Far from it....555~I need to work harder~
Mom is a standard Libra, and Dad is a not-so-standard Aries. The two are actually quite compatible in terms of star signs.
Mom is a typical Ox - diligent and stubborn, while Dad is a relatively standard Dog - down-to-earth and obstinate. Their Chinese zodiac signs don't seem to match well.
Mom has Type A blood, and Dad has Type B blood. However, Mom is extremely outgoing and articulate, while Dad is rather introverted and doesn't talk much. I've always thought this complementarity is good; if they were both too competitive or too bookish, it wouldn't be ideal. They balance each other well, so there's no conflict inside or outside the home.
They do have occasional disagreements... I think couples who never fight might have some emotional issues. In my memory, when I was very young, I once saw Mom get so angry that she shouted loudly. Dad just sat nearby, bent over with his palms on his thighs, not responding straightforwardly, waiting patiently until Mom was exhausted from venting her anger, after which everything naturally settled down. My parents rarely held grudges overnight. There are two instances of their arguments that left a deep impression on me. One time, Mom smashed all the bowls at home. I was probably 5 or 6 years old then, and I was completely blank, unable to think clearly. I only felt that what was happening before my eyes was very frightening, as if our home was falling apart. Dad was also provoked but didn't lose control. He never raised a hand against Mom. Interestingly, Dad has never hit Mom, nor has he ever hit me. Hehe~ Later, neighbors came to mediate, and although I don't remember what happened afterward, we soon reconciled. Another time, I don't recall how the argument started, but I remember Mom ran out of the house in anger, and Dad chased after her with me in tow. Dad sat on a stone bench and consoled Mom, who was feeling wronged. I stood aside, looking around anxiously. After feeding mosquitoes for more than an hour, the three of us held hands and went home together.
Mom was incredibly beautiful when she was young, and she had many admirers. As a Libra, she pursued beauty and primarily valued appearance. She would start dating someone if she found them visually appealing. Initially, when Mom met Dad, she thought he looked good.
On the day of that date, Mom arrived at the agreed location on time but found Dad wasn't there yet, so she decided to leave. But she couldn't help herself and hid nearby to take a look. Not long after, Dad finally showed up, panting heavily due to a minor delay, and waited for Mom. From her hiding spot, Mom observed Dad and decided to meet him. However, to punish Dad for being late, she stayed hidden for half an hour, thinking that if Dad lost patience and left, it would be fine. Fortunately, my dear Dad passed the test, and they successfully went on their date.
After that, Dad and Mom started dating. Although Mom was also seeing other boys introduced by acquaintances—without any serious intentions—Dad refused all marriage proposals from matchmakers because he loved Mom wholeheartedly. Once, when Dad visited Mom's brother's house, Mom disappeared somewhere. Dad ended up playing chess with my uncle all day. That day, my uncle developed a liking for Dad. Later, they discovered that Mom had gone to meet one of those introduced boys. At that time, Mom treated these meetings as social engagements, a simple and pure interest in making friends without realizing the deeper implications.
Dad is actually a very smart person, but he dislikes thinking about worldly matters and treats people sincerely, which makes him seem a bit naive. However, he knows things well in his heart and prefers to let go rather than argue. Many things he chooses not to dwell on...
Speaking of Dad's strengths, he plays chess well, has decent knowledge of physics, strong practical skills, a good voice, and a great sense of music! He can play tunes on the flute after hearing them just once! Mom, on the other hand, had incredible artistic talent—her voice and musicality were unmatched. During school days, she was one of only two students selected for performances at Wuhan Theatre and Wuhan Cultural Troupe. Unfortunately, Mom's rare artistic talents were eventually wasted. 5555... My voice resembles Dad's—not bad—but my lack of musicality? That's entirely inherited from Mom... I have no sense of music whatsoever! I'm tearing up... But my poor eyesight is inherited from Dad... Mom still has excellent vision... Again, I'm tearing up...
Dad is highly nearsighted, but when he was dating Mom, he didn't wear glasses to maintain his image... Mom used to find it strange that Dad's big eyes lacked spirit, but she didn't think much of it... Haha~ It turned out that every time Dad took Mom to the movies, he could comment knowledgeably about the characters' clothing, streets, and scenes. After marriage, Mom learned that Dad would watch the movies beforehand, wearing his glasses...
Finally, Mom married Dad after a year and a half of dating because she saw him as honest and dependable. Mom was 23, and Dad was 26.
Mom is truly an incredibly capable person. She keeps the house immaculate and takes great care of Dad. Before marriage, Mom didn't have to worry about or do anything, but after marriage, she became extremely dedicated and virtuous. She cooked meals (which weren't always delicious)... Sigh, it was the only small sadness of my childhood... She learned new knitting patterns from my sister-in-law and managed the household finances... Dad didn't have to worry about anything; he could socialize with the enthusiastic and outgoing Mom outside and come home to the efficient Mom, allowing him to focus on his work at the factory. Usually, Mom made all the decisions about household matters, and Dad supported her ideas. However, for major decisions, Mom would consult Dad like a respectful student seeking advice from a teacher, showing great respect and reliance on Dad. Libras can be indecisive, and in such moments, Dad becomes Mom's anchor.
The most amusing thing is that Mom often tells me with a somewhat helpless tone, "Your dad always calls to ask where I am if I come home late." When she says this, her face lights up, even with a hint of shyness. Heehee~
Mom also often says, "Even though I didn't enjoy much luxury after marrying your dad, and the men who pursued me back then all had better conditions than your dad, even now. But at least your dad is not bad, works hard, and stays faithful. If it were anyone else, we might not have been as happy." I fully support Mom's contentment, as it brings happiness. And... if it weren't for this, I wouldn't be here talking...
Mom also said that she argued more with Dad when they were younger, but as time passed and they aged, they stopped arguing. That's how long-term marriages develop, right?
I love my outspoken mom, my reserved dad, and how they met, fell in love, and now understand and cherish each other through the years. I will always love you both! And this kind of love!