Always remember, don't let him wait too long at your doorstep because anyone's patience is limited. Don't assume that he loves you so much that he would willingly waste hours waiting for you without complaint.
2. If you don't love him, please tell him as soon as possible. Don't let him waste his youth, feelings, and money on you. Moreover, don't use his pursuit as a capital to boast about. The feeling of being played with is like swallowing a fly. For the sake of maintaining your image, please reject him early.
3. In front of your friends and his friends, don't behave like a she-tiger. Men always care about their face. There's nothing wrong with giving him more respect in public, especially since he is your boyfriend. You can also gain the reputation of being a good wife, achieving two goals at once. Why not do it?
4. Take extra care of him. Men usually have a harder life than women. They may look great on the outside, but they may have many unspoken hardships inside. So when he occasionally comes home from work with a sour face, don't get angry. Use your gentleness to touch your lover. Who doesn't have an unlucky time?
5. Don't promote the so-called "three obediences and four virtues" for modern men, such as "obeying your wife's orders," "waiting for your wife to go shopping," etc. From a woman's perspective, these are unreasonable, let alone for men.
6. When shopping, don't only think about your own enjoyment. Most men actually dislike accompanying women while shopping. Many of them might have never accompanied their mothers, but they endure it because you're his girlfriend. If someone else were in his place, they would have left long ago. So after buying things, go home quickly. If you must shop, find a same-sex friend instead. Shopping with them will be truly enjoyable. I believe no one wants to see their boyfriend's first action upon entering a clothing store is to look for a bench.
7. Don't compare yourself with others. Women sometimes have vanity, but for your future, please don't say things like, "Look who bought what today." Even if the speaker has no intention, the man's heart will definitely feel hurt at that moment. A mild-tempered one might remain silent, while a bad-tempered one might get angry.
8. Don't excessively praise other men in front of your boyfriend unless you want to break up with him. The direct consequence is that he will think you look down on him, which is why you humiliate him openly.
9. Don't tell others the little secrets between the two of you (you know what I mean). Not even your closest friends should know, unless he doesn't know. Otherwise, he will definitely feel uneasy.
10. If you make a mistake, take the initiative to admit it. The idea that in a quarrel, no matter whose fault it is, the one who apologizes must be the man is outdated. Nowadays, men and women are equal. Acknowledging a mistake won't make you gain or lose weight. So if you're wrong, bravely tell him, "Dear, I'm sorry. Can you forgive me?" OK, all conflicts are resolved instantly.
11. Don't constantly check his phone for any bad messages. If it's yours, no one can snatch it away, and if it's not, there's nothing you can do to keep it. So believe in yourself and be a confident girlfriend.
12. Be good to his mother, except for those who are completely unreasonable. Because the time he spends with his mother now is far longer than the time he spends with you, and their bond is definitely deeper than yours. Don't ask questions like, "If both I and your mom fall into the water, who would you save?" Often, the answer will make you sad, or he might just be comforting you. Besides, without her careful guidance, how could there be such an excellent boy? So treat her like your own mother.
13. Don't betray him. Give him true security, allowing him to focus on his career boldly. And always remember: whether in poverty or wealth, health or sickness, you will love each other, rely on each other, and not abandon each other until death.
Love him, take off your mask. To be his lover means to care about him as he cares about you; worry about him as he worries about you; love him as he loves you. Before demanding and criticizing him, ask yourself how well you are doing. Love isn't just about receiving and taking, but about mutual understanding and care equally. Connect your heart with his, not just your bodies.
Please sincerely love him, no matter how excellent, smart, pretty, wealthy, or loved by others you are, you only have one person who loves you foolishly.
Don't shout at him over the phone just because you're upset here;
Don't call him repeatedly when he's busy just to tell him you miss him;
Don't let missing him become the entire content of your daily life;
Don't interact with any other man beyond friendship, even if he can't see;
Don't hang up on his calls, no matter how angry you are. What makes a man angriest is not being able to find his girlfriend;
Don't only demand his love without remembering that his efforts need affirmation and reciprocation;
Don't always drag him along for shopping, making him carry bags and pay, regardless of whether he's willing;
Don't mention his flaws in front of others, even if he doesn't care about them or you meant it as a joke;
Don't contradict him in front of others. Every man has a bit of a macho complex;
Don't use being busy as an excuse to not reply to his texts or answer his calls because he has never done that;
Don't criticize the mistakes of his family members. After all, you chose him, not his family;
Don't have a "ride the donkey and look for another horse" mentality. You can choose to love or not love, but don't deceive or harm;
Don't doubt him, ever.
