Our agency news (reported by Xiao Bo翁, interned by Jun石) A fifth grade kid, under the heavy pressure from his mother, actually wanted to "sign a contract" to cut off the relationship with her! Yesterday, Mrs. Wang Li (pseudonym), anxiously said: "What should I do?"
Mrs. Wang said she works in construction and because of frequent overtime, she doesn't have much contact with her son. Her son will be entering sixth grade next semester, but his English scores are not satisfactory, so he needs some tutoring. In fact, as early as when he was in the senior kindergarten class, she sent him to an after-school English training program, but it seems like the child doesn't really like English and gradually became bored with learning it.
This summer vacation, Mrs. Wang planned to personally tutor her son's English at home, but unexpectedly, the child resisted her. Yesterday, her son who refused to study English turned against her, demanding to cancel her guardianship rights and cut off their mother-son relationship, even wanting her to sign a contract. An enraged Mrs. Wang retorted to her son: "You can only leave this house if you take off all the clothes I bought for you, and you need to compensate me for all the money I've spent on you." The son countered: "It's your own choice to invest in me, and now that there's a loss, you have to bear it yourself."
Having no other options, Mrs. Wang posted a thread for help on Wuhan's "Parent 100 Forum": "How should I tutor your English, my child!"
The reporter saw on the forum that Mrs. Wang's post attracted a lot of attention from netizens. Among them, the view of the netizen "Nothing After Work" was the most representative: "When the mother-son relationship has deteriorated to this extent, still focusing on how to tutor the child in English, what is fundamental, and what is trivial? Actually, one should figure out why the child doesn't want to learn English."
【Dialogue with the Mother】
Child Has No Long-Term Goals
Yesterday afternoon, the reporter finally managed to contact Mrs. Wang, and regarding her son's academic issues, she felt quite helpless.
Mrs. Wang said that previously, studying foreign languages in the training class, he always couldn't keep up with the knowledge points in time, started to dislike English. Recently, her son begged her not to go to the training classes anymore, but next year he will enter junior high school, how can he not review? Therefore, she made time to tutor her son.
Regarding her son, Mrs. Wang seemed to have a belly full of grievances: "He is very lazy and unwilling to study. He just lacks the motivation to study, has no long-term goals, no ideals, and thinks studying is mom's responsibility." The reporter reminded her: "Don't impose adult thoughts on the child." Mrs. Wang counter-questioned: "At least, there should be a desired junior high school, right? He has none. When I was a kid, I wanted to attend a key junior high school."
【Reporter's Notes】
Return to the Child a Fairy Tale-like World!
To be honest, after communicating with Mrs. Wang, my first reaction was: This is yet another mother suffering from "parental anxiety syndrome."
As parents, hoping that children can attend a good school and have a bright future later on is not wrong. But parents get one thing wrong: good schools, good jobs, these are all things in the adult world, all measured by worldly eyes, products of adults' evaluation of society. These do not belong to children; their brains should be filled with fairy tales, lives without burdens.
People who care about education have summarized a small rule: Elementary school students should develop good living habits, middle school students should develop good study habits, and consider cultural knowledge after high school. However, in today's society, this rule has been artificially inverted: elementary and middle school students cram cultural knowledge, and then they have to pay the price in university for the lack of life habits, moral beliefs, and physical fitness.
When will we be able to reinvert this inverted rule?
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