Remember the day we moved into this house. After she had packed up all her stuff, she finally took out a very delicate glass bottle and said to him: "Dear, in three months, every time you make me cry, I will add a drop of water to it, representing my tears. If it is full, I will pack my things and leave this house."
The man didn't think so, a little puzzled: "You women are too neurotic! Don't trust me so much? Then what's there to talk about? I asked you to move in with me to take care of you, not to bully you!"
The woman said: "A good man won't let a cute woman get hurt at all. I will record why I cry, it won't be for no reason."
"Alright then, hug~!"
Two months later, the woman showed the bottle to the man and said: "It's already half full. Within two months, do we need to check what problems we have?" Then she handed a small notebook to the man.
The man didn't open it immediately. There was a hint of surprise on his face, as if he didn't expect the woman to shed so many tears that filled it so quickly. He thought the woman was exaggerating, but it was annoying.
He opened the book and started reading, surprised by how much the woman had written. As the man read, the woman spoke: "Our first argument was on the third day, and it was early in the morning. You were a bit confused when you woke up, and the toothpaste you squeezed somehow flew onto the mirror. It was just cleaned by me. I said, 'You don't even know how to squeeze toothpaste,' and you got angry, and then we argued..."
The man remained silent. The woman continued: "One evening, I asked you to help wash those few pieces of clothes because the water was too cold. You kept playing games and refused to move. Later, we argued, and I was disappointed that you forgot it was my menstrual period and I couldn't touch cold water. It was unfair..."
Another time, the woman added emotionally with her eyes starting to redden: "Once, I was very tired, but you still refused to take a shower and go to bed. You knew I was very sensitive and had a bit of neurasthenia. Even a little sound from typing could make it hard for me to sleep. In a moment of urgency, I called you selfish, and we argued. You said a lot defending yourself, claiming that it wasn't you who was selfish, and then slammed the door and went online all night... I called you, but you didn't answer, and I didn't dare to go find you alone..."
The woman was getting emotional. Her eyes began to redden as she said: "And another time..." The man interrupted her words: "Dear, stop saying these things..."
Silence.
Long silence.
Finally, the woman broke the silence: "Is it really that we're not suitable for each other? If so, we'll end up divorcing even after marriage. Both our personalities are so strong, and neither of us wants to give in."
The atmosphere was a bit awkward.
The events recorded in the diary were all so trivial matters, and the reasons for each argument were so simple. The man looked at the diary, trying to understand the woman's feelings. A real man wouldn't bother about these trifles, thinking everything was fine after making up each time. But when he seriously looked at it, he also began to feel sad. The woman was very careful, recording events and feelings in her diary and summarizing the causes herself. It turned out that the accumulation of the smallest things could be very painful. He could see that the woman gradually changed from disappointment to despair.
He thought, probably because each time they argued, both were looking for evidence that the other didn't love them anymore. He suddenly realized that this was a serious problem! And every time they argued, both were in an unstable mood, having other worries, bringing bad emotions into their lives.
"Dear, don't be sad..." The man finally spoke: "I'll take a leave, let's go on a trip."
They went to the place where they went on their first trip together, recalling so many beautiful memories. They realized they loved each other deeply. At that moment, the woman was especially gentle, and the man was particularly thoughtful.
"Sweetheart, do you still think we would divorce if we get married?" The man asked.
"I don't think it's that we're unsuitable. Like now, we are so happy, everything is so beautiful. But once we return to our real life, why does it change?"
"Dear, aren't we living in reality now?"
"...The woman was stunned."
"Because back then, we focused on negative things and magnified those negative feelings. We liked to look for evidence that the other didn't love us, and both our personalities were stubborn, unwilling to admit defeat, caring too much about saving face."
The woman felt it was indeed true. Originally, both sides just needed a little humility and tolerance. The man's diary.
Taking her back to the first travel spot was really thoughtful. Back then, they hadn't been together long, and to make the other person feel good, they both showed their best sides.
"There's only half a bottle left in half a month. If that's the case, darling, marry me!"
The woman smiled and hugged the man.
Later, they got married. They rarely argued anymore. If the careless man accidentally dropped a cup, the woman wouldn't start yelling right away. Before the woman could speak, the man would already apologize, saying "Sorry, it's all my fault, I'll buy you two cups! Choose whichever you like!" The woman would smile and say, "No need to buy new ones, anyway, we still have cups, and it's not all your fault either. I should have placed the cup better, so you wouldn't knock it over!"
In fact, there's no such thing as suitable or unsuitable; there's only cherishing or not cherishing. Being able to walk and grow together is happiness!
So men should say: "You are my girlfriend, I don't allow you to..."
