Three Cups of Tea in Marriage

by dffr3042 on 2009-12-03 13:27:38

When friends are getting married, they are happy and chirpy, competing for attention and affection. http://www.luoliaowangzhan.info        But once a divorce occurs, sadness is discovered, and everything feels wrong. Life seems to become more routine, and the person finds themselves feeling listless all day long.        A friend's marriage lasted only a few years before it felt increasingly uninteresting. Every day after returning home from work, the conversations with his wife revolved around complaints about farm work and were all related to daily necessities like firewood, rice, oil, and salt. Eventually, the friend couldn't help but wonder: What if I reconsidered my past choices?

Before proposing divorce to his wife, she suggested that they take one last trip together.

They traveled to Yunnan. They bought boat tickets and floated on Lake Erhai. On the boat, they watched Bai ethnic dance performances while tasting the three-course tea served by a golden flower (a term for Bai ethnic young women).

The wife had been to Yunnan before and explained to her husband that these three cups of tea not only represent the Bai people’s engagement customs but also provide a profound reflection on marriage.

As the husband sipped the first cup of tea, it was bitter. His wife said: “This is sweet tea. Despite reaching the point of considering divorce, we once shared the sweetness of love. However, even the sweetest tea will eventually lose its flavor over time, much like our everyday life.”

The second cup was bitter tea, so bitter that he couldn’t open his mouth right away. His wife remarked: “From sweetness to bitterness, this is our marriage. Life is so long, without joy, how can there be a lifelong marriage?”

The third cup was called plain tea, but when tasted, it was just like drinking plain water. However, having just consumed the bitter tea, at that moment, he could detect a hint of sweetness. His wife said: “Marriage in the end becomes like a cup of plain water. No matter how romantic the beginning may have been, it eventually turns into a cup of plain water.”

As the man slowly savored the taste of the three cups of tea, he began to understand his wife’s well-intentioned message. There isn’t much poetic romance in life, and every early marriage is the same. In the end, they all return to ordinariness.

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