Learn to be silent. Sometimes, you are misunderstood by others, and you don't want to argue, so you choose to remain silent. Not everyone needs to understand you, so you think there is no need to shout to the whole world. But sometimes, you are misunderstood by the person you love most. You are so sad that you don't want to argue, and you can only choose silence. The whole world may not understand you, but he should. If he cannot understand you, what else can you say? There are often moments in life when even Schubert has nothing to say. After all, not all rights and wrongs can be listed clearly, or there may be no real right or wrong at all. So, if you don't want to talk, don't talk. When talking more is useless, perhaps silence is the best explanation.
At least stay calm. When you fall into the bottom of life, all the people around you tell you: to be strong, and to be happy. Strength is absolutely necessary, but happiness? In this situation, it's probably too difficult for you. After all, who can still feel happy when they're battered and bruised? But at least you can stay calm. Calmly look at this matter, calmly deal with other things that need to be handled. Calmness, without happiness, also without unhappiness.
Learn to bow down. This will be my unexpected harvest. Have disagreements with others, even causing verbal conflicts, so you are gloomy because you think it's all others' ill intentions. Stop dwelling on it, go home and mop the floor instead. Grab a cloth, bend down, kneel on both knees, and thoroughly clean every corner of the floor in front of you. Then rethink every word you said during that conflict. Now, have you found that you were also wrong in some ways? Aren't you gradually becoming more peaceful? Sometimes you must learn to bow down, because this action can make you humble. While working hard physically, you also polish your own mood. Moreover, you also end up with a spotless floor. That's your second gain.
Don't think about "if only". You say that life is a long road with countless forks, always making choices. If it's just choosing between fried noodles or fried rice, the impact seems small, but choosing what major to study, what job to do, whether to get married or not, whether to have children or not, each choice has a profound impact, and different choices will definitely create completely different lives. You also say, the unbearable part of life lies in the fact that there is no chance to start over. If only... then now wouldn't be like this... These murmurs full of regret should not be repeated too much. Actually, there is no absolute good or bad in each choice at the fork. As long as you see life as your unique creation, you won't keep looking back and regretting if you had made a different choice.
Work hard, regardless of success or failure, at least it was once beautiful. Walking through the forest, you see a vine clinging to a tree trunk, softness and firmness intertwined. You are moved by this scene of quiet beauty. Let happiness and belonging stay here. You think, Nike Air Jordan shoes. What storms might come in the future? Maybe the vine will break, the tree will fall, maybe the sky will become desolate, the earth will age. You think again. Then, let time stop at this moment. Stopping is eternal. If there is such a moment of tranquility in eternity, the various calamities that might be encountered in the future would have already received comfort and recompense.
Stay simple. Because of excessive thinking, you often complicate your life. Clearly living in the present, you are always dwelling on the past, Air Jordan 5, and worrying about the future; insisting on carrying the past, future, and present together, your life can only be a mess. Simplicity is a state of grace. Simply feel the changes in the weather with your skin, simply taste the fresh grass smell after the rain with your nose, simply take in the distant and near scenery with your eyes as if it were a painting. Simply live in the present. And the present actually doesn't involve right or wrong, true or false. Since there is no right or wrong, there is no need to think; no truth or falsehood, there is no need to dwell on and worry. Without right or wrong, isn't it like dreaming? Yes, just simply treat your life as a dream to follow.
Occasionally be "vulgar"... After eating too much healthy food, occasionally you also want to nibble on duck tongues and salted chicken. After watching too many masterpieces, occasionally you also want to glance at soap operas filled with endless slaps and tears. After listening to too much classical music, occasionally you also want to sing popular songs about loving someone for a hundred years and hating them for ten thousand years. You know that healthy food is meaningful for digestive health, masterpieces are meaningful for cultivating temperament, classical music is meaningful for elevating the soul, but occasionally you actually don't want to live so purposefully all the time. Life doesn't need to bind oneself so tightly. Occasionally indulging in small pleasures is moral. Being full of spiritual energy may approach adulthood, but occasional vulgarity makes one more approachable. Control your emotions, don't waste it~
Today's you, is an unhappy you, because someone hurt you with words. You don't like arguing, so you leave; but you just left that place, without leaving the situation where you were hurt by that person, so you get angrier the more you think about it. The angrier you get, the less energy you have to deal with other things, many events that require more attention and thought are neglected and ignored in your overwhelming anxiety and confusion. Because you are solely focused on being angry. Focusing on emotions is a waste of yourself, and it's a very bad waste. After all, anger also takes energy, and anger certainly harms vital energy. So, smart as you are, don't let emotions control you. When you're about to get angry, it's better to gently remind yourself: "Don't waste it."
Seize the best opportunity, never miss it. You once bought a piece of clothing you really liked but didn't dare to wear, solemnly enshrining it in your wardrobe; after a long time, when you saw it again, you found it was out of fashion. So, you missed it. You also once bought a beautiful cake but didn't dare to eat it, solemnly enshrining it in the refrigerator; after a long time, when you saw it again, you found it had expired. So, you missed it too. Clothes not worn at their favorite time, cakes not tasted at their best flavor, just like things not done when you most wanted to do them, are regrets. Life also has an expiration date, things you want to do should be done early. If you just solemnly enshrine your wishes in your heart without ever doing them, then the only result will be missing them, just like the outdated clothes, just like the expired cake.
Occasional deviation from the track. Once you took a train planning to go to place A, but halfway through, you suddenly decided to get off at place B. Perhaps the charming name of the place attracted you, perhaps the accidental glimpse of the landscape touched you, in short, you changed your originally planned itinerary, and experienced an unexpected trip full of surprises. Place A was your original goal, but place B gave you a little adventure. Looking back, you say, that was an unforgettable experience of going off track. Many times in life are like this. Single-mindedly heading towards the only goal is just fulfilling the original plan; leaving the predetermined track gives you the opportunity to discover other landscapes.
Quietly, quietly return to peace.. There was a period of time when you were feeling low, even too lazy to pull open the curtain and look at the sunlight outside the window. Therefore, you naturally forgot to check the marguerite on the windowsill that needed water every day. It's unclear how long this went on, until one day, you got through your low mood, and also remembered your marguerite. My goodness, poor flower, is she still alive? Trembling, you pulled open the curtain, and saw her swaying in the wind, smiling beautifully. It turns out that in the past days, although you forgot to water her, heaven didn't forget to nourish her with rain. Many things quietly happen outside your sight, and quietly arrange themselves well. Heaven creates all things, heaven nurtures all things, everything is actually unnecessary to worry about... All you need to do is to be the best version of yourself, leaving no regrets... That's enough.