Please smile at him even if you're in a bad mood. You'll never know how much encouragement your smile gives him;
When he's hurt or fails, find a quiet place to hug him, lend him your shoulder to lean on, and let him wipe his nose and tears with your white sleeve;
Affirm and encourage every bit of progress and effort he makes. He needs you most when he's down;
Remember to bring your wallet every time you go out, occasionally compete to pay, and occasionally treat him to food. Love should be equal;
Remember to order the things he likes when you go to a restaurant;
Remember every important day for him. Even if you can't give gifts on time, at least call or send a text message to let him know you remember;
Occasionally take time to watch him play soccer or basketball under the sun;
Try to learn the sports he loves. You don't have to be good at them, but at least you can understand his interests better and accompany him when he's lonely;
When he's in a bad mood, try to patiently listen to his calls, even if you're busy;
Believe everything he tells you, even if everyone else doesn't;
Learn to be cute while also learning to say "I'm sorry" when you make a mistake;
Don't lie to him. If he really loves you, he can forgive all your mistakes, but not your lies;
On a free afternoon, tidy up his bookshelf and fold his clothes for him;
Remember to bring him medicine and peel apples for him when he's sick;
Always stay graceful and adorable, whether he sees it or not. Because you're his girlfriend, wherever you go, you represent part of his dignity;
For him, always strive to become better;
Love him in the way he likes.
Love is a matter between two people. If he's not worth your love, then let go and give both of you a chance to pursue happiness; if he's worth your love, then please affirm, love, care for, and wait for him, until one day he finally becomes a hero, riding on colorful clouds to marry you.
What is a husband?
A husband is the "bad man" who quietly adds more dishes to your lunchbox because he's afraid you didn't pack enough.
A husband is the "silly man" who happily eats the leftover food you dump into his bowl like garbage.
A husband is the "petty man" who ignores you during the day due to arguments, yet pulls the blanket back over you at night when you kick it off.
A husband is the "stupid man" who persuades you to buy a 700-dollar dress with only 300 dollars left in his wallet, helping you swipe the card while he can't even afford a tie.
A husband is the "cute man" who gleefully agrees to fetch you water or wash your feet, knowing full well he's been tricked into it.
A husband is the "smelly man" who holds your unwashed cold feet tightly in winter, despite the odor.
A husband is the "pitiful man" who eats your overly salty and spicy dishes, blowing his nose and drinking tea, yet still says, "The food my wife cooks is delicious," through tears.
A husband is the "hateful man" who jumps out from a corner to scare you when you're half-asleep in the bathroom on a Saturday morning.
A husband is the "unlucky man" who grabs the wrong item in a rush to avoid being seen by acquaintances while buying you red sugar water and sanitary pads, only to return scolded.
A husband is the "**** man" who accompanies you to eat, shop, and hold your hand tightly while crossing the road.
A husband is the "man" who takes off his coat to shield you from the rain, getting himself soaked.
Woman, remember: a husband is the man who ensures you never lose out.
A husband is the man who makes you look at no one else once you have him.
A husband is the man whom you, even if frugal, don't hesitate to spend money on without regret.
A husband is the man who makes you willingly get up early on a Saturday morning to cook breakfast for him and his family.
A husband is the man who turns the high-and-mighty, detached-from-reality you into a housewife going back and forth between work and home.
A husband is the man who finds washing his week-old black socks, stinking to high heavens, effortless and without complaint.
A husband is the man you stick with through all hardships and humiliations, staying by his side forever no matter what.
A husband is the man who transforms the once wasteful and extravagant you into someone who haggles confidently with vegetable vendors and walks two extra stops to catch a bus.
A husband is the man who makes you wish he was around during every spare moment, counting down the days till he returns from a business trip.
