Grief is deep love, and hatred is a light love... Fellow travelers in life, you who are careless, admirers of excellence, the persistence made of tears, and the sincere editing, I hope can bring some changes to you...
In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster, but in front of the person you like, you get happy.
In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring, but in front of the person you like, winter is just a beautiful winter.
If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush. But if you look into the eyes of the person you like, you smile.
In front of the person you love, you cannot say everything on your mind. But in front of the person you like, you can.
In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy. But in front of the person you like, you can show your own self.
You cannot look straight into the eyes of the one you love, but you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.
When the one you love is crying, you cry with him. But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.
The feeling of love starts from the eyes, and the feeling of liking starts from ears.
So if you stop liking a person you used to like, all you need to do is cover your ears. But if you try to close your eyes, love turns into a teardrop and remains in your heart forever after.
Fellow travelers in life, you who are careless, admirers of excellence, the persistence made of tears, sincerely compiled, hoping to bring you some changes... Crying while looking at Bai Chen. Here's a classic speech by Yu Minhong (encouraging progress, motivation, and rising up).
Personally, the two sentences I admire most are: "Trust the future, cherish life." These two sentences come from the poet Shi Zhi of the White Flag, whose real name is Guo Daosheng. In the hardest times, he wrote a poem called "Believe in the Future," which is beautifully written. I will quote two stanzas for myself: "When the spider web mercilessly sealed my stove / When the ashes' smoke sighs about the sorrow of poverty / I still stubbornly spread out the disappointed ashes / And write with beautiful snowflakes: Trust the Future // When my purple grapes turn into autumn dew / When my flowers nestle in someone else's bosom / I still stubbornly use the frosty glory vines / To write on the bleak earth: Believe in the Future // I want to use my fingers to point at the waves surging towards the horizon / I want to use my palms to hold the sea that supports the moon / Swinging the warm and beautiful pen of dawn / And write in childish handwriting: Believe in the Future // Friends, firmly believe in the future / Trust the perseverance that never gives up / Trust the youth that overcomes death / Believe in the future, love life." They are also the beliefs that support my life.
I have always thought Fudan University is China's... not only that, I think Fudan is even China's first university, better than Nanjing University. The reason is very simple. Peking University has been deteriorating in recent years (PS: Actually, Fudan students have also deteriorated - ^^), but this Fudan still maintains a relatively strict academic atmosphere. As for Tsinghua, it has changed dramatically in recent years. Originally, there were more male students than female students at Tsinghua, and many leaders emerged; in recent years, statistical data shows more female students than male students, which means the will of male students has been gradually worn away. (Crying loudly ^^) I have quite an affinity with Fudan. My closest female friend from high school first entered Fudan University. Of course, after entering Fudan, she fell for another male student at Fudan, and they lived together in Shanghai. Because they went to Japan, I couldn't see them anymore.
Living is a lifetime, not four years of university... But going abroad does not necessarily mean success. Some of my classmates went abroad to Yale or Harvard, but they all work under me. I haven't been abroad, and my highest degree is a bachelor's degree from Peking University.
It is a disgrace for a college graduate to rely on his parents for support after graduation.
Question: I graduated from the Sinology Experimental Class of Wuhan University. This is a very cold major, and although I am very passionate about this major, the problem I face now is that studying this major makes it hard to find a job.
Answer: Your current problem is that you are interested in Sinology, but you need a skill to support yourself. My suggestion to you is that while you maintain your interest in this major, if you really can't find a job, you need to have another skill that can help you find a job. If you study Sinology and your English level is good, you can become an English teacher, which is currently a relatively well-paid profession that can support your Sinology research. After graduating from university, the first thing is to work. I call it getting a job first, then choosing a career, and finally starting a business. Getting a job first means finding a job as soon as possible. I think it is a disgrace for a college graduate to rely on their parents for support after graduation. Choosing a career means doing something you want to do for life. When your career reaches a certain level, for example, if you become an accountant and decide to open your own accounting firm, it becomes your business. If you do a good job in choosing and building your career, you will never be unemployed.
People who get angry at the slightest provocation are definitely people without quality and tolerance.
Question: Many people choose to continue studying at school because they can't find a job. Do you think this is appropriate?
Answer: This is a form of avoidance. If you really want to go back to school, you should already have found a job first and realize that your professional knowledge and comprehensive abilities are not enough in the workplace, at which point you can continue studying.
After entering society, you must learn to strengthen your psychological endurance. Imagine a pile of flour on the chopping board; if you slap it with your hand, the pile will scatter. This is the psychological endurance of some people today. If you add a little water and knead it, and then slap it, it won't scatter so easily, but it's still just a pile of solid flour. If you keep kneading it, eventually it becomes dough, and no matter how you push it, it won't break. This is what we call making dough. A person's endurance must reach this state to be able to struggle in society. People who get angry at the slightest provocation are definitely people without quality and tolerance.
