Writing this article is not a big deal, it's just inspired by Wufangzhai Zongzi, and it's mainly written for my husband to read.
Everyone hopes to find a considerate partner, but in fact, there are very few who can truly achieve that. We can only try to get as close as possible. People are mostly unsatisfied and have greedy minds to varying degrees. Therefore, people need to learn to be content. In the cultivation of our daughter, I will teach her to be more inclusive, empathetic, and happy with what she has.
I hope my daughter is healthy and smart, and raising her within that standard is enough. That way, I would be very content. So I hope my husband's family can understand. Don't keep saying that drinking formula doesn't make her full and that she needs to eat rice cereal and have more meals per day. Some principles cannot be compromised, and I hope you can understand. Being a mother is not easy, and being a mother like me is even harder. My husband is not around, so I have to directly deal with his parents-in-law. There are bound to be some bumps along the way. Because I love my husband, I must love everything about him and be inclusive of everything about him. So for his parents, I try to be as inclusive as possible. If the principle is broken, I will object, no negotiation. Because it is not good for my daughter. Babies under one year old should primarily consume milk-based food.
Currently, this is how I plan for my daughter. This is how we divide responsibilities at home, and I hope my husband sees this and explains it to your parents. Sometimes, what I say may not be as effective as when you, as their son, explain it. Regarding my father-in-law, since he works hard, I don't ask him to do much. I just hope he can hold my daughter more often because her father is not at home, and she lacks paternal love. My father-in-law is the only man living at home now, and I hope he can give her more paternal love. Changing diapers, sometimes if he doesn't feel tired, he can help dress her or, of course, if my younger brother-in-law comes back, I also hope he can hold her more often. After all, maternal and paternal love are different. For my mother-in-law, I hope she can feed the baby rice cereal in the morning before work and again in the evening after work. She can also help bathe her and wash her hair. When she has time, she can help wash clothes and change diapers, etc. Anyway, these things can be flexible and adjusted according to specific situations. I hope you all can understand. Of course, I will definitely do more because I am fully responsible for raising my daughter. More often, I need to play with her, feed her milk, and give her fruit juice, vegetable juice, and egg yolk. Don't judge others' ease until you've walked in their shoes.
I hope my husband doesn't think that I talk a good game but don't follow through. If you really think that, then you're too petty. The fact that I can write these things shows that I have the intention. I am moving towards this goal. A person with goals, can you not believe she can do well? Especially when she is your wife, don't you trust her at least this much? Are you still a couple?
Also, I hope my husband can remember this: when someone asks you for help, it's because they trust you. They genuinely can't handle the situation themselves. It's not just because they are lazy or dependent on you, okay?
Finally, I thank heaven for giving me my daughter. I am truly grateful to her. While taking care of her and interacting with others, I have slowly improved, learned many things, become more sensible, and enhanced my logical thinking ability. I have learned to think more deeply. That's why I can say so many insightful things. It's because I live with purpose, absorb good opinions and suggestions from others to enrich myself, and most importantly, judge right from wrong and have my own opinions.
Lastly, I hope everyone who reads this article leaves a comment. Not for any particular reason, I just want to know if you understood what I wrote. Because many things only become clear after experiencing them.