A husband is the man who makes you cry when he catches a cold and makes you happy when he eats an extra bowl of rice.
A husband is the man who makes you leave everything behind to rush with an umbrella when it rains suddenly while you're cooking at home.
Woman, remember: a husband is the man you wouldn't let suffer any loss.
What is a wife?
A wife is the "silly woman" who saves money to buy you a gift she claims is for dieting.
A wife is the "ordinary woman" who gives up the whole forest to stay by your side and grow old with you.
A wife is the "petty woman" who forbids you from looking at, mentioning, or praising other women.
A wife is the "foolish woman" who keeps every sweet message you send her and reads them often with joy.
A wife is the "cute woman" who says she's not hungry when you invite her to dinner, even though she insists on having you treat her.
A wife is the "hypocritical woman" who claims she bought you shoes on a whim after searching the world for them.
A wife is the "pitiful woman" who misses you endlessly every day, staring at her phone with longing eyes.
A wife is the "hateful woman" who calls or texts you saying, "I miss you," while you're playing games or sleeping.
A wife is the "stupid woman" who dares to move forward fearlessly with your support.
A wife is the "dumb woman" who washes your week-old black socks, stinking to high heavens, effortlessly and without complaint.
A wife is the "fierce woman" who argues fiercely and defends you passionately when others speak ill of you.
A wife is the "little woman" who is strong and dignified but acts spoiled and childish in front of you.
Man, remember: a wife is the woman who only allows you to take advantage of her.
A wife is the woman who makes you stop looking at other women once you have her.
A wife is the woman who makes the once frugal you willingly spend money on her without regret.
A wife is the woman who makes you willingly give up sleeping in to cook her breakfast.
A wife is the woman who transforms the once arrogant, male-chauvinistic you into someone who compromises and understands.
A wife is the woman who makes you feel masculine even when washing dishes or laundry.
A wife is the woman who makes you understand responsibility and realize that all your hard work is worth it as long as she's happy.
A wife is the woman who makes you wish she was around during every spare moment, even if you're just silently together.
A wife is the woman who makes you worry when she catches a cold and makes you happy when she eats an extra bowl of rice.
A wife is the woman who makes you want to hold an umbrella to protect her from the rain above her head.
Man, remember: a wife is the woman who only allows you to take advantage of her.
Take good care of your husband.
1. When you fall in love with a man, don't think about whether you should be reserved. Tell him you love him because sometimes men love vanity too. Your confession will boost his confidence to its peak.
2. When you no longer love him, tell him directly. Don't consider whether he will be fragile. A man's self-respect is more important than pain.
3. When you two are already in love, trust him and share your thoughts with him, whether he supports you or not. Every man hopes his woman relies on him.
4. In front of his friends, give him full status. Face is more important to men than anything else. Don't mind being a little woman in public because small women are all pampered by men.
5. When he is playing games, no matter how urgent your matters are, don't turn off his computer directly. It's best to embrace him and whisper softly in his ear. Men are obsessed with games more than you watching a soap opera.
6. Men also have those few days each month, similar to women, where their moods drop inexplicably. At this time, don't ask him what's wrong; just stay by his side and be yourself.
7. When he goes out drinking or playing cards with his friends, don't ask him why he didn't take you along. Men want to be kites; as long as the string is still in your hand, let him fly.
8. Men are lazy and clumsy. Even if they love you, they don't want to go out of their way to please you. What you can do is give him hints at the right time. Sometimes men need a firm wake-up call from women.
9. No matter how strong men appear on the outside, deep down they are still children. When he is acting childishly, don't yell at him; it won't work. The most effective method is to join in his antics. After he calms down, gently tell him that you love him.
10. Men are reluctant to admit their mistakes. When he knows he's wrong, give him a way out. He will know to repay your kindness.
Not every man is a prince riding a white horse, so please don't demand that he be tall and handsome, or blame him for giving you a pair of gloves instead of 99 roses. Babies, know that if he isn't a prince, you are his princess forever, and his love is the crystal slipper that makes you a princess.
Not every man can express love verbally, so please don't doubt him when his answer to "Do you love me?" isn't prompt. Don't let him turn this answer into a habit out of necessity. Babies, you need to learn to appreciate the unspoken commitment. Believe that when he looks at you and smiles, when he gently strokes your hair, when he naturally holds your hand, he loves you.
