I have been dating my girlfriend for almost seven years, and our relationship is great. We both look forward to getting married, but recently during a physical examination, I found out that I have a hemangioma tumor. What should I do? My girlfriend and I started dating in high school and continued through our graduation from college one year ago, making it six and a half years together, almost seven. Our feelings for each other are strong and deep. A few times we've talked about breaking up because of the distance between our jobs, but we couldn't go through with it due to too much attachment. I really like her, and she loves me deeply as well. We often daydream about how we will get married, buy a house, and divide household chores in the future. Just talking about it fills us with excitement. However, during a recent teacher's health check-up, an ultrasound revealed that there are two small growths on my liver's blood vessels. They are currently less than one centimeter in size, and I was diagnosed with hepatic hemangioma. This news has made my dreams and fantasies seem blurred. We had planned to marry once we saved enough money in a couple of years, but now this situation makes our marriage feel so distant. Although my condition is currently benign, it's hard to say what could happen over time. I can't guarantee that I will be able to make her happy or take care of her. Now I feel that if we continue being together, our situation might become very dire. If the condition worsens, there will be substantial surgery costs involved. Even worse, if my life ends prematurely, it would be a disaster for her. After looking it up online, I found that this condition is relatively stable as long as there are no changes, and even if there are changes, surgery is an option. But even if surgery is possible, given my financial situation, paying for the surgery would push back our plans for marriage. She is 24 years old now. Saving money for three to five years, then spending that money on surgery, would mean another three to five years. By then, she would be over 30 years old, and her beautiful youth would have passed by waiting for me. Faced with these issues, I am confused and unsure of what to do. Since finding out on Monday, I haven't told her yet. What should I do? Should we continue being together?
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