Yesterday, my colleagues were promoted in a disguised way without a pay raise. However, we still urged them to treat us to dinner, so we successfully had a feast at their expense. After the meal, while listening to three good men competing for who is the best man, I could only think of one word: envy, jealousy, and hatred.
Among our co-workers, there is one who is married. He said that every morning after he wakes up, he goes to the bathroom first, then washes his hands and rinses the rice to start cooking porridge. After that, he starts brushing his teeth. Once he finishes brushing, he puts two eggs into the pot, then washes his face, applies moisturizer, and gets dressed. When everything is done, it's time to leave, and the porridge is also ready. He tells his wife: "Honey, the food is ready. I'm leaving now."
The most impressive thing about him is that when he works late and returns home late, he not only calls his wife in advance but also buys her a gift.
When he has a quarrel with his wife, she secretly calls his relatives behind his back: "Auntie, he hit me." He doesn't argue back. Instead, he goes home and asks his wife, "Did I hit you?" She replies, "No." Even so, he accepts the advice from people around him. He does not make a fuss or lose his dignity because his wife revealed their family issues to others.
As I listened to this, envy, jealousy, and hatred already filled my heart. Good men are all taken, and the more capable a man is, the less temperamental he seems.
Yes, it is indeed true. Isn't it?
Having skills can be considered as having a little achievement or success. Successful men definitely have a good mindset; they are willing to accept others' opinions and can extract the information they need from them. They know how to manage (managing a home and emotions requires management and operation), and they use methods effectively. So many factors contribute to people’s perception of them as being 'without a temper.' In reality, they have already achieved their goals, so why should they still have a temper? Over time, habitual actions make them even less irritable.
At the same time, I remembered something a university teacher once said: Excellence is a habit. They are good at finding causes within themselves, changing themselves, and recognizing their own mistakes; instead of trying to change others, over time, they become increasingly excellent and better.
Today, reading this diary entry was very thought-provoking. The last sentence resonated with me because I have always held myself to such standards—when I have conflicts with others, I am usually the first to calm down because I believe that one hand cannot clap alone, and there should always be some self-reflection. I've been doing this for 21 years, yet I encountered an insurmountable obstacle, feeling lost, hesitant, and struggling. However, I feel no closer to the edge of the foggy forest. Finally, I can only suspect that excessive compliance may lead to the loss of self, and the result might be disastrous—since it is meaningless to waste psychological energy on unworthy individuals, how can someone who is completely unwilling to change for the other person deserve someone else's change for them?
Perhaps excellent people have many indirect ways to achieve their goals, which is perhaps what I should learn—instead of being pessimistic about the world, I should take a positive attitude and turn it into my beautiful country.