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1. Don't pursue a relationship because of loneliness. Time is a devil. Over the long term, if you're a sentimental person, you may develop feelings for someone even if you don't love them initially. What will you do then?

2. Regardless of age or how much family and friends pressure you, never take marriage lightly. Marriage isn't like playing cards where you can reshuffle without paying a heavy price.

3. In matters of the heart, there's rarely a clear right or wrong. If he/she wants to leave you, it's because there's something about you that doesn't satisfy them. Reflect on the good times you've had together. Of course, there are despicable deceivers who charm others just to sleep with them, but they are in the minority.

4. Don't sleep with people casually. Otherwise, when you meet your true love who happens to be a principled man, you'll regret your past actions.

5. Before asking if someone is a virgin, consider if you yourself are. If you are, then you have the right to ask. If not, what gives you the right?

6. Don't give up on pursuing someone because you think you're not as attractive as them. Appearance only makes a first impression. The real factor determining compatibility is character. I've seen many cases of handsome men with plain women and beautiful women with ugly men.

7. It's fine to date someone with different living habits, but be cautious about marrying them. Consider whether you can tolerate these differences over the long term.

8. High divorce rates reflect two things: on the positive side, people's views are becoming more humane and less bound by feudal ideas; on the negative side, some people take marriage too lightly. Have you thought carefully before getting married?

9. A woman who only reads books is like a dictionary—people only refer to it when needed. A woman who only dresses up is like a vase—after a while, it becomes ordinary. Dressing well is a necessary condition for being a good woman, but not sufficient. You also need to read more books, and you'll find life becomes more beautiful.

10. Marrying impulsively was already a mistake, so don't divorce impulsively either. Try making it work first; if it really doesn't, then divorce later.

11. We often hear about "manly" and "feminine." Do you know what they mean? Manly means being outgoing and brave. Feminine means being considerate and gentle.

12. What is charm? Charm isn't beauty. Beautiful women aren't necessarily attractive, and elegant women might still attract people. So don't worry if you're not beautiful.

13. First love is unforgettable and feels wonderful. Why? Not because he/she was beautiful or handsome, nor because unattainable things are always better, but because when we first fall in love, our hearts are pure, selfless, and focused solely on loving the other person. Later relationships aren't as pure. Purity is the most precious thing in this world, and it's what we should strive for.

14. Most first loves fail because people usually don't understand love well enough at that stage.

15. Men become bad once they have money, yes, many do. But even if a man turns bad after getting rich, he wouldn't be much better even if he were poor.

16. Is eternal love possible? Yes, it is. Why don't most people believe in it? Because they haven't found the one most suitable for them in life—the one destined for them. Why can't they find them? In the vast sea of humanity, life is fleeting. Finding the one most suitable for you is no easy task. Perhaps you won't find your destined partner until you're 40. Can you wait that long? If you can't find them in your 20s and end up getting married, and then find them in your 30s or 40s but have to give up, that's the tragedy of life.

17. Being in love with an intelligent person is joyful because they're interesting and good conversationalists, but it also carries risks because such people tend to change their minds easily. Being with an honest person is reassuring, but life with them can be very dull.

18. Some people always complain about not finding good partners. Once or twice is okay, but if it keeps happening, there's a problem. First, check if there's something wrong with yourself. If not, then review your judgment. Why do you always encounter bad people?

19. People say that once a man changes his mind, nine oxen can't pull him back. But if a woman changes her mind, can nine oxen pull her back? Men and women differ only physiologically; psychologically, they are mostly the same.

20. If you truly love someone, you'll willingly change for them. If someone acts selfishly around you and disregards your dislikes, they don't love you. If you're not caring enough or they're not caring enough, then you don't love each other. Don't assume you're naturally careless or that they are. When you meet your true love, even cowards become brave. Similarly, carefree people become meticulous.

21. Mutual attraction without expressing it is the highest form of love. At that moment, both parties are fully enjoying subtle glances, passionate eye contact, and thrilling finger touches. Once expressed, the excitement fades because everything becomes permissible and expected. Over time, it becomes routine.

22. "A radish for every hole" describes marriage, but in terms of love, it doesn't hold true. Excellent people, regardless of gender, can have multiple potential partners. That's why stories of joy and sorrow play out daily in this world.

23. Two types of women are adorable. One type is maternal—very caring and attentive, making men feel deeply loved. The other type is sisterly—shy and dependent, bringing out a man's protective instincts, like dealing with mice or carrying heavy objects. There's another type of woman who neither knows how to care for others nor submits to men, which frustrates men the most.

24. Having an affair isn't exclusive to bad men; good men do it too. So when you encounter such a man, don't dismiss him outright. Give him a chance to reform. Decades of shared history aren't easy to discard. Sometimes, occasional infidelity shouldn't be taken too seriously.

25. It's often said that behind every successful man is a quiet, supportive woman. Then, behind every unsuccessful man, is there often a noisy, trouble-making woman?

26. What is romance? Is it sending flowers or walking in the rain? If two people truly love each other, anything they do together can be romantic. Otherwise, even if they go to the moon, it won't feel romantic.

27. Learn to appreciate each other instead of imposing your own idea of care onto the other person.

28. There's no problem with two immature people being together or two mature people being together. But problems arise when a mature person is with an immature one.

29. Some women expect to be pampered during courtship and after marriage, forgetting their responsibilities as wives. Such women don't understand love.

30. Mature people don't dwell on the past, wise ones don't dwell on the present, and cheerful ones don't dwell on the future.