Inquiring about income The prospective partner was also scared away by the questions. A gentleman who had been on a blind date with her said: It's unbearable when someone beats around the bush while inquiring. He Senlin believed that although Chen Ying's numerous questions, on the surface, seemed to be expressions of concern and thoughtfulness, they actually concealed ulterior motives. Once the other party realized the real purpose behind these questions, how would the conversation end? Had Chen Ying mentally prepared herself for this "worst-case scenario," or was she unconsciously driven by materialism, even engaging in social comparison? Inquiring about educational background Loving group buying may not necessarily demonstrate one’s economic ability, but it at least shows that he is quite frugal. Chen Ying said that the mode of transportation used by locals when visiting their families could also reveal whether they have "financial power." "I don't think we are suitable for each other." Yesterday, after the failure of the blind date, Chen Ying appeared to be full of confidence. "As soon as he mentioned hiking, I rejected him." Yesterday, Chen Ying sighed: "This kind of hobby doesn't cost much money, anyone can do it." At 6 p.m. last night, the 26-year-old white-collar worker Chen Ying arrived as scheduled at a restaurant in Beicheng Tianjie, Jiangbei District. "A friend introduced me to a man who works at the Guotax Bureau in Shapingba District." With the New Year approaching, facing the "New Year expectations" from her parents, many single white-collar workers were unable to meet them, and Chen Ying was one of them. At the age of 26, over the past two years, she had been on no less than 20 blind dates, yet she still hadn't found her true love. "These questions, even when in a relationship, shouldn't be asked so directly, let alone during a blind date." Chen Ying said that at first, she was reluctant to ask such questions, fearing that the other party might think she was vulgar. In the second half of this year, under pressure from her mother, Chen Ying said that during every blind date, she must clarify the basic information of the other party, "which includes salary and family situation." Secrets revealed were all forced out by her mom. Last night, through Chen Ying, the reporter managed to contact another person who had previously been on a blind date with her, Wang Wei, a 28-year-old company employee. Wang Wei confirmed that in the middle of last month, he was introduced to Chen Ying via mutual friends. "During the blind date, she asked me if the current rent outside was expensive." "He hesitated for a moment, seemingly surprised by my question," recalled Chen Ying yesterday. She could no longer recall his exact response, only remembering that after the blind date, he stopped contacting her. Method 2: Is the current rent expensive? Method 2: Are your parents working or retired? Weibo Recommendation | Today's Hot Topics on Weibo This mainly judges based on his usual work content. "The usual work content can reveal his standing within the organization," said Chen Ying. In September this year, she had a blind date with a civil servant from the tax system. The man said his regular job was collecting taxes and then depositing them into the bank, allowing Chen Ying to understand that "he just does some basic-level work." Method 1: Does your unit provide you with an employee dormitory? Inquiring about property Method: Do your parents like this city? Do they often visit you? Or are they considering settling down here? Inquiring about cars Method 1: Can you drive? Do you like self-driving tours? "Actually autonomous travel represents a more upscale hobby," said Chen Ying. Since graduating from university two years ago, she has been on no fewer than 20 blind dates, summarizing a set of secret phrases for blind dating, "a few questions can uncover the other party's inside story." He Senlin believed that Chen Ying's secret phrases for blind dating reflected the current young generation's pursuit of materialism, viewing romantic relationships and marriage as a form of material exchange. "Wishing to understand the other party within a short period of time is understandable, but the key is that all of Chen Ying's questions aim to probe the other party's income and status position. Would it succeed with such intentions? Even if it succeeded, would the future marriage be happy?" Method: How old are you this year, and how many years have you been working? Chen Ying is an only child from Neijiang City, Sichuan Province, currently working as a cashier in the cash area of a certain bank's Chongqing branch. When talking about her practiced secret phrases for blind dating, she appeared somewhat helpless, "After each blind date, my mother always surrounds me with inquiries." What kind of household registration the other party has, whether they own a house or a car, what their salary is like, similar questions often left her completely confused. Yesterday afternoon, the reporter consulted He Senlin, an expert in sociology and psychology at Chongqing University's School of Continuing Education regarding this matter. Method 2: Do you like group buying? Is it hard to buy train tickets (or plane tickets) when returning home to visit relatives? Chen Ying said that through this question, one could understand the other party's monthly expenses. If they said they liked watching movies or exercising, one could further inquire about the frequency to determine their consumption situation. Chen Ying said that choosing the location for meals and ordering dishes could also show whether the other party was generous. Directly asking if the rent was expensive wouldn't make him feel awkward, Chen Ying said. In the other party's response, one could learn whether they owned a house or were renting. "If he could clearly explain the details of the rent, it's very likely that he is renting a house outside." Chen Ying said. Girls asking this way would appear more considerate and understanding. "It completely wouldn't make people dislike it," Chen Ying said, if it's a local and an only child, generally they would live with their parents. For this question, the other party normally wouldn't refuse to answer. Chen Ying said, regardless of the answer being yes or no, one could follow up with other questions related to housing. Chen Ying said, from the length of service, one could infer his educational background; if he started working before the age of 23, it was very likely that he had a bachelor's degree or below; if he started working after the age of 23, it could possibly be a bachelor's degree or above. Yesterday afternoon, the reporter contacted Chen Ying's mother, confirming Chen Ying's statements. Chen Ying's mother said, "Blind dating is originally for understanding the other party's situation. After blind dating for several days, if she knows nothing, isn't that annoying!" She stated that her daughter spent time on each occasion, yet obtained no information. "I still have to ask the introducer myself, which is very embarrassing." She added that she wasn't someone who despised the poor and loved the rich, but simply wanted assurance for her daughter's future life. On the fifth floor of Beicheng Tianjie, they found a self-service hot pot restaurant where each meal cost 38 yuan, "He paid the bill." Yesterday, Chen Ying recalled to the reporter, initially she was relatively satisfied, then she asked another question, "What are your hobbies?" "Hiking," he replied. "They more or less have places that leave me unsatisfied," last night, after another failed blind date, Chen Ying gloomily said, her mother urged her to extract financial information from the other party during blind dates. Through repeated blind date experiences, she summarized a set of secret phrases for blind dating. "Probably scared off by me," Chen Ying helplessly said, "otherwise, with my good looks, he should have contacted me again." Intern Reporter Liu Ting Share to: Welcome to post comments, I want to comment Wang Wei said: "Actually, there's nothing wrong with the questions themselves, just ask directly. Being too indirect makes it hard to accept." Asking about background Method 2: Isn't it tiring to take the bus to work every day! ■ Chronic Death: Fellow student, the word standard is a very subtle term. When you set standards to measure others, they will certainly have standards to measure you. However, if you stand on the grounds of being young and beautiful, then best wishes for your early success in finding a wealthy husband. ■ I'm ugly and not gentle: Asking about hobbies is a common greeting between lovers, but with ulterior motives, it makes one uncomfortable all over. ■ Emerald Gem Roof: Blind dating should still focus on the other person's character, constantly thinking about material things might affect future marriages. Thus, a single question could fully understand the other person. Asking about household registration Chen Ying said, in previous times, it was generally believed that those constrained by the family planning policy were people with jobs, not farmers. Therefore, having more siblings would suggest rural household registration, whereas urban household registration was often for only children. 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