Not every man is good at arguing, so when misunderstandings arise and he remains silent, please don't push him away and cry your eyes red. Maybe in his view, it's just an irrelevant woman or something he absolutely wouldn't do. He always believes in facts and feels no need to explain too much. Babies, don't easily take his persistence as an acknowledgment of guilt. Haven't you noticed his flustered appearance?
Know that your man isn't Superman or Batman, so when he can't be there for you in your time of need, please don't blame him. The worry he feels when he can't be by your side is already his greatest punishment. Babies, remember that when he later asks with concern, respond gently and tell him it's okay, don't worry.
Face is more important to men than anything else. So, in front of his friends, give him full status. If he neglects you in front of his friends, don't assume it's because he doesn't value you. Perhaps he just wants to show your gentleness. Don't mind being a little woman in public, babies, because that's the privilege of a beloved woman.
Maybe men can't always understand what women are thinking? So, when you intentionally say "no" and he actually leaves, please don't swear to punish him severely. Know that he's as confused as you are right now. If your man can't understand your meaning, then, babies, tell him clearly. He will love more easily, and you can get what you truly want. Why not?
Men need their own lives. They also get addicted to games, want to go out drinking or playing cards with friends. At this time, please don't bombard him with text messages or calls. Also, don't ask why he doesn't take you along. Don't you ladies also have your private spaces? Babies, give each other enough space for fresh air.
Men can be vulnerable too, and they can suddenly feel inexplicably low. So, when his face is full of fatigue and his eyes are full of weariness, don't ask if he still loves you. Know that no one can always please others. Babies, at this moment, don't ask him what's wrong. Just quietly stay by his side.
In general, men don't understand women's hearts, but sometimes, aren't you also often ignoring their feelings? Obligated to spend time with girlfriends but having no right to abandon work. Under the guise of strength, men have to bear all responsibilities on their own shoulders. Life is already tiring enough. When they strive for the future, babies, you shouldn't make them too exhausted.
Take good care of your wife.
1. When you love a girl, always remember to tell her frequently: "I love you." No matter how many times you've said it, no matter how many hundreds of times she asks you, "Do you love me?" When she tells you "I love you," you should sincerely reply, "I love you too," not using other words or thinking it's unnecessary.
2. If you no longer love her, let her go. Don't enjoy her care and tenderness while casually seeking other girls, and then suggest breaking up only after finding someone new, or worse, maintain relationships with multiple women.
3. In front of your friends and her friends, don't always act like a big man ordering her around. Women are willing to take care of you and satisfy your desire for "three obediences and four virtues" because they love and spoil you, but it doesn't mean they want to be treated like servants or subordinates.
4. Keep your promises, no matter how small. Women hope for a strong shoulder to lean on and want to tell you everything, but if you can't even handle small tasks, how can she depend on you? When she talks about things you don't agree with, don't criticize or ignore her; otherwise, how can she trust you with her inner thoughts?
5. Don't always play games or be on the computer when you're together. While you're engrossed, she might already feel neglected, but you're only focused on your screen.
6. Women have menstrual periods, during which they can't control their emotions. Regardless of how irrational, illogical, or moody she gets, you should comfort and tolerate her. Never show impatience or dissatisfaction.
7. Don't longingly talk about wanting multiple wives or admire ancient men's perceived happiness, or fantasize about threesomes. She considers you her only one and expects the same from you. Would she feel safe letting you meet other sisters or friends if you constantly talk about desiring more? Don't excessively praise other women or show more concern for others than for her. Women are sensitive creatures. It's not that she doesn't trust you; she simply values you immensely and hopes you feel the same.
8. Don't stare at other women in front of her or constantly compliment their beauty. Or question why she can't be a certain way. Women hope you love them exactly as they are and want to be the most beautiful, sexy, important, and beloved person in your heart.
9. Despite women's nurturing nature, deep down, they are all children. Don't always expect her to prioritize your feelings or be considerate of you. She also hopes to act childishly and wishes someone would spoil her, love her, care for her, and attend to her