"I don't allow you to wash with cold water because women inherently belong to the yin nature, and cold water increases yin energy. You must use warm water!"
"I don't allow you to skip meals. People are iron, rice is steel. The body is the capital of revolution. I don't want you to die before me!"
"I don't allow you to stay up late for the same reason as above. The body is the capital of revolution. I don't want you to die before me!"
"I don't allow you to cry because if you cry while I'm here, it proves I'm useless. What am I here for then?!"
"I don't allow you to do heavy work. With me here, why should you be so tired? Just wipe my sweat and bring me water to drink!"
"I don't allow you to sleep later than me. I'm an owl, but I don't want my girlfriend to have panda eyes the next day!"
"I don't allow you to wake up earlier than me. No excuses, just sleep. Sleep well and wake up to eat the breakfast I make for you!"
"I don't allow you to walk alone at night because with me, I will never let you walk alone!"
"I don't allow you to be jealous. Joking aside, I'm so devoted. If I look at another girl in front of you, I'll chop myself off!"
"I don't allow you to drink alcohol. Not that I don't let you drink, but drinking less is okay. Drinking too much harms your health!"
"I don't allow you to swear. No reason, it's just my personal opinion. It affects your image. Do as you please!"
"I don't allow you to peel apples. I'm scared of blood, so I won't let your blood have any chance to flow!"
"I don't allow you to hurt your hands. For a woman, besides the face, the most beautiful part is the hands. You should cherish them!"
"I don't allow you to distrust me. I promise you, every word I say, every promise I make to you, I will keep!"
"I don't allow you to ignore me. You mean so much to me. Without you, I won't be free. Please don't torture me, okay?"
"I don't allow you to argue with me. Let me yield to you, so you can win. Until now, whenever I argue with girls, unless I yield, none of them can win against me!"
"I don't allow you to feel lonely. My love and thoughts will always be with you. With them, you won't feel lonely!"
"I don't allow you to go out in the rain without an umbrella. Although women are made of water, getting wet will cause a cold. I'll feel heartache!"
"I don't allow you to be disobedient. If you ask me why I forcibly carry you to the hospital, I will only answer one sentence: 'Because you are mine!'"
"I don't allow you to scare me. I'm timid, don't scare me with anything. I'll be terrified!"
"I don't allow you to 'escape' from me. I can run 50 meters in 6.6 seconds. A normal girl shouldn't be able to outrun me... Are you kidding me?"
"I don't allow you to hit me. Stop hitting, your hand will hurt. I'm very tough!"
"I don't allow you to shout loudly at me. Save your voice, isn't it hurting? If your throat gets damaged, I'll still love you!"
"I don't allow you to cross the road alone. Drivers nowadays are reckless. I will hold your hand and safely escort you to the other side!"
"I don't allow you to be fragile. You need to be very strong. I'm so naughty, you need to control me!"
"I don't allow you to be the happiest. Because with you, I am already the happiest in the world, so you can only be second!"
"I don't allow you to be silent. Darling, we need communication. Even if it's just my one-sided apology, you should give me some face and say: 'I forgive you!'"
"I don't allow you to care more about style than warmth. Wear more clothes. It's cold outside and you might catch a cold. No matter what you wear, you are the most beautiful in my eyes!"
"I don't allow you to lose weight. My love has nothing to do with your weight. You must believe that no matter what you become, I will always love you!"
"I don't allow you to feel regretful. Little fool, don't doubt whether I love you!"
"I don't allow you to go far without telling me. That will drive me crazy!"
"I don't allow you to hit me. Stop hitting, your hand will hurt. I'm very tough!"
"I don't allow you to shout loudly at me. Aren't you saving your voice? Isn't your throat sore? If it gets damaged, I'll still love you!"
"I don't allow you to cross the street alone. Nowadays, drivers are reckless. I will hold your hand and safely escort you to the other side!"
"I don't allow you to be weak. You need to be very strong. I'm so naughty, you need to control me!"
"I don't allow you to be the happiest. Because with you, I am already the happiest in the world, so you can only be second!"
"I don't allow you to be silent. Darling, we need communication. Even if it's just my one-sided apology, you should give me some face and say: 'I forgive you!'"
"I don't allow you to care more about style than warmth. Wear more clothes. It's cold outside and you might catch a cold. No matter what you wear, you are the most beautiful in my eyes!"
"I don't allow you to lose weight. My love has nothing to do with your weight. You must believe that no matter what you become, I will always love you!"
"I don't allow you to feel regretful. Little fool, don't doubt whether I love you!"
"I don't allow you to go far without telling me. That will drive me crazy!"