Interpretation: Lack of property and car is the main reason. According to the sixth national population census data in 2010, among the permanent residents of our city, there were 14.5959 million males and 14.2503 million females, with a total gender ratio (the proportion of males to females, with females as 100) of 102.43.
Recently, I interviewed a large national matrimonial website and conducted a survey in some office buildings in the main urban area, analyzing the current situation of single men in Chongqing. Among unmarried male white-collar workers, those aged over 30 accounted for 30%. Netizen "A Brick That Loves Fish" said: "In the past few years, people asked me to help introduce eligible women, but now there are more single men." In the interviews, many single men sighed, "The era of single men has arrived."
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Reporters Liu Min, Wang Luyao, interns He Qing and Wang Quan
Men over 30 are more sought after
"Do you think men over 30 are more sought after?" In my survey, 66.71% of single men thought they were more sought after, while 33.29% of single men thought "not necessarily." Most single men believed that it was easier to find girlfriends when they were over 30.
Being too introverted can also lead to being left out
1. Men aged between 31-33 can only wait patiently for opportunities, called top students (waiting patiently).
Analysis: Gong Haiyan, CEO of Jiayuan.com, stated that from ancient times to the present, there have been many "bachelor" men who couldn't find wives, while truly unmarriageable women are still an absolute minority. Due to factors such as irregular working hours, closed social circles, frequent business trips, and lack of opportunities to meet the opposite sex, or too many opportunities to meet the opposite sex, single male white-collar workers have a higher chance of being left out.
Mr. Liu, a customer manager at an advertising company who just turned 30 in January, said, "I'm not young anymore, but I can't get married just for the sake of marriage; I need to be responsible to both parties." He said that actually dating is easy, but once it comes to marriage, things become more realistic. He mentioned that many women feel that older men have more responsibility and a sense of duty.
Single men are more easily overlooked than single women
Online and offline
Analysis: Gong Haiyan pointed out that the main reason most single men are left out is that their so-called "hardware conditions" do not meet women's standards.
Analysis: Gong Haiyan stated that some single men are perfectionists in choosing partners, with excessively high personal requirements. Some "single men" are not at the lower end of the hierarchy but rather at the upper end. However, because of their good personal conditions, they tend to set high requirements for their other half, wanting someone who matches them equally. Unfortunately, one cannot have everything; it's not easy to find a woman who possesses both virtue and beauty.
In my survey, 47% of single men thought that they were left out mainly because they were too introverted and honest, not knowing how to interact with the opposite sex. 34.8% of single men thought that they were left out due to the lack of property and car, 11.7% of single men felt that their ordinary looks made them less attractive, and only 6.5% of single men believed that their economic conditions and appearance were quite good, leading to excessive pickiness and thus being left out.
There must be "leftover women" where there are "leftover men," yet why does the topic of "leftover women" stand out so much, while the existence of "leftover men" seems so dim? When I searched the term "leftover man" on Baidu, there were 11.7 million results, whereas searching for "leftover woman" yielded 41.9 million results. The occurrence of "leftover women" was more than three times that of "leftover men." Clearly, people pay more attention to "leftover women" and overlook the "leftover men" group.
Yesterday, Gong Haiyan, CEO of Jiayuan.com, told reporters: "The problem of leftover women overshadows the problem of leftover men, which is indeed the feeling of most people." The obvious reason is that "leftover women" are mostly high-end white-collar workers who attract attention, while "leftover men" are often ignored due to poor personal conditions. She analyzed that many "leftover women" are highly educated girls who are materially and spiritually independent. They often express themselves willingly and prefer to choose carefully. Their actions and words are easily magnified by sensitive media and brought to the public's attention, becoming hot topics. Under the influence of "age crisis," their expressions are more urgent and captivating compared to leftover men. These leftover women inadvertently hold the "right to speak" and attract public attention.
Sense of responsibility
Four levels of "leftover men"
4. After 45 years old, one becomes a super Santa Claus (single elder).
On the internet, the levels of leftover women such as "leftover warriors" and "must-left guests" have been heatedly discussed. Netizens jokingly classify leftover men into four levels.
Business Graphic by Li Na
3. Feeling completely forced into being a leftover man after age 37, honored as graduates (forced to remain).
2. Successful career men aged 34-36 are called doctoral students (not left).
Wang Peng works in credit lending and has been single for two years at the age of 31. "When I was studying, my parents were strict, and I didn't date. After starting work, I was busy, and my ex-girlfriend broke up with me because I was too focused on work and didn't care about her feelings." Yesterday, most of the leftover men over 35 who were interviewed by reporters believed that pressure from society, parents, and colleagues placed them in an unprecedented marital anxiety.
What is the age structure of male bachelors? According to the data of male members of the matrimonial website Jiayuan.com, 25-30-year-olds account for 66.4%, 31-33-year-olds for 14.28%, 34-36-year-olds for 6.14%, and those over 37 for 13.18%.
According to sociological research, there exists a "male-high female-low" gradient principle in mate selection: women generally require men to be superior in various aspects of conditions and abilities; while men focus on preferring women whose various conditions and abilities do not exceed their own. Although this is an overly materialistic standard, lacking these hardware conditions indeed makes it very easy to be "left behind."
As Valentine's Day approaches, netizens' attention to leftover men and women has risen again. Recently, a "2011 China Top 11 Male Bachelor Cities Ranking" has been widely shared on Weibo, with Chongqing male bachelors ranking sixth. Since the list did not publish authoritative data, it has sparked doubts from many netizens, "Are there really that many leftover men in Chongqing?" According to the general view of netizens, men over 30 who are unmarried should be considered leftover men.
I visited several office buildings in our city and surveyed 236 men in the investment, design, credit, energy, advertising, technology, securities, and consulting industries. Among them, 125 were unmarried, accounting for 52.96% of the total surveyed population, with leftover men (over 30 years old) making up 30% of the unmarried population. From Jiayuan.com, I learned that the total number of male members in Chongqing was 890,652, with 297,968 male members over 30, accounting for 33% of the total male membership. The number of female members was 528,951, with single men being 1.68 times the number of single women.
There are quite a few veteran leftover men.