"Because of this, I will never forgive my mother!" "I can't forgive myself!" Do these words sound familiar? When we refuse to forgive someone, it is essentially the same as saying: "I don't want to take action to improve the situation; I'd rather live in the past and blame others (or myself) for the outcome." Most people only remember kind words for a few minutes, but harsh words can linger in their minds for years. They are like garbage collectors, carrying around the trash that others threw at them 20 years ago. This is an email forwarded by a friend, revealing the secret to happiness. If this is what you're looking for, please come on in.. -psytopic.com