After many years of marriage, they still often cuddle and chat until dawn. At the end of the article, the reporter wanted to send a blessing from a netizen to Xiaoyi, and also to Yanhong who declined the interview. "Since you have agreed to spend Valentine's Day together, success is in sight. The happiness that has been lost has been regained, how to cherish it, you know." In 2006, Xiaoyi and Yanhong had already established themselves in Nanjing and owned their love nest near Maigaoqiao. The reporter saw yesterday that the house was not big and the decoration was very simple, but it was enough to make the two young people who had long recognized each other conceive the idea of getting married. "There was no proposal, I just told her 'let's go get our certificate tomorrow,' and so we went to the Civil Affairs Bureau the next day." That night after getting the certificate, the two went to a restaurant and ordered a few dishes, drank some wine, and then went home and chatted in the blanket until dawn.
And even by the second decade of the new century, the two could still often cuddle and chat all night, "It seems like there's so much to say, those so-called seven-year itches and aesthetic fatigue don't exist between us. If there is really a kind of love that is unforgettable, I think it should be like us."
Once, they relied on and loved each other
Voting in various forums, striving to hold hands with his ex-wife again on Valentine's Day
After living at her parents' house for a few days, Yanhong came back. Life seemed normal, but Xiaoyi told the reporter yesterday that from then on, his wife looked at him with more unfamiliarity in her eyes, "We can never go back to the way we were before." This sentence was said to Xiaoyi a long time later by Yanhong, who was already his ex-wife, "Some mistakes can be made many times, like drinking; but some mistakes, one time is enough."
The footprints of love are left where they have walked together
"I want to win my ex-wife back, please help me..." As Valentine's Day approaches, a post on Xici Hutong has recently attracted a lot of attention. A man named Xiaoyi with the online name "Romantic Element" said that he has been missing the woman who has been with him for 12 years since their divorce more than half a year ago. Coincidentally, a brand is holding a Valentine's Day confession selection event, and he hopes to use the power of netizens to make his voice appear on the electronic screen in Xinjiekou on the evening of Valentine's Day, to sincerely confess to his ex-wife who happens to be passing by... This report by our reporter Zhang Lei.
Xiaoyi said that although Yanhong has never agreed to his "pursuit", their relationship has improved greatly. "A few days ago, we lit a bonfire in the empty space at the entrance of the community and sat on the ground chatting for a long time. Finally, we both cried. I firmly believe that she still has feelings for me."
"I can, I really can." Xiaoyi told the reporter that in fact, not long after the divorce, he quit drinking, "For half a year, I haven't touched alcohol. Actually, I am not a bad-tempered person, we haven't had a serious argument for so many years, it's all because of the alcohol..."
That night, he committed the biggest mistake of his life
Finally, on the evening of National Day, the baby's crying, mother's nagging, customer's return orders, wife's scolding... all these elements drove Xiaoyi crazy when he was already drunk, "I hit her..." Xiaoyi doesn't remember how he hit her, only knowing that when he sobered up, he found himself sitting dumbly on the sofa, his old mother shedding tears beside him, his wife and daughter were gone, the house smelled of alcohol, and the taste of home was gradually fading away.
Going home after the divorce became the biggest torment, for her, he quit drinking
In June 2010, Yanhong gave birth to a lovely daughter, "with big eyes very much like her." Xiaoyi showed the reporter pictures of his daughter yesterday, the main character being the elegant woman Yanhong, the mother and daughter indeed look like they were made from the same mold. "Everything was going smoothly and naturally, the birth of my daughter made me feel that my life was complete." Xiaoyi sighed while caressing the cute face far away in Sihong hometown on the computer screen.
Cold war, quarrels, leaving home, coming home... and repeating like this, "From that night to the divorce, it was exactly 8 months, I couldn't make up for my mistakes, instead, I continued to destroy the marriage with sulking and irritability." Xiaoyi painfully recalled. One day in mid-June last year, just over 10 days before the daughter's first birthday, "She brought back a divorce agreement and calmly asked me to sign it, telling me that once signed, it would be hard to turn back." I asked her if she had thought it through, signing would mean no turning back. She looked at me without saying a word. I got angry, so be it, sign it then..." A few minutes later, Yanhong left with a simple suitcase, leaving behind a sentence, "I don't want anything, I'll leave it all to you and the daughter." A few days later, they exchanged their marriage certificate for a divorce certificate.
The pressure of life made him drown his sorrows in alcohol, one drunken beating changed everything
"Many things only become clear when truly lost, and the cost of losing them is unbearable." Xiaoyi was trying hard to control his tears as he said this.
That year, he was 22, she was 19
He never expected that the turning point of life would come so suddenly. "Being a new father, I have no experience. Working during the day and taking care of my wife and child at night, plus my wife and mother-in-law often bump heads over the child, it's really uncomfortable being in the middle, every day is exhausting..." And that period also happened to coincide with the economic crisis, his business wasn't doing well either, "I always liked a little drink, when mentally frustrated and physically tired, it's easier to get drunk." For this, Yanhong had argued with him many times, thus the smoke of war in the house began to thicken.
"Can love be won back?" After countless viewings of the photos taken over the years with Yanhong on his computer, Xiaoyi asked himself. He almost immediately jumped up and called Yanhong, because of the child, he and his ex-wife have been in contact after the divorce. On the phone, Xiaoyi stammered and asked Yanhong if she could give him another chance? After a long silence, Yanhong said, "Do you know? If you didn't sign the agreement that night but tried to retain me, maybe we wouldn't have come to this today. But now, it's too late." Then she hung up the phone.
"Yanhong, I haven't stopped thinking about you for a day in the six months after the divorce, I can't live without you, the child can't live without a mother, give me another chance, please." This confession, paired with a few photos from when Xiaoyi and Yanhong were dating, was uploaded to the Internet, and then he started voting on various forums, asking netizens to help him surprise his ex-wife on Valentine's Day. "I've already talked to her, on the evening of Valentine's Day, I will take the child to shop in Xinjiekou, she agreed..." The reporter saw yesterday that with the help of netizens, Xiaoyi's confession ranked at the top.
In Xiaoyi's computer, there are still all the photos he and Yanhong took from the beginning of their love until now, the Terracotta Warriors, Famen Temple, Guangdong, Hangzhou... or even just city streets, campus corners, every photo is filled with sweetness and happiness.
"You say, what else could separate us?" Such jokes have appeared more than once in the conversations between Xiaoyi and Yanhong.
An accidental opportunity, Xiaoyi saw online that a brand was holding a Valentine's Day confession selection event, "After uploading the confession, if the click popularity is high, it can appear on the electronic screen in Xinjiekou on the evening of Valentine's Day, this is an opportunity given by heaven."
The evening after the divorce, Xiaoyi returned home, his mother and daughter were in the hometown, and the empty house was left with only him. "Starting uncontrollable regret, regret drinking, regret hitting her, regret arguing with her later, regret signing that agreement..." All night, Xiaoyi said he stared blankly at the divorce certificate, crying like a fool.
Returning home every night after the divorce became the most tormenting and painful thing for Xiaoyi, "The sofa was chosen together with her; the flowers on the balcony were planted by her; the graffiti on the wall was drawn by her to entertain the child; everything in the house reminded me of the beauty we experienced here together..." Xiaoyi soon moved into the guest room, and even dared not enter the master bedroom on weekdays, "When waking up in the morning, I instinctively hugged the person beside me, the feeling of missing is really unbearable."