For you, if you fail to find a job once, you give up and don't look for another one. Can you find a second job? You can't. There was a teacher in the old west who went to the American embassy for a visa. He was refused three times. I told him, do Americans allow you to apply a fourth time? He said yes. I said, if they allow you to apply a fourth time, you should go. But you must have the right mindset: facing failure, you must remain composed. This is the mark of a successful person. Starting from the fourth time, he went with great poise and politeness but was refused again. After being refused, he said, "Thank you sir, see you next time." Finally, on the eighth attempt, he was given a visa. The student asked why he was given the visa. The American visa officer said, "Because I never wanna see you again."
He knew this person was too persistent. The things you persist in pursuing have a much greater chance of success. Persistence is power.
Every student in university should do four things: First, acquire essential knowledge; second, make good friends; third, if possible, experience love; fourth, prepare for future employment. Nowadays, many Chinese university graduates can't find jobs after graduation. I have a suggestion for everyone: No matter what, you must start working first, even if it's just cleaning up. After all, once you start working, you have the foundation to move forward.
A person who falls down ten times and doesn't want to get up again will always be a failure. But if he falls down ten thousand times and gets up ten thousand and one times to keep moving forward, even if he can't stand up, he will crawl forward. That is called success.
The person who can dance the most beautifully despite wearing shackles.
Question: What aspect of undergraduate students is society least satisfied with?
Answer: The thing that bothers me most is when people complain, saying this society is so unfair to them. Other people's fathers are ministers, so they can find any job they want, but I can't; other people's fathers are billionaires, so they can live well without working, but I have nothing...
Your birth is not something you can choose, but the turning points in your life are chosen by you. Life is not a 100-meter race; people run for a lifetime, sixty years, seventy years, eighty years, even a hundred years. So I don't care at all whether you have more money or higher social status than me now. The hundreds of people listed on the Forbes list, I have investigated, and seventy to eighty percent of them come from rural areas and poor families. If you complain about not finding a job, no one cares about you, and you feel this society is dark, cold, and ruthless, then it's not this society. Any person, as long as they treat society and others as friends and regard misfortunes in life as sources of growth, such people will never be happy or successful in their entire lives. Does this society have flaws? Definitely. No society is without flaws. I call all these societal flaws constraints on you, your shackles. Once you enter society, there will be people who don't get along with you. As soon as you want to integrate into a group, there will be various social traditions, customs, laws, human relations, and social structures restricting you, as well as the scheming and plotting between people... Restricting you. And those who can achieve success beyond these restrictions, I call them people who can dance the most beautifully despite wearing shackles.
The thickness of your top determines the height of your future life.
Nowadays, university students read relatively little compared to before. University students today are too pragmatic in their reading. They only read books like "Rich Dad Poor Dad" and want to get rich quickly. There is a saying: "The thickness of your top determines the height of your future life," and this thickness certainly cannot be achieved by reading "Rich Dad Poor Dad." You should read books like Rousseau's "History of Chinese Philosophy" and Zhu Guangqian's "History of Western Aesthetics," and even memorizing Tang poetry and Song lyrics can be beneficial for enhancing the thickness of your life. On the surface, reading these books may seem unrelated to what you will do in the future, but they lay the foundation for who you are, establish the thickness of who you are, and determine how far you can go later in life.
The nine-word mantra for success: Have goals, stay calm, and quietly work.
Answer: What attitude should graduating students adopt towards their first job to achieve success?
Question: When facing your first job, don't think about success but rather focus on how to put all your effort into doing the job well. After you've given it your all and succeeded, it indicates that you're suitable for this task. If you've given it your all and still failed, it's normal because you lack work experience, or perhaps this job isn't suitable for you. Focus on the process, not the outcome, which is the most important mindset when doing your first job.
Lu Guanqiu, a famous Chinese entrepreneur from the Wanxiang Group, is a purely peasant-born entrepreneur. Among the entrepreneurs of his generation, he is almost the only one who has operated a company for three or four decades. Someone asked him why he was so successful. He replied with nine words: Have goals, stay calm, and quietly work. These nine words fully encapsulate the mindset and method of achieving success in doing things. After having goals, you will know that "advancing" is the happiness of realizing your goal, and "retreating" is the pain of losing. The most significant sign after having a goal is the firm belief to achieve it, which externalizes it as part of your life. So when I find someone shouting loudly about wanting to accomplish something, I can almost immediately determine that this person will not succeed. Among the "stay calm" includes three "haves": confidence, passion, and patience. The "quietly work" means not being impetuous, not being overly excited, and not publicizing everywhere, because publicizing and being overly excited makes it difficult to accomplish things.
We, the current generation of college students, mostly come from single-child families. When facing the test of not finding a job, our psychology can suffer a lot of loss. I want to tell you a few key points: First, don't let others easily define you. Second, losing something means gaining something else. I often say that a career can teach you the hardships of life, and love can teach you the value of emotions!
The philosophy of chasing a girl in life
During university, did I ever fancy a girl I liked? Yes, I did, but I never pursued any girl during university. Why? I was afraid. Every time I thought about pursuing a girl, I would think about myself. Look at me—so ugly, from a rural family, with mediocre grades, and poor Mandarin pronunciation. If I pursued her, I would surely be rejected, and then I would lose face. So in university, I could only pine silently, and eventually, I lost all opportunities. However, I realized then that if you tell any girl you love her, even if you're a toad, she will still be happy. You should know that having one more person love her is better than having one less, regardless of whether she loves you back—that's another story. Even if you pursue her ten times and she still doesn't accept you, it's fine. Let me ask you a question: Before you pursued her, did she belong to you? No, she didn't. After pursuing her, if she ultimately rejects you, did you lose anything? No, you didn't. But what if she agrees? Frankly speaking, your gains are even greater. First, facing the object of your desire, you learned to put aside your pride and dare to pursue. Second, after being rejected, you can still bravely pursue, showing determination. Third, when you realize she will never fall in love with you, you give up and gain more—the courage to let go.
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Recently, I watched the video of Yu Minhong's speech at New Oriental, and I felt it was pretty good. Haha! If you have time, I recommend you check it out.
Now, I'd like to share Yu Minhong's speech manuscript with you:
There are two ways people live their lives:
The first way is to live like grass.
No matter how you survive, every year you grow,
But you are still just grass. You absorb rain and sunlight, but you don't grow tall.
People can step on you, but they won't feel your pain.
They won't pity you because they don't even see you.
Therefore, each of us should strive to grow like a tree.
Even if we are nothing now,
As long as we have the seed of a tree,
Even if we are stepped on and buried in the soil, we can still absorb nutrients from the soil and grow.
When we grow into towering trees,
People from afar can see us.
When they approach us, we can offer them a patch of green.
Living is a beautiful landscape, dying is still useful timber.
Living or dying, we are useful.
This is the standard for each of us to be a person and the measure of growth!!
Each river has its unique life trajectory,
But every river has its dream,
That is, to flow towards the sea.
Sometimes in our lives, we are like sand,
You might be like sand, slowly settling down.
Once you settle, you might no longer need to strive for progress, but you will never see the sunlight again.
So, no matter what your current life is like,
You must have the spirit of water, constantly accumulating strength and breaking through obstacles.
When you realize it's not the right time, accumulate your strength.
When the opportunity comes, you can rush into the sea and achieve your life's potential.
Specialized observation, extensive accumulation, and concentrated release!! Accumulating strength, seizing the opportunity, and acting quietly!!
"I want to say first that we all hope for success, of course, success has many definitions. What is success? Everyone has different definitions, but if we consider success to be a good thing, I want to emphasize that success has absolutely nothing to do with your appearance. Just look at Jack Ma, and everyone will clearly understand.
Secondly, success has nothing to do with your educational background. Both Jack Ma and I took the college entrance exam three times before we passed. Now we both have bachelor's degrees. In this regard, I am a bit prouder than Jack Ma. He attended Hangzhou Normal University after trying three times, while I got into Peking University after three attempts. But everyone knows this actually doesn't matter. Looking at the stage today, Jack Ma surpasses me in assets, social reputation, and the influential figures he meets. If these are considered measures of success, he has far more than I do. His wealth is greater than mine, and his fame in China is bigger than mine. Therefore, you can see that success is a continuous process of moving forward, and it has nothing to do with your current situation. So, I have a saying: Success is just about having a little ambition, wanting to live better tomorrow than today, and better the day after tomorrow than today. Add this ambition to patience, and you can achieve more success. Therefore, I often tell students a sentence: If you currently feel unsuccessful or lack a career, it's okay, but as long as you stick to the idea of being better today than yesterday, if five years isn't enough, then ten years, and if ten years isn't enough, then twenty years. When I was in school, I was the same as Jack Ma, never ranking in the top ten of my class. He was slightly better than me, but I had this idea at the time: I would use the length of my time to compensate for the depth of my intelligence. For the same task, some of my classmates, including those who entered Peking University, were very smart. I noticed that they could complete tasks that might take me a month in just a week. So I thought, when I graduated from Peking University, I was still ranked fifth from the bottom in my class. At that time, I had this idea: If you can do it in five years, I'll do it in ten; if you can do it in ten years, I'll do it in twenty; if you can do it in twenty years, I'll do it in forty. Actually, more than that, I will maintain a happy mood and good health.
Friends, when you reach eighty years old, one by one you will pass away, leaving me as the last one standing, sending you off one by one. Students, this is also success, understand?"
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4. If I succeed at fifty, all the media around the world will report "How New Oriental was destroyed by Yu Minhong." At that time, I would still come here to give speeches, with the title changed to: How I ruined New Oriental, and continue to tell everyone...
5. I define success as: You fall down 10,000 times, but the 10,001st time, you still dare to get up.
6. I think that in university, especially in universities like Fudan, finishing an undergraduate degree is absolutely sufficient, and relying on an undergraduate degree for life is enough... The rest depends on your learning ability and creativity.
7. In a sense, life is your own choice... Your eyes must always look beyond the horizon; every day to a lifetime is chosen by yourself... You can make a day meaningless, or you can create some days in life that you will never forget, and the more such days, the brighter and more splendid your life will be.
8. During my time at Nanjing University, because of my poor grades, I was quite depressed, which resulted in none of the girls in my class looking at me. Generally, girls in university have narrower vision, favoring