A psychologist once wrote that a mature and genuine romance must go through four stages:
Coexistence, Counter-dependence, Independence, and Symbiosis. The time needed for transition between these stages is not fixed and varies from person to person.
The first stage: Coexistence.
This is the passionate love period where you always want to be together regardless of time or place.
The second stage: Counter-dependence.
When the relationship stabilizes, one party wants more time to do what they like, which makes the other feel neglected.
The third stage: Independence.
This is a continuation of the second stage, demanding more independent and self-governing time.
The fourth stage: Symbiosis.
At this point, a new way of getting along is formed, and you have become the closest people.
You support each other while together, creating your shared life.
Being together, you won't hold each other back but grow together instead.
He (she) is like a family member to you.
However, many people can't get past the second or third stage and choose to part ways.
In fact, many issues would be fine if properly communicated, but overthinking and impulsiveness are hard to avoid.
It's not easy to meet the one and only person in this world, so can we please not give up easily?
Have you noticed?
You originally had no similarities, didn't look alike, and had opposite personalities,
But after falling in love and being together,
Day after day, year after year,
You'll be surprised to find that your eyes resemble his (her) eyes.
His (her) smile also resembles your smile.
Your walking pace becomes similar.
Your tone of voice gets increasingly alike.
You both love drinking from the same cup.
Your catchphrases become the same.
You can almost always guess what the other person's next sentence will be.
Originally, we turn into the person we love.
Unconsciously, you made him (her) drop the bad habit of frowning.
This change might even go unnoticed by himself (herself).
Unconsciously, he (she) made you less casual about things.
You barely recognize yourself anymore.
You gradually transform into the ideal person for each other without realizing it,
This change is absolutely not deliberate.
The longer two people spend together, the more similar their demeanor becomes,
One day, you'll be surprised to discover,
How perfectly in sync you two have become.
Perhaps you'll never encounter such a feeling again.
When you deeply love someone, you really do lose a little bit of yourself bit by bit.