many suitors think they have a chance, but in the end, she rejects them all. The reason is simple: her family doesn't want her to find an ordinary worker but to marry well so that the family can get rid of poverty. But this ambiguous attitude has hurt many men's feelings. She once told me that all the men who contacted her had hurt her. I don't know what kind of harm it was. Some people said that she might hurt others first, making them have expectations, and then breaking these expectations. This way of doing things is also cruel to others.
After working in one place for more than three years, her relatives called her to work in Hollywood. This job doesn't pay much and is very hard, but it allows her to meet many people with stable income. Her relatives' goal is obviously to let her find someone with good conditions here. When she first came, many people called her. She basically answered all the calls. Of course, most of them were just ordinary people without much education or future. I was one of the pursuers. My conditions were naturally much better than others. I graduated from university, have certain connections here, and my family can help me a bit. But I still found it difficult to pursue her. Because I am a good person, many aunts supported me and spoke well of me. Gradually, she accepted me. During the days we were together, I tried my best to be good to her. Knowing her family's poor conditions, whether it's eating or buying things, I basically paid for everything. But conflicts still occurred. Because of her low cultural level, our ideas often differ, especially she listens to everything her relatives say, and she doesn't understand many things. Sometimes I would scold her when I got impatient, but I always apologized to her afterwards. I could say that I tried my best to tolerate her in most conflicts. Actually, everything I did was for her, but she just couldn't understand.
These seemingly small problems didn't bother me too much. I always thought that with my ability and kindness to her, we could last long. Although she couldn't live a luxurious life, she wouldn't lack anything compared to others. Unfortunately, something sad happened. Her relatives introduced her to someone with very good conditions. The next day, she broke up with me, saying that our views were different. I kept trying to persuade her, telling her that I could also make her live well. Although I might not be able to make her live without working like that person, my persuasion failed. She chose that person because her family needed her to marry a rich man. Not even a month after being with that person, she spent several nights not returning to the dormitory. People said she went to that person's place. One morning, someone saw her with red eyes, probably having cried. Why doesn't she cherish herself? When she left me, I told her, if you want to last long with someone, don't let them get you too easily. That way, they won't cherish you. Because they have good conditions, they have a lot of choices. Recently, because she gave up on a person who was good to her for someone with better conditions, many people criticized her. Now she behaves like this again, which really saddens those who cared about her before. I asked an aunt if relationships can be mended. The aunt said that if you accept her again, everyone will look down on you. I told her that as long as she doesn't take the final step, if she lives poorly, I will wait for her within a year. But she said that once she made her choice, she wouldn't look back. She didn't leave herself any room for retreat. Now she made this choice, she has no way back. If it doesn't succeed, she won't even have the face to stay here. Why does it have to be this way? Everyone thought she was a good girl, why doesn't she know how to cherish herself? It pains me so much, like being cut by a knife! Her previous boyfriend and I both didn't do anything she didn't want us to do. We thought a lot about her future, so even if we had opportunities, we didn't do anything improper with her. But why is she so casual now? What changed her? Is it the reality of life and the evil of materialism? Losing her former innocence, she lost her most beautiful side. She changed, changed to a point where those who care about her don't recognize her anymore!
She once told me that because of her family's poor conditions, even her grandfather didn't like her father. She said that the most expensive shoes she bought since she grew up cost around 150 yuan. Now, every time she wears a pair of shoes costing over 100 yuan, she washes them after wearing and carefully puts them back in the box. When she first started working here and arrived at the dormitory, she saw some leftover straw mats and pillows from the previous residents, and she didn't want to buy new ones. Even a toothbrush cup, she didn't want to buy. Every time I bought her something, she would ask how much it cost.
I think maybe poverty created great psychological pressure for her and her family. They are afraid of living in poverty, so in their view, the only way to change their life is for the daughter to marry someone with good conditions. Now I realize that a saying is very true: "Boys should be raised in poverty, girls should be raised in wealth." Girls growing up in a relatively affluent environment may not be easily tempted by material things. They may see more, know what they want, and I feel that once a person bows to materialism, it may be difficult for them to raise their head again, especially those women who don't strive for progress and only rely on men. Such women generally lack inner beauty, knowledge, and cultivation. When they are young, their partners may love them deeply, but what will happen when they grow old? Especially once they give their bodies, what capital do they have left?
The article comes from Hollywood multi-person video: